My oldest daughter has ADHD. She is very difficult to live with, she cannot concentrate, she flies into rages without warning. I don't know if she is expressing common behavior of most people with ADHD (which I DO think is over diagnosed, particularly over self
diagnosed!) but she has actual, severe, hard to treat ADHD.
When she was on Adderall, she did VERY well. She could concentrate, she was better able to express herself without anger, she could sit still etc. When she was 21, her neurologist told her she was "too old" be be taking Adderall and took her off of it cold turkey. She was sick as a dog for weeks, she lost her job, she dropped out of school and I HATE that doctor who thinks that one suddenly can be "cured" of a serious neurological disease simply by turning a certain age. She has not functioned well since getting off the Adderall, and her life is miserable.
When she was a small child she would cry with frustration and say, "Mama, help me, I can't stop moving, I can't stop screaming, I can't stop thinking, I can't stop. MAKE IT STOP!" We took her back to the Pediatric Neurologist, who was treating her for Tourette Syndrome and he recommended Adderall (a different doctor than the evil woman doctor who she insisted on and who then yanked her off the meds that made functioning possible) My Man and I didn't want to "put our baby on speed." So we said no. We nearly lost our child to our neglect and our ridiculous ideals of "no drugs." She came close to harming herself, because she was so out of control. We allowed her to be put on the Adderall, and it saved her life!!!! She could suddenly think clearly, she could sit still, she started getting the grades that her IQ showed she was capable of getting, she went from a D student to nearly straight As. For 12 years, she was OK, well, close to OK. When she was taken off the Adderall, her life caved in.
Sorry, but this condition has made her life nearly unlivable. I do think children and adults with TRUE ADHD NEED treatment
. We nearly destroyed our daughter by trying to be cool and "Organic" and refusing treatment. What if she had hurt herself simply because I was so "anti-drug" for kids? Jesus, I would have never forgiven myself. Self diagnosis is NOT recommended
, IMO, as a nurse and a mother, only a good Pediatric Neurologist along with a Psychotherapist can diagnose and treat ADHD properly. Pediatricians don't know enough nor have the time to either diagnose or treat.
You don't have "a little ADHD" anymore than you have "a little OCD" or "a little diabetes" or "a little cancer." These are all serious illnesses and need proper diagnosis and treatment. I've lived through many of them and know.
I don't know if she will ever be the same now. I wish she would find a GOOD (hopefully male) Neurologist who will put her back on the medication so she can FUNCTION.