Need advice: Had some problems with the Tango

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I would love to be pegged by my wife; however, I want to make sure she can receive direct pleasure too? What's the best toy for allowing us both to...

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Does anyone have good suggestions on dildos to use for pegging? I don't like using a harness so I prefer something that works well with a rodeo style.

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From what I've read about the tango, it looks like it was designed to be used without a harness but it can also be used with one. Have you tried it without a harness? Perhaps it would work better that way.

Happy Lady, Thanks for the info on that harness. I will try that.

Spicywife, There is no way it would stay in me without a harness. I inserted it before I put it through the harnes and it fell out immediately. At that point I wasn't worried because I figure I just needed the harness, which did help some. But every time we would really get going it would fall out.

Many harnesses hold the dildo high, over the pubic bone, but when you're using a double the harness needs to be lower so the giver's end can fit in the vagina. Some harnesses (such as the Aslan Jaguar and Outlaw Leather models) hold the dildo lower, but it looks like the Latigo Leather (don't have one, so this is just looking at the pictures) usually holds the dildo up higher.

The problem with this is that often there's a little looseness in the harness at the bottom and what you're seeing can happen. Try to adjust the harness so there's something pushing up on the dildo near where it goes in (this usually requires tight thigh straps), and also experiment with positions. Remember that (techspeak warning!) you're creating a first-class lever, with the fulcrum (pivot) at the O-ring. A position where the getter's end of the dildo is pushed down slightly will tend to keep the giver's end in better.

If that doesn't work, try to come up with something that will apply pressure to the pony end of the Tango. You can try a flexible tube (perhaps large bore flexible hardware store tubing?) to keep the straps together a bit longer (try ~2" to start) and pressing against the saddle of the Tango, or maybe a G-string type harness. Any other ideas on this? I've never encountered this problem before, so it's just wild surmise on my part.

ScottA, Thanks for those suggestions! I will try some of your ideas. The ring on the Latigo harness sat really low on me. I also noticed in the pictures it looked like it sat higher. But it was as low as you could go without hitting my clit. Though I didn't totally get the technical terms, I got the gist what what you were trying to say and it made sense. I will try keeping leverage in mind next time.

Happy Lady, Yes it was the first time I had ever used a harness. I kind of figured that we're going to need some practice. LOL! And I sure hope I can make this harness work. I don't want to buy a pricier one right now until I'm sure this is something that we enjoy and want to continue.

Thanks both of you!!!!

I found the Tango impossible to retain without a harness. Feeldoe, Share, Nexus no problem. Every woman is built differently inside too.

It may just be the wrong harness for the job. I've heard for smaller bodies, some of the harnesses can be a tough fit. Hopefully ScottA's suggestions will help a bit.

It did take practice for me to get used to being the driver, when I started using harnesses, too. I didn't start with a double ended toy, though. You could try pegging in a couple of different positions and that may help with the angle of insertion and help prevent the Tango from slipping out.

Have you taken the time to have a nice long jack-off session with your toy? It sounds odd, but it does help to give you a feel for how it works.

I've been thinking more about positions, and you might want to try one of the following:

Modified Doggy: He's on his hands and knees, and you're on something to raise you up so your dildo enters him at a slight downward angle.

Another one (don't know the name) would be to have him on the bed at the edge and you standing. His legs go up over your shoulders, but there still should be enough downward pressure to help keep the Tango in. Works best with a high bed or bed lifts, but he should still be a few inches below your dildo when you start.

Thanks for all the ideas!!! And Scott we do have a high bed so I'll try that and yes I have tried jacking-off with it and I it still pulls out of me. Kuuipogal suggested I use a 1 3/4 O ring. I'm going to try that and a lot of the other wonderful helpful ideas.