Pegging without BDSM?

squire squire
I've noticed that much of the pegging videos, pictures, materials out there have a BDSM flavor to them, some more than others. Though adding role play, power ect in to the mix can be fun, where are the examples where pegging lacks traditional BDSM qualities for those who want a softer introduction? Any idea why it's hard to find?
07/25/2011
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Ansley Ansley
Speaking in terms of yesteryear and idiotic beliefs about sex, being penetrated is an act of submission and for some reason it continues to be seen in that regard. Especially when it comes to males being anally penetrated and it is considered beyond kinky for a lot of uninformed people and thus gets shoved into the BDSM category. There are a ton of women in the sex industry who are working hard to remove those connotations from pegging, but it looks like we're still not quite there yet.

That's my guess, anyway. I always ignore any hint of BDSM in my knowledge-quests as it's something I'm not into and I don't need that aspect to apply whatever technique, position or toy I choose in play.
07/25/2011
Wild Orchid Wild Orchid
What Saphire said.


That's why I love Tristan Taormino - her guide to anal pleasure for men has pegging without a BDSM context.
07/25/2011
Crichton Crichton
I've seen this too and oddly enough I never even thought of it in a BDSM manner when my bf and I engage in pegging. I don't see it as feminization of him or me owning him in any manner. It can be done this way, it's up to the couple, but we do it solely for pleasure purposes. He loves the feeling and I love being the one giving him the pleasure.

There is no need to mix the two unless you want. It's very easy to peg without BDSM ties(no pun intended).
07/27/2011
squire squire
I really enjoy Tristan's movies for that very reason as well WIld Orchid. It's always a nice surprise to find a film that take a softer approach to pegging, my personal preference. It's just too bad there isn't a ton of material out there to enjoy, in addition to having a loving partner who will participate in the fantasy.
07/27/2011
Big Dman Big Dman
Pegging doesn't make you submissive. I just like it because it feels good and its fun. Its a shame most people still don't understand that. You can get pegged and still be the man.
07/28/2011
squire squire
Agreed!
08/02/2011
Spilock Spilock
I also agree that there's no actual need to mix pegging and BDSM. However, it does get lumped into it due to the fact that the male is being submissive. Possibly because the woman in said situation is also wearing a harness, which can be mildly BDSM-like.

We definitely keep our pegging BDSM free though. I prefer it that way, for sure. But we may try it with BDSM at some point in the future, if we get that adventurous.
08/05/2011
oldkinky oldkinky
Peg to enjoy wild kinky pleasure. She looks so hot wearing the strap on as she rubs lube on the dildo and talks dirty about her dick. We both have wild orgasms. She talks dirty as she fucks me. It feels so good.
08/07/2011
Beaners Beaners
I agree, there's so much BDSM that goes hand in hand with much of the pegging videos info etc etc that's out there. It's kind of a shame, because my boyfriend and I had some of our best pegging sessions when we completely left out any kind of dominance/submissive play. He says it when I "make love to him" that it's the best. Maybe he and I should start a revolution. Non BDSM pegging is great too! lol!
09/01/2011
ScottA ScottA
Echoing everyone else:

There's no need for pegging to have a BDSM slant - it can be very fun if it's done in a "making love" context as well. Don't pay attention to what they do in porn - for porn they do what they think will sell, not the way things should be done.

If a couple likes putting a BDSM twist in pegging that's fine as well, but it isn't necessary at all.
09/03/2011
ready4anything ready4anything
Go to Sensualpegging.com they have tons of photos and videos that show happy couples at their best. The whole site is non BDSM oriented. Enjoy!
10/03/2012
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