Eden Kink - Guest Speaker: lunaKM - Thursday September 29th at 8pm ET

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Eden Kink - Guest Speaker: lunaKM - Thursday September 29th at 8pm ET

luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Kake aka PoeticErotica
I have to run but I enjoyed the time I was able to be here very much! Thank you Rayne & Luna! Take care y'all!
Take care Kake!
09/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Kake aka PoeticErotica
I have to run but I enjoyed the time I was able to be here very much! Thank you Rayne & Luna! Take care y'all!
Thanks for being here Kake!
09/29/2011
Annabel Joseph Annabel Joseph
Luna, I have a question. How "open" are you about your relationship to your friends and family? Are there any home-based protocols that you carry out into the world with you?
09/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
To keep myself busy I make homemade cleaning agents, baking, cooking, frugal living, repair, knitting, sewing and a lot more in the works.
Have you ever tried canning food?
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Annabel Joseph
Luna, I have a question. How "open" are you about your relationship to your friends and family? Are there any home-based protocols that you carry out into the world with you?
How open am I? All of my friends are well aware of how I live my life, even the vanilla ones. My family mostly all is aware that I'm kinky but I don't go into any explicit conversations with them. They see me happy and that's all that matters to them.

There aren't very many protocols that I DON'T carry with me out into the world. I have proper ways to address KM and service personnel. I have special ways to order his food, open doors, ask questions, how to dress, how to apologize....
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Have you ever tried canning food?
Not yet. I will be trying water bath canning next summer and then save up (or be really really good) and get a pressure canner. I want to make salsa, marinara, can soup, stock, pickles and so much more.
09/29/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
Is it possible to be a very sensitive and caring dominant? Or does a dominant always have to come across as an abusive bitch or bastard?
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
The projects I mentioned at the beginning of the hour are what I’m going to talk about next, but if you still have questions, I welcome them.

First is Submissive Guide. It’s in it’s 3rd year and it growing strong. Submissive Guide is a self-help and support site for submissives of all types. I do the bulk of the writing, but I do have contributors and guest authors all the time. There is also a community as well as paid and free classes and products available.

Then there is the larger network called Kink Network that KnyghtMare and I are building. Kinky-Blogging is almost out of beta. It’s an adult blog host run on WordPress. If you are a blogger and are afraid of the host deleting you, then you’d be safe at Kinky-Blogging.

We have other Kink Network related sites that are yet to get off the ground so... I’m not sharing.

Then the oldest site that I’ve maintained (not well recently) is The Iron Gate. You may have encountered it in your BDSM resource searches.

I’ve had a personal blog for almost 7 years now. I talk about a lot of things to do with my dynamic and everyday life. If you are interested that is.

Now... what other questions do you have for me?
09/29/2011
Annabel Joseph Annabel Joseph
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
How open am I? All of my friends are well aware of how I live my life, even the vanilla ones. My family mostly all is aware that I'm kinky but I don't go into any explicit conversations with them. They see me happy and that's all that ...
So were you always interested in lots of protocols, or was that something KM was into? Or something you just both enjoyed from the start?

Are there ever times the protocols are "relaxed?" Like, if you're sick, or there are issues going on with your greater family, or when you're on holiday?
09/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
Not yet. I will be trying water bath canning next summer and then save up (or be really really good) and get a pressure canner. I want to make salsa, marinara, can soup, stock, pickles and so much more.
I think you'll really like it. My mom does a lot with the pressure cooker and she loves it. I'd love to try and trade recipes when you start the process
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Is it possible to be a very sensitive and caring dominant? Or does a dominant always have to come across as an abusive bitch or bastard?
It's very possible to be a sensitive and caring dominant. KM is not a bitch, abusive or a bastard (unless during play and then he's an evil bastard but I love it). There is a difference between being a Domineering asshole and a Dominant.
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I think you'll really like it. My mom does a lot with the pressure cooker and she loves it. I'd love to try and trade recipes when you start the process
Sounds like a plan!
09/29/2011
Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
It's very possible to be a sensitive and caring dominant. KM is not a bitch, abusive or a bastard (unless during play and then he's an evil bastard but I love it). There is a difference between being a Domineering asshole and a Dominant.
This!
09/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
The projects I mentioned at the beginning of the hour are what I’m going to talk about next, but if you still have questions, I welcome them.

First is Submissive Guide. It’s in it’s 3rd year and it growing strong. Submissive Guide is a ...
What does a typical day entail for you? I know you mentioned it briefly, but are there any specifics you can share?
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Annabel Joseph
So were you always interested in lots of protocols, or was that something KM was into? Or something you just both enjoyed from the start?

Are there ever times the protocols are "relaxed?" Like, if you're sick, or there are issues ...
Protocol has always been a huge interest for me. I've added more of my own that KM has loved and said I couldn't stop

Relaxed protocols, rarely. When I'm sick of course I'm not expected to do the housework and KM will ask if I'm well enough to make his coffee and I get more than the limited TV time when I'm sick which I tend to abuse.

We actually step it up when on holiday because it's like we are away from home and can immerse ourselves in a new and interesting world.
09/29/2011
Taylor Taylor
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Is it possible to be a very sensitive and caring dominant? Or does a dominant always have to come across as an abusive bitch or bastard?
Definitely, my Dom rarely brings out his sadist side with me. I think he recognized that I need more of a strong, protective figure than a harsh one.
09/29/2011
Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Is it possible to be a very sensitive and caring dominant? Or does a dominant always have to come across as an abusive bitch or bastard?
In my experience a dominant comes across how they want as long as they're dominant. Saying you're dominant and acting submissive doesn't tend to work. But my owner is very caring, he doesn't always let people see that side but it's there and it's most of what I see in him. I've actually noticed a lot of dominants are big tough guys (guys being a general term here btw)that scare the shit out of people but in private are very caring with their sub. You portray what you want others to see and you act how you want to act just like in the normal vanilla world. *shrugs* my two cents anyways. I have yet to find a dominant that is always dominating and holding up that image. Abusive though.. a real dominant is never abusive. Ever.
09/29/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
The projects I mentioned at the beginning of the hour are what I’m going to talk about next, but if you still have questions, I welcome them.

First is Submissive Guide. It’s in it’s 3rd year and it growing strong. Submissive Guide is a ...
Do you know if anyone has something like your Submissive Guide set up for dominants?

And repeating the question of "Is there a good BDSM terminology dictionary that you know of?"
09/29/2011
Annabel Joseph Annabel Joseph
Luna, I know that protocols are in themselves a type of restraint, but what about actual physical restraints or reminders of your slavehood? Do you wear a collar? Are there certain times you're kept in restraints? I've been reading a lot about the "odalisque" lifestyle and a big part of it is restraint and bondage to deepen feelings of submission and being owned. Does KM use these tactics? (sorry if these questions are too personal)
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Jul!a
What does a typical day entail for you? I know you mentioned it briefly, but are there any specifics you can share?
I get up at 7:30 and am at the gym by 8:15am. I get home and check my email and dink around on the computer until 10am. I wake KM at 10, make his coffee and start housework, baking and whatever laundry/chores need to be done. I try to get any errands done on one day each week.

Lunch is at 12:30pm and I refill KM's coffee. I start writing and website work at 1pm and at 2pm is KM's break so I make more coffee and either spend time with him or spend "time" with him. *winks* Back to work at 3:00 until 5pm when I start working on dinner, check the mail and take a break to do some knitting or tv watching.

The evenings are pretty free. Km likes to play PC games so I knit, watch TV if I have time left, keep working, blog and social network with people.

Bedtime is at 10:30 and I have to have the kitchen picked up and the dishwasher running by then or I'm in trouble.
09/29/2011
Annabel Joseph Annabel Joseph
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Do you know if anyone has something like your Submissive Guide set up for dominants?

And repeating the question of "Is there a good BDSM terminology dictionary that you know of?"
Ivy, there is SM 101 by Jay Wiseman. It is a pretty exhaustive book with lots of definitions and information. I think people very widely consider it the "definitive" SM handbook (although some disagree.)
09/29/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by Serenesub
In my experience a dominant comes across how they want as long as they're dominant. Saying you're dominant and acting submissive doesn't tend to work. But my owner is very caring, he doesn't always let people see that side but ...
I wonder if that's why I have some issues socially. Not in the BDSM world, just in general. I was raised to be very polite and considerate of other people, and so perhaps people perceive me as submissive. But I am not. So when people try and treat me like they are better than me or have to right to tell me what to do, things go very, very badly.

My hubby and close friends understand me and get along well with me, but I think I confuse most other people.
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Do you know if anyone has something like your Submissive Guide set up for dominants?

And repeating the question of "Is there a good BDSM terminology dictionary that you know of?"
I own the domain for DominantGuide.com and am working to get support for it so that it can get off the ground, there currently isn't anything like Submissive Guide out there for Dominants.

For a dictionary.... there are several. The Deviant's Dictionary is the oldest that I know of. link

There is one on the Iron Gate (which I own) link

Wikipedia is also getting better at having BDSM terms.
09/29/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
I get up at 7:30 and am at the gym by 8:15am. I get home and check my email and dink around on the computer until 10am. I wake KM at 10, make his coffee and start housework, baking and whatever laundry/chores need to be done. I try to get any errands ...
I love that you said "dink around on the computer," I can't remember the last time I heard that phrasing lol. Thank you for sharing
09/29/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by Annabel Joseph
Ivy, there is SM 101 by Jay Wiseman. It is a pretty exhaustive book with lots of definitions and information. I think people very widely consider it the "definitive" SM handbook (although some disagree.)
Thanks! I'll look it up. Is there anything similar online?
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Annabel Joseph
Luna, I know that protocols are in themselves a type of restraint, but what about actual physical restraints or reminders of your slavehood? Do you wear a collar? Are there certain times you're kept in restraints? I've been reading a lot ...
I have a stainless steel collar that never comes off. KM loves rope bondage and will often tie me up in something that limits mobility and expects me to continue about my day. He also likes to tie in dildos, butt plugs or make me wear ben-wa balls.
09/29/2011
Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
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Originally posted by luna[KM]
I own the domain for DominantGuide.com and am working to get support for it so that it can get off the ground, there currently isn't anything like Submissive Guide out there for Dominants.

For a dictionary.... there are several. The ...
Thanks for the links!
09/29/2011
Rayne Millaray Rayne Millaray
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
Thanks! I'll look it up. Is there anything similar online?
Fetlife has a BDSM Glossary. You have to be a member but membership is free.
09/29/2011
Serenesub Serenesub
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Originally posted by Ivy Wilde
I wonder if that's why I have some issues socially. Not in the BDSM world, just in general. I was raised to be very polite and considerate of other people, and so perhaps people perceive me as submissive. But I am not. So when people try and ...
I'm the exact opposite. I grew up with some very strong women and some farm women and some biker women. I'm told that I'm abrasive and intimidating and not at all submissive. Though I have moments. It takes a lot to get me angry so not many people get me to that point. Once I am though? They never forget and they're much more cautious.

In the end though, it's better to have a small group of friends that know you and respect you than a large group I think.
09/29/2011
luna[KM] luna[KM]
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I love that you said "dink around on the computer," I can't remember the last time I heard that phrasing lol. Thank you for sharing
I also make up a lot of gibberish words since I'm not allowed to swear. It makes for a funny look from KM.
09/29/2011
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