I made a point of copying the passage in the book about erotica:
1. READ. Studies have shown that women who read romantic fiction have better sex lives than those who don’t. My guess is it’s because they’re exercising their most potent sexual organ—their brain! So read on, and keep an open mind about erotica, which is an entirely different animal than pornography. With something available for every personal taste, erotica can be enjoyable and titillating, and will go a long way toward putting you in a sexy state of mind. (Plus you might just pick up a tip or two.)
Professor’s notes
A word about erotica. I do recommend erotica as a teaching tool, because I firmly believe that many women are drawn to erotica not only for the sex, but also for the way the women in these stories have sex. So when you read erotica, think about your own sex life and compare it, not by act but by attitude, to those you read about. The characters in erotic stories approach sex in ways that are experimental, curious, adventurous, spontaneous, empowering, and joyful. They are having the kind of sex life real women would love to have. They are pleasing themselves, and by extension, their lovers, without judgment or guilt. That’s powerful and very sexy!
Check out Can’t Help the Way That I Feel, edited by yours truly, and The I.O.U., The Gift, and The List, by Elle, from the Elle Series, elegant erotica for the grown and sexy.
