Would you ever want a 24/7 sub/dom relationship?

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Would you ever want a 24/7 sub/dom relationship?

Zandrock Zandrock
Yes? No? Why?
08/15/2012
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solitudinarian solitudinarian
Nope. I'm not even into scene D/s. I like SM without power exchange.
08/15/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Considering I'm in one, yes.
08/15/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
No, I just don't have the personality for total submission.
08/15/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
Never. I'm only a little submissive in the bedroom, dominant elsewhere
08/15/2012
Beck Beck
I am working on having one. Though, it seems like I am the Dom, but that isn't what I want.
08/15/2012
Ansley Ansley
No. I prefer that he makes the important decisions but I still have to have input and I think he respects me way too much to put me in that situation. He always tells me he needs me around to give him grief so to be totally submissive and never speak up would probably spell disaster for this relationship.
08/15/2012
itismedi itismedi
I'm submissive in the bedroom and pretty submissive outside too, but I also can be loud and dominant when it comes to certain things...like I pay the bills and harp on everyone about recycing, water use, high electric bills, etc... I am not sure I could be submissive 24/7 and I am not sure my husband would want me to be. It would be fun to play for a day though.
08/15/2012
k3 k3
Ours is not 24/7, but it is more than just play or occasional, it is still part of our lifestyle outside the bedroom as well.
08/19/2012
snarknemesis snarknemesis
I think for shorter periods of time I would definitely be interested. I'm not so sure about a very extended period of time though.
08/19/2012
inkky inkky
I Am In A 24/7 Master/Pet Relationship, And I Love Every Second.
08/30/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
Since I'm currently in one, yes.
08/30/2012
SMichelle SMichelle
Yes, absolutely.
08/31/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
No, outside of the bedroom, I'm not submissive, though I'm not dominant, either. I don't lead or follow so much as I follow the beat of my own drum. In the bedroom though...oh, how I love for him to take the lead...
09/02/2012
Roz W Roz W
No. I'm wary of calling myself "bedroom only" because that doesn't sum up everything I like, but I know I'm not a "lifestyle" BDSMer.
09/02/2012
Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Ansley
No. I prefer that he makes the important decisions but I still have to have input and I think he respects me way too much to put me in that situation. He always tells me he needs me around to give him grief so to be totally submissive and never speak ...
I couldn't be truly submissive either. In some aspects I am, but I think that it's important to be on relatively equal ground even in that type of relationship. There's a different level of intimacy involved in that type of relationship. You can engage in a more BDSM relationship emotionally without necessarily using contracts, controlling every aspect of a person/person's life, or even inflicting actual punishments. For us the punishments are more on an emotional level, not actually a "let me punish you" but essentially a you're beating yourself up over not behaving as requested type of thing, where as the rewards are more on a sexual level. However understanding that you obeyed well can lead to emotional rewards of it's own.

In most relationships (non-sexual ones) I am very domineering, however in sexual/romantic relationships I prefer to let him dominate. I am not truly submissive, but somewhere between a sub and a switch maybe? It's hard to define what my title should be and we don't use one for me. He is my Dom, I let him control certain aspects of our relationship and sexual interactions, but even then I know I can still say "hey I need this" or "please lets avoid this tonight" and he will be fine with it. Nothing he does would be or seem to be abusive, even to those with no knowledge of a BDSM relationship. The psychology of a BDSM relationship is much different than a normal relationship, and emotionally the aspects are all there for us, he does have more control than most boyfriends/husbands would be granted, I can not let myself come until he says to, and there are rewards for things like obeying very well. There's a lot more to it than what I've included, and it's much deeper than I currently have time to explain/put into words, however if you wish you can PM me with questions or post them here.
04/30/2015
Vnessa Vnessa
I'm not sure I could be a 24/7 sub. There are times I get irritated with being told what to do. I have a feeling, I would be 'in trouble' a lot! I'm a little feisty & challenging. However, the second we step into play time, I am completely willing to do whatever he says--and loving it.

I would love to see inside the life of a 24/7 Maybe I would like it. Who knows, really, until you try.
05/01/2015
Sir Sir
Considering I am in one, I suppose yes.

My girl lives in my home and serves me in a number of ways.
05/01/2015
unoriginalgirlyid unoriginalgirlyid
Personally, I don't think I could but only because I am polyamorous and all of my partners are not in the lifestyle. If they all were then I think it would be easier to say yes to that question.
06/05/2015
Infidel Infidel
Personally a full Dom/Sub lifestyle would be too much for me. And most likely too much for my partner as well.
Haha, I don't like taking orders either, and I'm not good on humiliation or being shamed. It would be stressful for the two of us.
09/01/2015
emiliaa emiliaa
I have one that's pretty close to 24/7, and I love it. It's mostly in the bedroom, but I do force him to do his homework.

Here's the thing though, we're both switches, so we aren't exclusive in our roles. That's probably my preference.
12/05/2015
Total posts: 21
Unique posters: 21