Would you enjoy being caned?

Zandrock Zandrock
I have always thought it would be lots of fun. I am waiting for the bamboo cane to come back in stock. So my question is would you ever want to cane someone or be caned by someone?
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Yes
28  (40%)
Np
42  (60%)
Total votes: 70
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11/10/2012
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spunkmonkey spunkmonkey
That does not sound like fun.
11/10/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Doesn't interest us.
11/10/2012
RedKyuubi RedKyuubi
Not for me
11/10/2012
ginnyluvspotter ginnyluvspotter
if i was the one doing it yes but not to me
11/10/2012
Thumper Logic Thumper Logic
Long as it's not too harsh, sure
11/10/2012
TheSinDoll TheSinDoll
I've been caned a ton of times, by many different types of canes. Rattan, bamboo, fiberglass, acrylic. I could keep going, but you get the point - each one feels different.
11/10/2012
Rossie Rossie
No, don't like that kind of play.
11/10/2012
solitudinarian solitudinarian
Yeah, I enjoy it. I have quite a few different types of canes: bamboo, rattan, acrylic, delrin and lexan.
11/10/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
Our cane is delegated for punishment only, so it's not a good thing in my mind. X.x
11/10/2012
Feisty Feisty
Not for me.
11/10/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Zandrock
I have always thought it would be lots of fun. I am waiting for the bamboo cane to come back in stock. So my question is would you ever want to cane someone or be caned by someone?
We are just into pleasure, and not pain. Neither of us really even understands the concept of how pain and sexuality are related. They are complete opposite ends of the spectrum to us. Pain comes from enemies and elicits a fight or flight response. Pleasure comes from friends and elicits a "stay and enjoy more" response. Sorry...I know it is not a common thought around here, since they sell so many canes, paddles, whips, etc, but if someone hits me with a Bamboo Cane, my response is programmed from 40 plus years of martial arts experience and competition. I will hurt them, and it won't be fun, or funny. (Then I would break the cane over their head, for good measure). Just my personal take. For those who enjoy this kind of stuff....hey, cane away all day long...no skin of my butt.
11/10/2012
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by - Kira -
Our cane is delegated for punishment only, so it's not a good thing in my mind. X.x
See..once again, "our cane is for punishment"? I am a grown woman. No one is "punishing me". Period. Punishment (and not with a cane either),is for insubordinate children and misbehaving pets). I would never use a cane to hit anyone. Anyone hitting me with anything would find out what decades of working out with a heavy bag with hands and legs can achieve.

I know you folks are doing this as part of your "sex life", but it is so, so, so outside our realm of understanding, it is like totally alien thought.
11/10/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by Bignuf
See..once again, "our cane is for punishment"? I am a grown woman. No one is "punishing me". Period. Punishment (and not with a cane either),is for insubordinate children and misbehaving pets). I would never use a cane to hit ... More
It's not part of our "sex life." It's part of our relationship. We live M/s 24/7 and I assure you most of our day is not spent having sex or anything related to having sex.

And I'm a grown woman as well, and yet submit to punishments. Being "grown" has nothing to do with it. If you do something bad at work and get written up, is that not a form of acceptable punishment for a "grown" person? If you don't watch where you're walking and injure yourself, isn't that just nature's form of punishment? Punishments don't cease to exist because a parent isn't there to make them happen.

As for being into pleasure and not pain...well, pain is pleasurable for me (so long as it's not punishment in which case I'm not as big of a fan lol). It relaxes me, makes me feel good, and gives me a great endorphin rush that can sometimes make me loopy. There are many types of pain in this world, both good and bad. Not everyone enjoys pain, but many do. If you enjoy it, it's more pleasure than pain. I don't know how else to explain to someone that doesn't like it. lol
11/10/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
See..once again, "our cane is for punishment"? I am a grown woman. No one is "punishing me". Period. Punishment (and not with a cane either),is for insubordinate children and misbehaving pets). I would never use a cane to hit ... More
See Kira's comments. i agree 100%. i'm a submissive in a D/s relationship. Punishment is part of my relationship and pain, whether as punishment or for pleasure, is a part of my life that i love and couldn't ever do without. Like Kira, this is about much MUCH more than sex. i'm a grown woman who has chosen to willingly and consensually submit to her Partner for mutual fulfillment and happiness. i agree to let Her punish my transgressions, when i break a rule, disobey an instruction, fail to do something to her standards, break ritual or protocol, or do something else that displeases her or, sometimes, because i've done something i don't feel good about and i ask her to punish me to absolve me of my guilt for whatever it is. This has nothing to do with my maturity level or age and everything to do with how i choose to have relationships. i agree, in writing, to every rule, ritual, protocol. i agree that i will do things her way and follow her instructions and do as she bids. This is how Wwe have chosen to structure Oour relationship and it works very well for both of Uus. My punishments may or may not include pain, but most often do not since i enjoy pain too much for it to really be effective. When it's punishment for something not directly related to her, obviously it doesn't negate my obligation to rectify whatever i've done to the best of my ability and to deal with any consequences of it, but once i've done that, sometimes the feelings still linger and i'm not always able to forgive myself, but through punishment, if my Mistress declares me sufficiently punished and absolved, than i must, by nature of my submission, forgive myself or i'd be disobeying her. This is of IMMENSE psychological benefit to me.
Like Kira says, punishment has little to do with age, or, for that matter, submission. Punishment may be administered by a parent or caregiver to a child, but punishments are also meted out by judges, juries, police, employers, supervisors, bill collectors, landlords, and countless other authorities, including, as Kira aptly points out, nature, also known as the universe, or simply, life. i, and many others, choose to allow a structure for punishment into my relationship because it makes sense to me and it feels right. For Uus, it helps us have a more balanced, peaceful relationship.
Pain has two main purposes in my life. Pain turns me on, it is pleasurable. For some, the pain itself is pleasurable. For many, the endorphins and the "high" that follow pain are worth the discomfort of the pain itself. For some, the act of submitting and letting someone hurt them is the turn on. It works differently for different people. For me, it's a combination of those things. i'm not turned on by stubbing my toe or jamming my finger or getting a papercut. i'm certainly not turned on by the dog that bites me at work (i'm a dog groomer) or scratches me with it's toenails. But being paddled, whipped, flogged, caned, even burned or cut, under the right circumstances, because i've submitted to accept it and am in the right mindset, with the right person whom i trust implicitly, it's a totally different ball game. A woman, a masochist, who taught a class on pain processing that i found intensely fascinating said, "What is pain without fear and shame? Merely intense sensation." Meaning that pain has a psychological association with feelings of fear and shame and negativity. Some of us don't have that connection or are able to overcome it until pain becomes merely an intense sensation that we have a capacity to enjoy. Pain also serves the purpose of catharsis. It helps me deal with stress, anxiety, self-doubt, guilt, sadness, mourning, anger, and other negative emotions. It helps me to release them. It helps me to cry when i need to but i've been fighting back the tears for too long or too hard so that i can't let them fall anymore. It lets me have a much needed release that is hard to find otherwise. Pain turns me on, it makes me feel good, it relaxes me, it clears my mind, it lightens the load on my shoulders, and has very good psychological benefits for me.
Neither submission nor pain work for everyone. In fact, i think people like Kira and i are in the minority in this, really. But for those of us who can enjoy it, it's magic. Others find their magic in other ways.
11/10/2012
G&L G&L
Admittedly I'm a history nerd, but all I can think about is Charles Sumner in response to this question...
11/10/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
See Kira's comments. i agree 100%. i'm a submissive in a D/s relationship. Punishment is part of my relationship and pain, whether as punishment or for pleasure, is a part of my life that i love and couldn't ever do without. Like Kira, ... More
Yes, all of that!

What is pain without fear and shame? Merely intense sensation.

I'd never heard that before, but I like it. I'd never really thought of it like that. I certainly don't like the type of pain when it's associated with fear - either punishment or things that startle me (stubbing my toe, serious injury, etc.).

I think people seem to think that enjoying pain means you enjoy *all* types of pain. Maybe there are a few masochists out there that enjoy stubbing their toe or getting in a car crash or what have you, but I'd bet it's a pretty seriously low number.

Pain also serves the purpose of catharsis. It helps me deal with stress, anxiety, self-doubt, guilt, sadness, mourning, anger, and other negative emotions. It helps me to release them. It helps me to cry when i need to but i've been fighting back the tears for too long or too hard so that i can't let them fall anymore.

Yup, that. After more anti-anxiety meds than I can even recall, every relaxation technique that exists, and then some, nothing can bring me down from anxiety and stress or depression like impact.
11/10/2012
Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
nah
11/10/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
Quote:
Originally posted by - Kira -
Yes, all of that!

What is pain without fear and shame? Merely intense sensation.

I'd never heard that before, but I like it. I'd never really thought of it like that. I certainly don't like the type of pain when it's ... More
The human body releases some pretty awesome natural pain relief responses too, which can equivocate a type of "high". I can feel loopy, giddy, silly, etc. Caning is pretty intense so it's one of my go-to sensations when i want either really severe catharsis or a really good "high" type feeling. In addition to the bodily chemical responses, i just feel lighter, my step feels springier, the weight on my shoulders is lifted, my spirits are higher, and i feel immeasurably more relaxed after a good scene.

Plus...I betcha didn't know, a cane can be used lightly! A whippy, supple cane can be used to bounce lightly off the skin, working over the entire body, without pain at all! Done in quick succession moving up and down the limbs and back and shoulders, chest, etc, depending on what side the person is laying on, actually feels really good. This is an incredibly sensual sensation, almost like massage. It's even better when the person wielding can use two canes at once, one in each hand. Two canes of different weights or resiliencies can be used this way to create an interesting alternating sensations, or two of the same. It can be rhythmic and percussive, which is very relaxing, or varied and infrequent to keep the bottom on their metaphorical toes. It's a great alternative use for the cane, a good warm up for harder strokes, or a way to vary intensity between harder strokes. Canes are a lot more variable than most people think!!
11/11/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I don't think I'd like it.
11/11/2012
dawnkye dawnkye
I loved reading the above thoughtful and interesting replies!

I've never experienced it, but I'm open to it. From either perspective. How do I know I won't love it if I haven't tried it! =)
11/11/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by dawnkye
I loved reading the above thoughtful and interesting replies!

I've never experienced it, but I'm open to it. From either perspective. How do I know I won't love it if I haven't tried it! =)
That's a wonderful attitude to have.
11/11/2012
MissMori MissMori
Kira, that was a very graceful reply. I am generally punished in different (non-corporal) ways, but I agree that living 24/7 is a dynamic that has to do with so much more than just sex! For those of us that choose it, it's not just some weird "sex life" thing. And lots of people have elements to their sex lives (and relationships) that I would never choose, but that are perfectly valid to them!

But to get to the question at hand, I really enjoy caning! I have a beautiful one picked out for Sir this Christmas, and the real challenge will be saving it until then!
11/11/2012
- Kira - - Kira -
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Originally posted by MissMori
Kira, that was a very graceful reply. I am generally punished in different (non-corporal) ways, but I agree that living 24/7 is a dynamic that has to do with so much more than just sex! For those of us that choose it, it's not just some weird ... More
Thanks! Happy to get someone else to chime in on the fact that it's so much more than sex.

Ooo! Which one?
11/11/2012
DomonCoshu DomonCoshu
I wouldn't mind spanking, but I would have to pass on being caned.
11/11/2012
Dixiemomma Dixiemomma
i love a flogger, whip or paddle, but i definitely shudder at the thought of a cane... naturally its my Misters favorite tool, but we too keep it just for punishment.. and i'm a VERY good girl so i'm hoping it stays packed away!!
11/11/2012
Gdom Gdom
I've done it (on the giving, not the receiving end), enjoyed it, and I'll certainly do it again.
11/11/2012
Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
I enjoy being spanked and paddled and hit with a flogger (not TOO hard), but I think a cane would be way to much for me.
11/11/2012
SaiDiscordia SaiDiscordia
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Originally posted by charletnarouh
See Kira's comments. i agree 100%. i'm a submissive in a D/s relationship. Punishment is part of my relationship and pain, whether as punishment or for pleasure, is a part of my life that i love and couldn't ever do without. Like Kira, ... More
Wow!VERY well said.It is so difficult for me to explain to people about my choice of lifestyle, but you have done an excellent job of it. The pleasure/pain is a beautiful, euphoric magic; while the punishments do seem to bring closure and absolution. Great post.
11/11/2012
LAndJ LAndJ
Definitely not for me.
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