Eden Kink - Basics of BDSM Discussion February 16th at 8 PM EST

Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by VieuxCarre
My formatting skills aren't that great, so I'm going to start the first topic of the night.

BASIC ROLES IN BDSM

Dominant: The person in control of a standard D/s relationship, usually in a position of power over a ... more
I just need to be patient.

I'm a Kinkster who usually identifies as a Top, but I'm starting to become a Switch. Be on the lookout for a blog post to the Cafe as soon as I write it.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
My formatting skills aren't that great, so I'm going to start the first topic of the night.

BASIC ROLES IN BDSM

Dominant: The person in control of a standard D/s relationship, usually in a position of power over a ... more
um maybe Kinster...but mayber Switch...not sure
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
I identify as a submissive and am actively involved in a D/s relationship with my partner, Gimla, who will be joining us shortly. For us, it goes beyond the bedroom. I perform acts of service for him such as house cleaning, writing journals, keeping up with directions he gives to me, as well as following certain speech protocols.

I'm one that enjoys structure and find this lifestyle fulfilling. I started in this lifestyle as a bottom and gradually found out that I enjoy more than just the play aspect of BDSM.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
My formatting skills aren't that great, so I'm going to start the first topic of the night.

BASIC ROLES IN BDSM

Dominant: The person in control of a standard D/s relationship, usually in a position of power over a ... more
For sure I am a bottom.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by Ajax
I think right now I would identify as a kinkster....but being a submissive is in every way an intriguing idea
What do you find intriguing about being submissive?
02/16/2011
Contributor: Gimla Gimla
Good evening all, I was setting some water on to boil and lighting candles.
02/16/2011
Contributor: LadyAurora LadyAurora
I'm a kinkster and a switch.
02/16/2011
Contributor: shrtnsweet shrtnsweet
I say right now I identify as a kinkster
02/16/2011
Contributor: danellejohns danellejohns
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
My formatting skills aren't that great, so I'm going to start the first topic of the night.

BASIC ROLES IN BDSM

Dominant: The person in control of a standard D/s relationship, usually in a position of power over a ... more
I think Kinkster would be the catagory i fall under.
02/16/2011
Contributor: namelesschaos namelesschaos
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
My formatting skills aren't that great, so I'm going to start the first topic of the night.

BASIC ROLES IN BDSM

Dominant: The person in control of a standard D/s relationship, usually in a position of power over a ... more
I identify as a switch as like being both dominant and submissive but I'm interested more in bedroom play not a whole lifestyle so I guess that makes me a Kinkster.
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by ValuptuousVirgo
um maybe Kinster...but mayber Switch...not sure
That's the beauty of BDSM. You don't have to fit a cookie cutter mold of anything.

While there are definitions of different roles in BDSM, there isn't ONE RIGHT WAY TO DO IT. If anyone ever tells you that, they're wrong. BDSM is what you make of it and however you feel you fit into it is how you fit into it.

You don't have to be just one thing
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by Gimla
Good evening all, I was setting some water on to boil and lighting candles.
Nice to meet you, VC's Sir...
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
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Originally posted by namelesschaos
I identify as a switch as like being both dominant and submissive but I'm interested more in bedroom play not a whole lifestyle so I guess that makes me a Kinkster.
I would have to agree with you with the bedroom play
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by Gimla
Good evening all, I was setting some water on to boil and lighting candles.
Isn't that *my* job, Sir?

For those of you who don't know, this is my Sir that I brag about on my blog and my Twitter if you follow me on either
02/16/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
My formatting skills aren't that great, so I'm going to start the first topic of the night.

BASIC ROLES IN BDSM

Dominant: The person in control of a standard D/s relationship, usually in a position of power over a ... more
So anyone who is not a D or S is a kinkster?

So what exactly does it mean to live the lifestyle?
02/16/2011
Contributor: LadyAurora LadyAurora
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Nice to meet you, VC's Sir...
Indeed.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
That's the beauty of BDSM. You don't have to fit a cookie cutter mold of anything.

While there are definitions of different roles in BDSM, there isn't ONE RIGHT WAY TO DO IT. If anyone ever tells you that, they're wrong. ... more
It's nice to see that. I know I"m not heavily involved in anything, but I have seen people being told that if they're a bottom, that's all they do, etc. Not very often, but I've seen it a few times.
02/16/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Isn't that *my* job, Sir?

For those of you who don't know, this is my Sir that I brag about on my blog and my Twitter if you follow me on either
Well we're very glad to have him here with us
02/16/2011
Contributor: Gimla Gimla
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Well we're very glad to have him here with us
I'll try and throw out my knowledge of BDSM if I can keep up with all you post crazy people!
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
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Originally posted by UrNaughtyaAngel
So anyone who is not a D or S is a kinkster?

So what exactly does it mean to live the lifestyle?
Living the lifestyle goes beyond just playing. I'm a submissive and Sir and I don't just play. I also perform acts of service for him that has me in submission to him at all times even when I'm not with him.

But, that's my definition of "living the lifestyle." There isn't really one way to do it as I said before, though.
02/16/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Living the lifestyle goes beyond just playing. I'm a submissive and Sir and I don't just play. I also perform acts of service for him that has me in submission to him at all times even when I'm not with him.

But, that's my ... more
Ok I understand now. I am a kinkster switch.
02/16/2011
Contributor: ValuptuousVirgo ValuptuousVirgo
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Living the lifestyle goes beyond just playing. I'm a submissive and Sir and I don't just play. I also perform acts of service for him that has me in submission to him at all times even when I'm not with him.

But, that's my ... more
I like being more dominent and in control
02/16/2011
Contributor: VieuxCarre VieuxCarre
Quote:
Originally posted by Jul!a
It's nice to see that. I know I"m not heavily involved in anything, but I have seen people being told that if they're a bottom, that's all they do, etc. Not very often, but I've seen it a few times.
I dislike when people tell others "This is what you are and you have to stick with it." That's absolutely not the case.

I have switch tendencies and the night that Sir met me I was actually beating two men in a public space. I'm a submissive with switch tendencies and that makes it a little more fun to be versatile.
02/16/2011
Contributor: danellejohns danellejohns
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Living the lifestyle goes beyond just playing. I'm a submissive and Sir and I don't just play. I also perform acts of service for him that has me in submission to him at all times even when I'm not with him.

But, that's my ... more
Not that I am trying to pry or anything but I have a stupid question or comment is more like it. Is there an example of what you mean by "submissive at all times"?
02/16/2011
Contributor: LadyAurora LadyAurora
So, how does a relationship between two switches work in the definition of "living the lifestyle?"
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
Living the lifestyle goes beyond just playing. I'm a submissive and Sir and I don't just play. I also perform acts of service for him that has me in submission to him at all times even when I'm not with him.

But, that's my ... more
Likewise, for us, we enjoy traditional roles in our daily life. My Mr and I live in an equal partnership outside the bedroom, however, inside the bedroom, he likes that he can let go of that and submit to me.
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Quote:
Originally posted by VieuxCarre
I dislike when people tell others "This is what you are and you have to stick with it." That's absolutely not the case.

I have switch tendencies and the night that Sir met me I was actually beating two men in a public space. ... more
From that one blog post that I read? That night?
02/16/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
From that one blog post that I read? That night?
read and commented on?
02/16/2011
Contributor: UrNaughtyaAngel UrNaughtyaAngel
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Originally posted by LadyAurora
So, how does a relationship between two switches work in the definition of "living the lifestyle?"
Oh this is an interesting
02/16/2011
Contributor: Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
From that one blog post that I read? That night?
I read that post as well.
02/16/2011