I need rope bondage advice!

TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
My husband and I have been fighting about me wanting to spice up our sex life. He's ultra vanilla, and has a low sex drive. I, on the other hand am rainbow sherbert with gummi bears, and have a high sex drive. Well, my husband used to be a tree trimmer (we're talking 20-100ft tall), and knows a lot of different knots and a lot about rope. I figured this could be a way of helping him break out of his vanilla tendencies and try something new. I think he would be more comfortable experimenting with something he knows much about.

I was wondering if there was a certain book for different knots that you would recommend (I realize that just because he knows knots that doesn't mean they're safe), rope cutters that you personally use, how you stop fraying...any little tips would be greatly appreciated.
04/19/2013
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Mr. E Mr. E
You can prevent nylon and poly rope from fraying by simply heating the ends with a match or touching them to a hot burner. I'd also suggest keeping a pair of safety scissors nearby.

Eden used to have some good books on Rope bondage. Knotty Boys???
I have also seen others post that you can view some good rope bondage how to videos on You Tube.

We do not personally use rope for bondage, so I really cannot help with specific knots. We prefer the comfort, convenience and safety of leather and nylon restraints.

Good luck, have fun and be safe!
04/19/2013
Gdom Gdom
The above post has some good advice. I primarily do rope bondage myself, so I might be able to help you on some of the finer points and resources.

First, EMT safety shears (link) are better than safety scissors because of the former's angled blade, which makes it much easier to get under restraints to cut them if necessary. For the record, safety scissors will still work in a pinch--and the chance of injury is minimal--but EMT safety shears are cheap and generally more effective.

Second, as for resources on knots, there are a few good ones that I know of. I've heard that the Two Knotty Boys book referenced above is great, although I haven't used it myself. Two Knotty Boys also has a website with quite a few free instructional videos showing different ties (link). Twisted Monk (link) also has some simple, easy-to-follow video guides for bondage that I found really helpful starting out. Silly as it may seem, a Boy Scout's manual is actually one of the go-to resources for bondage enthusiasts, since it's one of the cheapest, most easily available, and most comprehensive resources on knots of all kinds. Of course, manual didn't have bondage in mind when it was written, so you'd have to figure out which knots will work for bondage (as opposed to, say, tying down tents), but overall, it's worth the investment. On the other hand, throwing a Boy Scout's manual at your already knot proficient partner and telling him to read up might not be the sexiest way to introduce him to bondage, so it's totally your call.

Third and finally, safety in bondage is a lot more about how loose/tight the knots are and the position you're in than the specific type of knot used. You're not going to kill someone if you accidentally tie a granny knot instead of a square knot. That said, square knots ARE going to be much more effective than granny knots for a restraint that you can't easily escape from. Really, you could probably do a whole lot of intricate and effective (non-suspension) bondage with little more than square knots and overhand knots.

I hope that helps! Check out some of those resources and have fun!
04/19/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
Thanks for the feed back! I purchased some rope today. Hopefully this will work and he'll find his own kinky side.
04/19/2013
Ayogirl230 Ayogirl230
Search on BDSM forums like this one and google it!
04/24/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I showed him the Knotty Boys book and he immediately wanted some rope to play with. I pulled out the rope I bought here, and he had some nylon rope from the garage. He spent the next hour working on knots (he used me to keep some of them in place). He's not very interested in using it in the bedroom at this point, but he's a freak for knots. I'm stoked that it's a success. I figure he'll eventually want to try some of the intricate work. Yay!
05/08/2013
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