Story Etiquette

Woman China Woman China
I've been writing erotica for a few years now, and I've been blogging for quite a while now too. There are a few tips I've picked up along the way and one in particular that I think should be shared here as we have stories and works being posted.

When you publish something; that feeling you get of wanting to skip around and shout out that that is you there in all your worded glory is grand. And everyone gets it. But that feeling fades a little each time you go back to your story and see that no one has yet to comment.

Then suddenly one day, there is actually a real comment from someone other than your mother!!! So how do you deal with it?

Say thank-you of course!!!!

People who comment on your work may give you praise, critique, share with you their opinions on content, style or so much else and sometimes even relate to what you have spoken of in your work. And sometimes, even negative and hurtful comments.

First. Ignore the negative and the hurtful comments. There is a big difference between critique and negativity. Critique is good!!! Negativity bad. And unfortunately, there are just some sad and mean people out there that don't want to see you succeed. But this is not about these types of comments.

You might feel a little miffed that someone tells you that they feel your work was too long, or too short, or not descriptive enough or your characters not "real" enough or whatever... but these comments are actually there to help you grow as a writer. And remember, everyone likes different things. I love lots of words and that is how I write. Some like short, sweet and to the point and that is how they write. And I have no problems saying just that.

When you read a comment that praises you, you'll feel as if you are on cloud nine for a while!!! And this is good!!!

It takes time for a person to comment on your work, you are there on the page reading it. Drop a line and tell your reader thank-you for reading, enjoying, leaving a critique... acknowledge that you appreciate their words.

So I ask of you, what do you do when you get a comment on your work here, or on your blog, or somewhere else? What was your favourite comment? What other story etiquette techniques do you think should be mentioned?
01/27/2012
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Taylor Taylor
That sounds like really good advice! thank you for sharing. I don't write much, but if I decide to sometime, I will keep these tips in mind.
01/27/2012
FemmeFlo FemmeFlo
Thank you for sharing this. I don't know if it's too forward to ask, but where do you publish your erotica? I'd like to read it.

I also write and post my work online sometimes. Whenever someone posts a negative comment, my friends overwhelm them and tell them they're wrong. I don't take it personally anyways.
01/27/2012
Woman China Woman China
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Originally posted by FemmeFlo
Thank you for sharing this. I don't know if it's too forward to ask, but where do you publish your erotica? I'd like to read it.

I also write and post my work online sometimes. Whenever someone posts a negative comment, my friends ... More
I publish my work on my blog mostly at The World According to Woman and from time to time I have things here along with some other authors on the EdenLit Blog.
01/27/2012
Kkay Kkay
This is a nice, supportive faq on dealing with critique. One of the most difficult parts of writing can be ego.

For me, I always try to respond with a thank you, and only engage in a dialogue when I think it'll actually be beneficial to the story in question.
01/27/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
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Originally posted by Woman China
I've been writing erotica for a few years now, and I've been blogging for quite a while now too. There are a few tips I've picked up along the way and one in particular that I think should be shared here as we have stories and works being ... More
Thanks for sharing. I have also found that comments made on book reviews in the general community do not receive a fair scrutiny or assessment. I believe writing a book review requires a different technique that is more difficult (and sometimes more time consuming) to compose over the more common sex toys. Because of this, you're comments here are very welcome.
02/06/2012
Kitka Kitka
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Originally posted by Woman China
I publish my work on my blog mostly at The World According to Woman and from time to time I have things here along with some other authors on the EdenLit Blog. ... More
Great advice and I just started following your blog!
02/06/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Woman China
I've been writing erotica for a few years now, and I've been blogging for quite a while now too. There are a few tips I've picked up along the way and one in particular that I think should be shared here as we have stories and works being ... More
Might I reference this post in our meeting Woman?
02/08/2012
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by FemmeFlo
Thank you for sharing this. I don't know if it's too forward to ask, but where do you publish your erotica? I'd like to read it.

I also write and post my work online sometimes. Whenever someone posts a negative comment, my friends ... More
If you would like to, drop us a URL to your blog and we'll check it out!
02/08/2012
Woman China Woman China
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
Might I reference this post in our meeting Woman?
But of course!!!! You're more than welcome to use this!!!
02/08/2012
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