Is there something necessarily submissive about being pegged?

Gdom Gdom
Receptive partners in pegging seem to generally be portrayed as submissive. Is there always (or almost always) a submissive aspect to being pegged? Why or why not?
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Yes, there's almost always something submissive about being pegged
14
No, there's nothing necessarily submissive about being pegged
72
The obligatory other
3
Total votes: 89 (89 voters)
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07/25/2012
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Greenleaf Greenleaf
No more than a woman/FAAB person receiving vaginal/anal penetration... o_O
07/25/2012
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
I don't think so in my book. I think it is more about receiving pleasure, whatever floats your boat.
07/25/2012
Gdom Gdom
For the record, I don't buy into the equation of "receiving partner" and "submissive" (and I don't see much reason why anyone should), but I was a bit curious what the rest of the community thought. Am I wrong in thinking that there's at least some (arguably incorrect) association between the two concepts?
07/25/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Nope, it's about how the pegging occurs.
07/26/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I don't think so.
07/26/2012
Ganconagh Ganconagh
Quote:
Originally posted by Gdom
Receptive partners in pegging seem to generally be portrayed as submissive. Is there always (or almost always) a submissive aspect to being pegged? Why or why not?
I dont think so. I just enjoy it and so does she. Sometimes, we play as her the Domme when we do it, but, most often not.
07/26/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gdom
Receptive partners in pegging seem to generally be portrayed as submissive. Is there always (or almost always) a submissive aspect to being pegged? Why or why not?
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! It drives us NUTS that every pegging video shows this dominance/submission thing. We enjoy pegging, and we know other couples who do to, and NOTHING could be more far from the truth. My VERY masculine (GUYS GUY), and NOT AT ALL submissive, hubby enjoys the sensation of prostate and anal stimulation for the same reason I do. It FEELS INTENSE and PLEASURABLE. I play with him there because I enjoy it and HE enjoys it. Same as he does for me. This has ZERO, NOTHING to do with Dominance or Submission. NOTHING AT ALL.

ANY sex activity can be used as a dominance or submission thing. ORAL, for instance. If someone grabs your head and shoves their cock down your throat as you gag...that strikes me as dominance and submission, but does that make ALL oral a "dominance and submission thing"??? Of course not.

I just wish the folks making porn would FIGURE THIS OUT and portray some of US couples...one's who enjoy pegging and are NOT into ANYTHING remotely like Dominance and Submission, in their videos. It might purge this silly notion.

My hubby enjoys the FEEL of the (I use NON REAL LOOKING) dildo pleasuring his rear, but does that mean he would "give it a blow job" (like they show in SO many of these videos)? HELL NO. No more then I am giving a BJ to a plastic toy used on my body. The only BJ's are going to my REAL "toy"...HIM. If he is doing ORAL, even if I am wearing a dildo harness, he is licking, sucking and kissing MY girlie parts, not the stupid plastic toy.

SO....NO, NO...NO. There is not, does not have to be and in our home NEVER will be any "submissive" anything, by anyone in ANY situation. NOT OUR CUP OF TEA...although PEGGING IS!!!!!

Great question. THANK YOU. I hope some of those MOVIE MAKERS are reading this!!!!!!!!!
07/26/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Ganconagh
I dont think so. I just enjoy it and so does she. Sometimes, we play as her the Domme when we do it, but, most often not.
We have never done that. Just not even remotely interested. When we do pegging, it is just that a harness is more useful then a hand held toy, in accomplishing the goal of pleasure, some times. It frees my hands up too, to play with my guy in other ways.
07/26/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Gdom
For the record, I don't buy into the equation of "receiving partner" and "submissive" (and I don't see much reason why anyone should), but I was a bit curious what the rest of the community thought. Am I wrong in thinking ... More
In our home, and those of friends who we know are into pegging, there is no association between that activity and submission...at all.
07/26/2012
stlouisxxx stlouisxxx
If you want it to be submissive than it can be. But it can also be just about 2 people sharing a great experience.
07/26/2012
Gdom Gdom
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!! It drives us NUTS that every pegging video shows this dominance/submission thing. We enjoy pegging, and we know other couples who do to, and NOTHING could be more far from the truth. My VERY ... More
Thanks for the response! I quite agree that the adult film industry seems to have a bad habit of predominantly portraying pegging as a D/s act. That's certainly not to say that pegging can't or shouldn't be paired with D/s--like basically every sex act, you can mix D/s if you'd like--but just that, as you say, it'd be nice to see more "power equal" pegging in porn.

So it looks like most of us agree that pegging needn't be any more D/s-oriented than any other sex act. However, I do see two votes for the opposite side. Any brave dissenters want to speak up and tell us why you tend to associate pegging and D/s?
07/26/2012
squire squire
As suggested above, I don't think there is something necessarily submissive about pegging unless you want there to be. I would say that there is a degree of vulnerability that comes with any anal act, due to the sensitivity of the area and the degree of safety required to play, but subbing is more a function of how we give power to our partners. Pegging in porn tends to be rather limited in content (mostly sub/dom stuff), but there are vids out there like expert guide to pegging, that show a more equal sharing of power during pegging. Giving one's power to another is a position of strength all it's own.
07/26/2012
robertk2380 robertk2380
Not inherently submissive, at least for us. Just a pleasurable variation in our sex life.
07/26/2012
JackNit JackNit
It has a submissive aspect to it just because there has always been an idea that if a man takes it in the butt he is submissive to the giver.
07/26/2012
Love&War Love&War
it's just fun for us
07/26/2012
bettle590 bettle590
not inherently, but it would be fun to make it that way
08/15/2012
AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Pegging/being pegged isn't dominant/submissive unless the participants want it to be.
08/16/2012
ToyGeek ToyGeek
I don't understand how any form of penetration is linked to submissiveness, personally. I'm constantly arguing against the concept in fanfiction, where it's an overwhelmingly popular theory. It's about reaching the spots that feel awesome, and it says nothing about submissiveness or sexual orientation or any other psychological aspect if a guy likes p-spot stimulation.
08/16/2012
The Kitty The Kitty
a woman receiving penetration is not inherently submissive so why should it be so for a man? one of those many stereo types I hope we will soon get passed.
08/27/2012
crazycouple7281 crazycouple7281
I don't think it's submissive, no, but really fun.
08/27/2012
konicaguy konicaguy
Quote:
Originally posted by Gdom
Receptive partners in pegging seem to generally be portrayed as submissive. Is there always (or almost always) a submissive aspect to being pegged? Why or why not?
I think it's just about what feels great.
09/09/2012
Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
It's just fun.
09/09/2012
bunny love bunny love
Nope. It's about having awesome sex that you and your partner enjoy.
09/14/2012
namelesschaos namelesschaos
Nope, receiving is not inherently submissive. Be it a women penetrated by a penis, a man penetrated by another man, a women penetrating a man with a dildo or anything else.
09/14/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I'd say no. If you think about traditional man/woman sex where the girl is on top she would be considered to be the partner in control of the situation, so likewise there can be pegging positions which puts the man in control, irrespective of him being the receiving partner.
09/14/2012
molly molly
It depends on how you want to see it. If you get off to dom/sub, then I would totally encourage you to look at it like that--but the receiving partner does not have to be the submissive partner.
09/16/2012
smlove smlove
It depends on who's in charge, if someone is in charge. you can be pegged and totally be in control of the situation.
09/21/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by JackNit
It has a submissive aspect to it just because there has always been an idea that if a man takes it in the butt he is submissive to the giver.
SO not true in our relationship. He "takes it in the butt" because HIS butt...like MY butt, has a LOT of nerves and IT FEELS GOOD. He also has a PROSTATE that I don't have...so in reality, it may feel BETTER!!!
09/22/2012
Gracefire Gracefire
Nope, not at all. Some people just do shit cuz it feels good. Submission is not necessarily in the act - it's in the attitude.
10/27/2012
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