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Kaltir Kaltir
If you're into BDSM and meet someone new, how do you bring it up to them?
11/23/2011
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Vanille Vanille
With me, I actually waited 'til Master brought up the fact she liked biting. From then on it was just BDSM word vomit.

It really can't hurt to talk about it, I mean, you negotiate BDSM as a whole. Gotta talk about it to see if that person's into it. The worst that's going to happen is the person's going to say "No, I'm not." but if you get the "Eww, that's 'freaky stuff'!" Lit on out of there, you baited yourself a vanilla.

"I like my bedroom play a little rough, what do you think about that?" is pretty non-threatening.
11/23/2011
Wildchild Wildchild
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Originally posted by Kaltir
If you're into BDSM and meet someone new, how do you bring it up to them?
Usally within the first conversation, I hate wasting time and would hate to really like a person, then have them freak out because it later came out how kinky I am.
11/23/2011
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by Vanille
With me, I actually waited 'til Master brought up the fact she liked biting. From then on it was just BDSM word vomit.

It really can't hurt to talk about it, I mean, you negotiate BDSM as a whole. Gotta talk about it to see if that ...
Well said
11/24/2011
Kilot Kilot
I would recommend trying to get a read on a person to determine if they are interested in BDSM before just blasting away (I think this answers your question). Also since BDSM is a very private thing, and usually sexual, I would wait as long as you normally would to talk about sex before you talk about BDSM. No sense setting them off completely if you are planning on just being friends.
11/27/2011
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