How exactly do I perform pegging?

animepanda89 animepanda89
My partner really wants to try it and I have no idea of how to do it.
06/26/2012
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carenautilus carenautilus
Well, first, go slow!

If you partner is new to anal, don't start off with pegging. Get yourself some gloves (either latex or nitrile), first. Gloves spare him your nails, and you his germs. Also is makes lube last longer, and clean up easier. I suggest these. Remember to get the right size! Get yourself some lube, too! My personal favorite is the Good Vibes house brand, because it's nice and thick, and is super body-safe. If you want to stick with EF, may I suggest Sliquid Organics Gel? It's apparently a bit runnier, but it's still a very good lube.

Start by just pressing your lubed up finger against his ass. When he's relaxed, slowly, slowly start inserting it. Use way more lube than you think you need to. Slowly build up the number of fingers he can take, and how far he can take them. This make take several sessions. When he's ready for pegging, pick a smallish strap on dildo (and a good harness), and prepare him with extra diligence and lube. When you enter him, don't thrust at first, let him get used to you. When he's ready, start thrusting slowly, speeding up when he asks you too.

I would suggest you pick a silicone dildo, because it's a non-porous, very body-safe material, but it isn't hard, like glass or metal. Here are some nice options: Toy Five small, Spur, and my favorite (though unfortunately currently out of stock) Boy 1.

Finding a harness to fit can be a pain, but we've had great luck with the bare as you dare harness. If you want something a bit more sturdy, and with pockets for bullet vibes, you can spring for a Joque harness (regular] or large.

Good luck!


(edited to fix typos)
06/26/2012
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Sounds like your question may be one of technique. If so, I can see why. Hip thrusting isn't something women do often - and positioning of the guy can also be a challenge.

I have an anal positions book from Tristan Taormino link- but if you're in a hurry, just Google some pegging porn and watch some of the free clips out there - you can see a wide range of possibilities and choose the one that looks right to you.

Be aware - start with something much smaller than you see in porn. Whether they are amateurs or pros - the porn genre leans towards toy too large for beginners.

Good luck and enjoy the journey!
06/26/2012
carenautilus carenautilus
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Sounds like your question may be one of technique. If so, I can see why. Hip thrusting isn't something women do often - and positioning of the guy can also be a challenge.

I have an anal positions book from Tristan Taormino link- but ... More
Good point. As someone who often takes the giving role in sex, I sometime forget it isn't something you just know.

The best position for beginners (for anal, anyway), is him on his belly, with a pillow under his hips. It can be a bit tricky to get your cock inside him, but once you do it's very easy to lay yourself on top of him, supporting some of your weight on you hands or arms, and thrust slowly into him.

If your stamina is low at first, don't worry, you just need to build up muscle. Practice, practice, practice.
06/26/2012
ScottA ScottA
Once you get inserted and everyone's warmed up it can be fun to roll over to a spooning/side-to-side position so you can masturbate him.

For insertion you don't want to have anyone touching his penis - many people tend to tense up their anus with genital stimulation.

Do some practice jack-off sessions to learn how to thrust with your hips.

Note - it will probably feel better for him if you use long strokes and set up your equipment so the dildo presses against his prostate with each thrust.
06/26/2012
Sangsara Sangsara
wow this is going to help me so much thankyou. is the fun factory share- the small one any good? i mean the dildo is only like 3 inches long
07/03/2012
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Sangsara
wow this is going to help me so much thankyou. is the fun factory share- the small one any good? i mean the dildo is only like 3 inches long
No. It's too small and will pop out during thrusting.

Get a dildo that's over 5" insertable. Work with it by hand to get enough in, and/or use a mark to show "maximum insertion" for your partner so you don't get too much in. Remember that you're loosing an inch to an inch and a half of length between you, so a five-inch insertable dildo will only go in about 3.5 to 4" in most positions.
07/05/2012
HB042 HB042
Thanks for posting this question, animepanda89! I'm in the same boat. For something like the Share or the Feeldoe, would the Bare As You Dare be beneficial, for something to hold things in place while you get used to the mechanics?
07/06/2012
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by HB042
Thanks for posting this question, animepanda89! I'm in the same boat. For something like the Share or the Feeldoe, would the Bare As You Dare be beneficial, for something to hold things in place while you get used to the mechanics?
Yes.

Another good choce would be one of the Sportsheets harnesses (such as Latigo Leather - you just take out the leather pad).
07/07/2012
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