Newbie to BDSM

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Newbie to BDSM

CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
What kind of products do you recommend to a newbie of BDSM
05/31/2012
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M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
BDSM encompasses many different types of activities, but bondage and impact play (spanking, flogging, etc.) are good places to start. You can check out the BDSM section of products and look at the different types of restraints available for bondage. There's a large selection of wrist and ankle cuffs, several "beginner kits", and there is always one of my favorites, rope.

There are also many different types of paddles and floggers available, so it would be good to take a look at them and read some of the reviews to see what people thought of them, and whether they think they would be a good product for a beginner.

I hope this helps.
05/31/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
Talk to your partner about what you both might be interested in. I'd say neoprene cuffs would be good to start with - they're cheaper than leather. Rope is cheap and readily available, but you need some basic knowledge of knots and such. Metal handcuffs dig into the skin a little and aren't as versatile as the other two options.

I suggest starting off with bare handed spanking and seeing if that is enjoyable. It takes a bit of practice to get flogger tails to land where you want them. Everyday items like hairbrushes and wooden rulers can be fun to use too. Such things are generally called "pervertables". If you look that up on google, you should find many lists of things that you could try. Ice cubes can be an especially fun form of sensation play.

Blindfolds can just be sleeping masks or a scarf tied around the head. I wouldn't recommend gags until you've experimented a bit more.

A book like "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" or "The New Topping Book" and "The New Bottoming Book" may be useful to you.

After you've tried some things and decided that you like them, if you want to buy more expensive equipment I say go for it.
05/31/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by solitudinarian
Talk to your partner about what you both might be interested in. I'd say neoprene cuffs would be good to start with - they're cheaper than leather. Rope is cheap and readily available, but you need some basic knowledge of knots and such. ...
I'm going to have look into those books. I just receivedmy first paddle today
06/01/2012
pirata pirata
I have Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns. It's pretty helpful for the practical aspects of BDSM. (Though the copy I have at least is a little outdated in its approach to the internet.)
06/01/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
do you know where i could find this I can not seem to find a copy
06/03/2012
elli elli
The Bottoming and Topping Books are available on EF, but Screw the Roses isn't. You can find it on amazon. Screw the Roses is a great, comprehensive introduction for beginners and has everything from definitions to anatomical diagrams to point out safe areas for impact play to basic knots for rope bondage. The Topping Book is less about specific activities and more about things like the appeal of topping, how to create a scene, and how to handle a situation when things go wrong. I'd recommend both of these; I haven't read the Bottoming Book, but I'm sure it's useful too.
06/03/2012
Chief Chief
I would start out with the things the others mentioned, but also householdy items... I started out using clotheslines for bondage, which worked find for most simple binds... ect.
06/04/2012
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Blindfolds and handcuffs or simpler wrist restraints. For books/websites, I'd recommend Two Knotty Boys, since they cover a lot of different ways to tie for different reasons.
06/04/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by elli
The Bottoming and Topping Books are available on EF, but Screw the Roses isn't. You can find it on amazon. Screw the Roses is a great, comprehensive introduction for beginners and has everything from definitions to anatomical diagrams to point ...
thanks so much going to look into it
06/04/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by Chief
I would start out with the things the others mentioned, but also householdy items... I started out using clotheslines for bondage, which worked find for most simple binds... ect.
hmmm think i have some clothes line thanks for the great ideas
06/04/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by gsfanatic
Blindfolds and handcuffs or simpler wrist restraints. For books/websites, I'd recommend Two Knotty Boys, since they cover a lot of different ways to tie for different reasons.
thanks i will look into the sounds interesting
06/04/2012
Bill Ditchburn Bill Ditchburn
Most important of all? Information, so I would agree with most posters here. Screw the Roses is a great resource - maybe a bit old school these days, but lots in there. Jay Wiseman's SM101 is good, as is his Erotic Bondage Handbook. Chanta Rose has a big shiny book called Bondage for Sex, well worth a look. If spanking's your thing, try The Compleat Spanker, by Lady Green.

Many household implements are indeed pervertible, at no extra charge! Think ... wooden spoon...a fork, fresh from the ice box... cotton clothes line does make dcent bondage rope, but not that plastic covered wire stuff. On the subject of laundry, don't overlook the humble clothes peg, either... very pinchy!

For store bought stuff, if you have a serious interest in BDSM, I would honestly avoid almost anything that's reckoned to be 'good for beginners'. All too often, that just means 'will break if used'.

Which aspect of BDSM do you feel most drawn to?
06/06/2012
CRAZYSEXYONE CRAZYSEXYONE
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Originally posted by Bill Ditchburn
Most important of all? Information, so I would agree with most posters here. Screw the Roses is a great resource - maybe a bit old school these days, but lots in there. Jay Wiseman's SM101 is good, as is his Erotic Bondage Handbook. Chanta ...
Well i have found that i love it when my husband put the blind fold on me it gets the juices flowing right there...lol we recently just got a pair of cuffs omg I love them. i am in the market for a new paddle though, the one i got a couple weeks ago was made very cheap and was falling apart right out the box. i had a tassel whip a few years back but never really used it.I love pain... feels weird spilling my inner thoughts on here but hey we all love our own thing right.

I would love to try the hot wax and the ball gag. I have been looking for a nice collar. i have found that I think that my wants or needs are way different then my husbands. He didn't realize i was such a freak in between the sheets. he has been open to some things but i really don't know if he is willing to go as far as I am ...lol
06/12/2012
Heatherbipoly Heatherbipoly
ty going to read those books
06/27/2012
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