Has anyone ever tried verbal "submission"?

Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
I see a lot posted on things like gags and restraints, but I haven't ran into any threads on verbal "submission". Has anyone ever tried it? Say instead of using actual restraints and gags, the Dom tells you what you may or may not do and you aim to please? For instance if they put your hands by your sides and tell you not to move them you respond as though they are restrained in that position, and don't move them. Please feel free to share your stories below.
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Contributor: Sir Sir
I have a feeling that you are confusing "submission" and being a submissive with playing a role for roleplay purposes.

I tell my girl what to do on a daily basis, and she does it. It isn't "verbal submission," it is called being in a power exchange relationship.
04/29/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by Sir
I have a feeling that you are confusing "submission" and being a submissive with playing a role for roleplay purposes.

I tell my girl what to do on a daily basis, and she does it. It isn't "verbal submission," it is ... more
I didn't say I am actually submissive, however there is a difference in being in 24/7 power exchange (submissive) relationship and being in a relationship where that only ever effects sexual interactions and being in a relationship where it's mostly sexual but some carries over to the rest of the relationship. There are different extremes.
04/30/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
"Verbal Submission" can be defined a number of ways.

The most common method is related to the act of "Erotic Humiliation".

Berating a partner, shaming/demeaning them till they submit and do what you verbally demand them to.

I've seen couples (Dom/Sub) whose entire relationship is based upon verbal command. There is no toy play, no touching/spanking, just verbal praise and verbal punishment (and sex, but not in the general BDSM style most associate. It's just "normal" sex).

It is fascinating to watch.
09/19/2015
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by TheToyGuy
"Verbal Submission" can be defined a number of ways.

The most common method is related to the act of "Erotic Humiliation".

Berating a partner, shaming/demeaning them till they submit and do what you verbally demand ... more
The closest way to describe what I mean would be to imagine:

(I apologise in advance for my sarcastic and very corny dialogue. This is for example only.)

We begin with a DOM giving their SUB an order : Sit and do not move.

The SUB could do as directed or not, for our practice let say the SUB sits but moves away from the DOM.

The DOM could berate, yell, shout or get verbally angry at the SUB causing the SUB to either cower/submit to the order or evade/refuse.

However in the practice of contemporary verbal submissive play it's not about the verbal violence it is the absence of kind words that causes the SUB to submit to the DOM.

So for our practice the DOM would say : Your worthless, why do I even bother with you, you have no control, you won't listen, your nothing but a useless pile of shit.

The DOM would then give the SUB the cold shoulder. The SUB could then respond by either doing as directed or once again evade/refuse.

For our practice lets say they refused again and back further away from the DOM testing the limits.

The DOM could indicate no interest in the SUB or could continue to verbally spar to a greater degree : You are a coward, you just run away when things get tough, what do I care, run back to your mummy... etc.

For our practice lets say the SUB complies and sits in the indicated spot. The DOM would verbally praise : That's my SUB, the best SUB in the whole world. Such a good SUB.

This is the basis of, as I understand, "Verbal Submission" play.
09/19/2015
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
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Originally posted by TheToyGuy
The closest way to describe what I mean would be to imagine:

(I apologise in advance for my sarcastic and very corny dialogue. This is for example only.)

We begin with a DOM giving their SUB an order : Sit and do not move.

The ... more
Thanks for sharing.
11/12/2015
Contributor: Salesstar987 Salesstar987
If it's the idea of submission that gets you off and not the physical act of submission, by all means go for It! Verbal humiliation in the bedroom works the same way.
08/08/2016
Contributor: TheToyGuy TheToyGuy
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Originally posted by Salesstar987
If it's the idea of submission that gets you off and not the physical act of submission, by all means go for It! Verbal humiliation in the bedroom works the same way.
I counter, verbal humiliation and verbal submission are two totally different things, yet I admit both contain aspects of each other.
08/26/2016
Contributor: Lvstoplay Lvstoplay
I don't agree with humiliation or being abusive to one another. It works well with simply an intrinsic need to please and do well, expectations of behavior, gentle words, and occasional rewards. While some like being treated poorly, others like being treated with love and respect while maintaining the D/S and aspects of BDSM in general.
01/10/2017