Pegging in the Shower? Lube?

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Pegging in the Shower? Lube?

MeliPixie MeliPixie
Alright. My boyfriend and I, as many of you are aware by now, thoroughly enjoy the art and pleasure of pegging. But something he'd like to experience is being fucked in the shower. We've been dating for two years, and now that we finally have a harness that's waterproof, I really want to give him this pleasure. There's just one problem.

Our lubes are all water-based. It'll just wash right off the dildo.

This is because all of our pegging toys are silicone (safer for sharing!), so we don't dare use silicone-based lube on them. I mean sure we have one glass dildo, but the darn thing is too small to work in the harness's ring, it just slips right through. I can't make it work. What I CAN do, although it means less pleasure for me this is more for him anyway, is use our rope to make a harness like I used to do with all of our dildos before we had a real harness, but that doesn't solve the lube problem. Our canine dildo is also soft, floppy silicone, has an inflatable knot, and is equipped with a cum tube you fill with lube, water, or a mix of both, and is harness compatible. I'm not sure tying the knot would be able to be achieved in the shower, at least not the first time.

We DO have a lube shooter of sorts.

The point is, given this information, and the fact that right now we can't afford to buy new toys, harnesses, or lube, what do we do? Here are the poll questions:

Can pegging be done in the shower by us right now?
How would you suggest we do it?

Just to review, we have:
Waterproof Harnesses: Spareparts Joque Harness Large , Japanese Bondage Rope
Dildos: Feeldoe Violet , Realdoe Feeldoe , Icicles No. 8 , Elypse Art Vixen
Lubricants: Astroglide (thin, almost expired), Wet Ecstasy (thicker, cooling), ID Glide (thickest, used for almost all our pegging), and whatever comes in the Tenga Egg Masturbators , and what amounts to a lube Shooter .

Any help you guys can offer will be greatly appreciated! Sorry, voting is public so I can see what answers go together. Discussion is highly encouraged.

EDIT: I forgot to put the knotted Vixen in the poll, so if that's your vote, please post it in the thread! Thanks!




TL;DR? Just farming for points and have nothing of value to add to the poll? Vote "Other" I guess. Farmers happen.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
It's never a good idea to peg in the shower.
Sorry, you guys are ill-equipped for shower pegging at the moment. I suggest... (please post below)
It can be done! Let me tell you how in my next votes:
CoffeeCup , Bignuf , ScottA , Talena , Ghost , NightKat
6
-----WHICH DILDO-----
Use the Realdoe...
CoffeeCup , Bignuf , ScottA , Talena , Ghost , Vancouver Guy , NightKat
7
Use the Feeldoe Classic...
CoffeeCup , Bignuf , ScottA , Talena , Ghost , EvilHomer
6
Use the Icicles No. 8...
-----WHICH HARNESS-----
...In the Joque harness...
CoffeeCup , Bignuf , ScottA , Talena , Ghost , EvilHomer , Vancouver Guy , NightKat
8
...In the rope harness...
-----WHICH LUBE-----
...With the Astroglide...
...With the ID Glide...
CoffeeCup , Bignuf , Talena , Ghost , EvilHomer , Vancouver Guy , NightKat
7
...With the Wet Ecstasy...
...With the Tenga lube...
-----HOW TO LUBE HIM WELL-----
...And squirt the lube inside him.
Bignuf
1
...And liberally coat the dildo several times.
CoffeeCup , Bignuf , Talena , Vancouver Guy
4
...And do both.
Bignuf , ScottA , Ghost , EvilHomer , Pi , NightKat
6
Other (please explain below)
Bignuf , Talena , ge0rge
3
Total votes: 48 (10 voters)
Poll is closed
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Kindred Kindred
You can use a water based lube but you will have to reapply it often to the point that it may get frustrating, especially if you plan to have running water spraying on you.

I know you're interested in suggestions based on what you have, but a very simple solution is to use an oil based lube. Alternatively, you could also try using a silicone lube with a condom covering the dildo, though I'm not sure I would risk that with the Feeldoe/Realdoe.
11/28/2011
CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
Either of the feeldoes should work and just coating the dildo has always worked for me.

I'm not really keen on any of those lubes, though. I voted for the one you say you use most often. In my humble opinion the best lube for pegging is Maximus
11/28/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
You can use a water based lube but you will have to reapply it often to the point that it may get frustrating, especially if you plan to have running water spraying on you.

I know you're interested in suggestions based on what you have, ...
Oil-based lube... I completely forgot those exist! I know EF offers a lot of massage oils, but can they be used safely internally? Not many of them appear to actually be lubricants, what would you suggest?

Hah, no, I definitely am not willing to risk that... these dildos re dear to our heart. Like they're actually my cock! *giggles*
11/28/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by CoffeeCup
Either of the feeldoes should work and just coating the dildo has always worked for me.

I'm not really keen on any of those lubes, though. I voted for the one you say you use most often. In my humble opinion the best lube for pegging is ...
Maximus, that one unfortunately I can't use. I had the opportunity to sample it, and it sort of... Rolled my stomach. To me it was like squirting someone else's cold, old cum into my hands... Too gooey and thick for me. May I ask why you don't like the lubes I listed?
11/28/2011
Kindred Kindred
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
Oil-based lube... I completely forgot those exist! I know EF offers a lot of massage oils, but can they be used safely internally? Not many of them appear to actually be lubricants, what would you suggest?

Hah, no, I definitely am not willing ...
I use Boy Butter and have not had any problems. link However, I only use it anally. I would not recommend you use it vaginally.
11/28/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by Kindred
I use Boy Butter and have not had any problems. link However, I only use it anally. I would not recommend you use it vaginally.
Neat The silicone in it worries me, but it says it's safe for silicone toys... I'll see if we have a few dollars to spare, thanks

EDIT: Being a chef, that packaging weirds me out a bit, lol!
11/28/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
I'm bumping this so I can get a few more answers/ideas. Boyfriend has tomorrow off and I'd love to surprise him with the shower lovins he deserves If possible, of course. So come on, people! Tell me how you'd do it given our supplies and nonexistent funds!
11/29/2011
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
Alright. My boyfriend and I, as many of you are aware by now, thoroughly enjoy the art and pleasure of pegging. But something he'd like to experience is being fucked in the shower. We've been dating for two years, and now that we finally have ...
Sounds kind of obvious, but avoid pointing the shower water directly on the dildo or area where you "link" and it is far less likely to result in the lube "washing away" too fast. Combine that with first giving him a good internal "dose" of lube with your lube shooter and you should be fine.

My hubby gives ME anal in the shower all the time and we only use water based, thick lubes. Same issue as pegging, really.
11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Sounds kind of obvious, but avoid pointing the shower water directly on the dildo or area where you "link" and it is far less likely to result in the lube "washing away" too fast. Combine that with first giving him a good internal ...
Hm, fair enough! I had wondered if squirting it inside before we start would be a good idea or not, but it's not like that's not the whole point of the lube shooter. To place it where you need it. Right?

(Don't know why I doubted it. Maybe just because we haven't really yet had need for the shooter?)
11/29/2011
ScottA ScottA
Lube shooter is good, and directing the water away from the affected area also works. Long-term oil-based lube is probably the best for wet environments, but you can start off with the water-based.

I strongly recommend avoiding glass or steel dildos for pegging - it's too easy to poke something inside and have it be uncomfortable.

Use the real harness. It won't be harmed by water and you'll be much happier.
11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Lube shooter is good, and directing the water away from the affected area also works. Long-term oil-based lube is probably the best for wet environments, but you can start off with the water-based.

I strongly recommend avoiding glass or steel ...
Start off with water-based? It's okay to mix them? I try to avoid doing anything like that that could cause harm to my boy or our toys, you know?

Actually we use our glass toy for pegging often when I'm on my period and don't want to bleed all over the toys I wear internally, and because it's not particularly long or thick or curved, we don't really have any problems with it.
11/29/2011
Talena Talena
whatever lube you choose just keep it near for reapplications
11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by Talena
whatever lube you choose just keep it near for reapplications
Of course
11/29/2011
switzerland switzerland
it may be annoying, but i guess i would just reapply and reapply! theres no harm in trying it out and if it doesn't work out, definitely try something else
11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by switzerland
it may be annoying, but i guess i would just reapply and reapply! theres no harm in trying it out and if it doesn't work out, definitely try something else
Absolutely, I wouldn't dream of doing things to his butt if I wasn't willing to reapply. Occasionally it can get frustrating, which is why we thought to use this thing as a lube shooter. It looks like this, and actually it can be disassembled and reassembled in many ways. That's because it's actually part of the ejaculation rigging for our canine dildo!

11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Shameless self-bump going on right about now... I know it's not really forum etiquette but I loves me some good input!

On a related note, I'm really excited at the thought of getting to squirt something into his butt... I know how good it feels!

11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
I had a response in my Facebook inbox from ID Lubricants, here's what it said:

"Test your favorite silicone on your toy. Not all silicones eat all silicone toys. The higher the quality of the toy and silicone = less likely for damage. Just add a bit of silicone onto the base of the toy check after 20 minutes, an hour and then maybe a few hours. You will be able to tell the compatibility after the hour for sure. Make sure you wash the toy after well with soap and water to remove the silicone lubricant. Its really one of those things where you gotta get the right lube with the right toy on silicone. Be careful [with the lube] and have fun. Oh and remember be extra cautious in the shower with silicone SLIPPERY FLOORS!!!!!!!! "

To which I have replied:

Actually, this is all really great advice... But we don't have silicone lubricant, the one we use by you guys is actually the water-based, and unfortunately (I checked) we can't afford another lube at the moment. But thanks for your advice, and I definitely will keep it in mind if the water-based lubes end up not working! And we DEFINITELY will be careful about slipperiness!
11/29/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Alright. For anyone who is interested, I have decided to do this tonight, if he's feeling up for it. (He does get home rather late, it's 10:40 PM here now!) I will be using the Feeldoe, in the Joque harness, with the ID Glide, and I'll be both squirting some inside him, and applying it liberally to the dildo, probably several times. I'll let you all know how it goes!
11/29/2011
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by MeliPixie
Start off with water-based? It's okay to mix them? I try to avoid doing anything like that that could cause harm to my boy or our toys, you know?

Actually we use our glass toy for pegging often when I'm on my period and don't want ...
I'm sorry it was confusing - yes, it's OK to mix lubes, but I was intending to say "use the water based lube at first, then if you decide you like pegging in the shower you probably would want to invest in some oil lube".

You can make your own oil lube by melting some coconut oil and vegetable shortening together. The more coconut oil you put in the thinner it is (at body temperature).

I've found that while quality silicone lubes don't bond permanently with quality silicone toys you can get temporary "welts" on the toys and sometimes the lube just doesn't seem to work as well as it does with non-silicone toys. I've only tested two silicone lubes, so this might be just a lube oddity.
11/30/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
I'm sorry it was confusing - yes, it's OK to mix lubes, but I was intending to say "use the water based lube at first, then if you decide you like pegging in the shower you probably would want to invest in some oil lube".

You ...
Oh, no worries, I'm more easily confused than I let on I never thought of making my own lube, but it sounds like it could be expensive... Where would I go to find pure coconut oil? Surely not the grocery store? I used to be able to find it for massage and skin/hair care at the pagan shoppe in my hometown, but they closed recently

I'll look into buying and testing some good silicone lubes, but for now that's really out of our price range. I appreciate all your great advice
11/30/2011
ScottA ScottA
Many grocery stores carry coconut oil, if not there than a health food store. I've heard that popcorn popped in coconut oil can't be beat, but haven't tried that yet.
12/01/2011
MeliPixie MeliPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by ScottA
Many grocery stores carry coconut oil, if not there than a health food store. I've heard that popcorn popped in coconut oil can't be beat, but haven't tried that yet.
Ooooo! *eyebrows* That sounds yummy! Too bad I didn't think of this thread while we were grocery shopping last night :/ I know I said we'd probably be doing it a couple nights ago, but he wasn't feeling up to it, and now I've got one of my migraines... It's all in the timing with us XD Anyway thanks for the help!
12/01/2011
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