Need advice: Had some problems with the Tango

NuMe NuMe
Well we just tried our first pegging but I had some problems with the Tango.
It kept coming out of me. I have strong kegels. I had the harness of very very tightly. I tried adjusting different ways, such as tighter on the legs, then tighter on the one that goes across the stomach. But my end kept dropping down and then falling out. We had to stop several times and reinsert it. I'm a skinny person and had no problems getting the kink part up over my pelvic bone but it wouldn't stay put.

Any ideas? What did I do wrong?

Oh and by the way, hubby really like pegging!
08/03/2009
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Red Red
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
Well we just tried our first pegging but I had some problems with the Tango.
It kept coming out of me. I have strong kegels. I had the harness of very very tightly. I tried adjusting different ways, such as tighter on the legs, then tighter on ... More
I can't keep L shaped dildos in either and recently a woman friend I have told me why - my muscles like to push out instead of pulling in (or something like that, she was explaining it when my attention was, um, divided). I have not tried the tango, but the share, with the curved bulb, worked better for me than the feeldoe did.

What harness are you using? Harnessing works for me, but maybe it's the type I use more so than just having a harness?

Anyways, remember you can also stick it in yer butt Might make it too short, however, but that should stay in place much better.

Hope you sort it out!!!!!
08/03/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by Red
I can't keep L shaped dildos in either and recently a woman friend I have told me why - my muscles like to push out instead of pulling in (or something like that, she was explaining it when my attention was, um, divided). I have not tried the ... More
I used the Latigo leather. Which of course I removed the front leather panel. And there's no way I could use that think anally. lol!

But with what that dil costs, I am going to figure it out or find a way to make it stay in.
08/03/2009
Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
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Originally posted by NuMe
I used the Latigo leather. Which of course I removed the front leather panel. And there's no way I could use that think anally. lol!

But with what that dil costs, I am going to figure it out or find a way to make it stay in.
I don't have the Tango, yet, but I can give you a little advice on making that particular harness fit better.

Put it on standing up and tighten it most of the way. Then bend your knees slightly, letting your butt go back - kind of like a squat, and tighten up the thigh straps. This is the only way I can get that harness to really fit me properly.
08/04/2009
spicywife spicywife
From what I've read about the tango, it looks like it was designed to be used without a harness but it can also be used with one. Have you tried it without a harness? Perhaps it would work better that way.
08/04/2009
NuMe NuMe
Happy Lady, Thanks for the info on that harness. I will try that.

Spicywife, There is no way it would stay in me without a harness. I inserted it before I put it through the harnes and it fell out immediately. At that point I wasn't worried because I figure I just needed the harness, which did help some. But every time we would really get going it would fall out.
08/04/2009
spicywife spicywife
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Originally posted by NuMe
Happy Lady, Thanks for the info on that harness. I will try that.

Spicywife, There is no way it would stay in me without a harness. I inserted it before I put it through the harnes and it fell out immediately. At that point I wasn't ... More
Oh Ok. I thought the harness was perhaps making it slide out.
08/04/2009
NuMe NuMe
Quote:
Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
I don't have the Tango, yet, but I can give you a little advice on making that particular harness fit better.

Put it on standing up and tighten it most of the way. Then bend your knees slightly, letting your butt go back - kind of like a ... More
I tested out your idea and though it did make things tighter, it didn't hold the Tango in. I do like your idea though. I also noticed that by making the straps tighter it pulled on the rubber O ring so much that the Tango popped all the way through. As though the O ring was too big for the dil.

One thing I did notice is that where the Tango meets the harness seems to sit too low.
08/05/2009
ScottA ScottA
Many harnesses hold the dildo high, over the pubic bone, but when you're using a double the harness needs to be lower so the giver's end can fit in the vagina. Some harnesses (such as the Aslan Jaguar and Outlaw Leather models) hold the dildo lower, but it looks like the Latigo Leather (don't have one, so this is just looking at the pictures) usually holds the dildo up higher.

The problem with this is that often there's a little looseness in the harness at the bottom and what you're seeing can happen. Try to adjust the harness so there's something pushing up on the dildo near where it goes in (this usually requires tight thigh straps), and also experiment with positions. Remember that (techspeak warning!) you're creating a first-class lever, with the fulcrum (pivot) at the O-ring. A position where the getter's end of the dildo is pushed down slightly will tend to keep the giver's end in better.

If that doesn't work, try to come up with something that will apply pressure to the pony end of the Tango. You can try a flexible tube (perhaps large bore flexible hardware store tubing?) to keep the straps together a bit longer (try ~2" to start) and pressing against the saddle of the Tango, or maybe a G-string type harness. Any other ideas on this? I've never encountered this problem before, so it's just wild surmise on my part.
08/05/2009
Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
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Originally posted by NuMe
I tested out your idea and though it did make things tighter, it didn't hold the Tango in. I do like your idea though. I also noticed that by making the straps tighter it pulled on the rubber O ring so much that the Tango popped all the way ... More
That's tough. Since I don't have a Tango, I don't know how it holds.

The double-ended dildo I have is straight. We were able to get that harness down low enough to keep it in both of us for some pretty vigorous thrusting.

You said this was your first time pegging. Is it also the first time you've worn a harness & penetrated someone? I know it took me some practice to get the motion (so to speak) right to keep the harness/dildo...everyt hing where it was supposed to be.

Also, we all have different bodies, so it may be that this just isn't the right harness for you.
08/05/2009
NuMe NuMe
ScottA, Thanks for those suggestions! I will try some of your ideas. The ring on the Latigo harness sat really low on me. I also noticed in the pictures it looked like it sat higher. But it was as low as you could go without hitting my clit. Though I didn't totally get the technical terms, I got the gist what what you were trying to say and it made sense. I will try keeping leverage in mind next time.

Happy Lady, Yes it was the first time I had ever used a harness. I kind of figured that we're going to need some practice. LOL! And I sure hope I can make this harness work. I don't want to buy a pricier one right now until I'm sure this is something that we enjoy and want to continue.

Thanks both of you!!!!
08/05/2009
deceased deceased
I found the Tango impossible to retain without a harness. Feeldoe, Share, Nexus no problem. Every woman is built differently inside too.
08/05/2009
TinyTease TinyTease
It may just be the wrong harness for the job. I've heard for smaller bodies, some of the harnesses can be a tough fit. Hopefully ScottA's suggestions will help a bit.

It did take practice for me to get used to being the driver, when I started using harnesses, too. I didn't start with a double ended toy, though. You could try pegging in a couple of different positions and that may help with the angle of insertion and help prevent the Tango from slipping out.
08/05/2009
ScottA ScottA
Have you taken the time to have a nice long jack-off session with your toy? It sounds odd, but it does help to give you a feel for how it works.

I've been thinking more about positions, and you might want to try one of the following:

Modified Doggy: He's on his hands and knees, and you're on something to raise you up so your dildo enters him at a slight downward angle.

Another one (don't know the name) would be to have him on the bed at the edge and you standing. His legs go up over your shoulders, but there still should be enough downward pressure to help keep the Tango in. Works best with a high bed or bed lifts, but he should still be a few inches below your dildo when you start.
08/06/2009
NuMe NuMe
Thanks for all the ideas!!! And Scott we do have a high bed so I'll try that and yes I have tried jacking-off with it and I it still pulls out of me. Kuuipogal suggested I use a 1 3/4 O ring. I'm going to try that and a lot of the other wonderful helpful ideas.
08/06/2009
Liz2 Liz2
I have the Tango, Feeldoe and tried the Share. I have to use a harness as even though I have great vaginal muscles, when I am about to orgasm, they all pop out. But all harnesses are not the same, I find that it has to ride low like the Aslan Jaguar (awesome!) or the Spare Parts. Spare Parts now makes a thong type of harness that by the looks of it will hold the Tango in place but perhaps(?) lessen thrusting power.
ScottA suggested to have your partner lie near the edge of the bed with his legs over his head... and you standing on the floor; this position works for us as does having my partner lean over the back of a sofa or a table.
Being warmed up, prior to inserting the Tango also helps.
08/07/2009
Liz2 Liz2
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Originally posted by Liz2
I have the Tango, Feeldoe and tried the Share. I have to use a harness as even though I have great vaginal muscles, when I am about to orgasm, they all pop out. But all harnesses are not the same, I find that it has to ride low like the Aslan Jaguar ... More
Clarification - Obviously the receiver should be warmed up, I mean the giver, the Tango bulb is a bit larger then the Feeldoe (slim) and the share.
I enjoy both ends of the Tango for solo play, the bulb is a super handle for masturbation; my eyes often just go toward the Tango when I am choosing a toy.
08/08/2009
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