I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would not like/agree with.
Do you ever get physically turned on by porn that intellectually you are opposed to? If so, how do you feel about it?
07/13/2012
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Oh sure, happens all the time to me! It's understandable - porn is fantasy, and entertainment. I look at it this way:
The same way I love watching sci-fi and zombie flicks, but would never really want to go into space or be chased by a zombie... I can enjoy watching something in porn I'd never want to do in real life. No guilt here!
The same way I love watching sci-fi and zombie flicks, but would never really want to go into space or be chased by a zombie... I can enjoy watching something in porn I'd never want to do in real life. No guilt here!
07/13/2012
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Yes, I do get turned on by things I am actually against in RL.
Originally posted by
Experiment
I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would
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I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would not like/agree with.
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07/13/2012
I get turned on by things I actually find myself disturbed by, and sometimes it actually bothers me, but for the most part, I'm alright with having fantasies that are a little bit wrong.
07/13/2012
If it's any consolation, studies have been done showing that women in particular are physically turned on by basically any sort of erotic image, regardless of beliefs, sexual orientation--even species! Just because you're responding physically doesn't necessarily mean you're really "turned on."
07/13/2012
i have and i hate it
07/13/2012
Many hentai and yaoi fans are opposed to lolicon and shotacon on the principle that it explicitly depicts underage characters having sexual relations. Even though they are just drawings and no underage persons were harmed to make lolicon or shotacon anime/manga, I initially didn't feel comfortable about such materials. I was reading one of the Gravitation Megamix doujinshi, and it featured a flashback to a character's childhood in which he had sexual contact with his tutor. I found myself turned on, and that disturbed me. I am not attracted to minors in real life at all. When I thought about it some more, I think it was the loss of innocence and awakening of sexuality of the character that was a turn on. I was very sexual myself from a young age, so I could relate to that. I also had sexual relationships with older men when I was underage, so I think it reminded me of that. Fantasies are just that. People often fantasize about things they would never actually do.
07/13/2012
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Oh god always D:
Originally posted by
Experiment
I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would
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I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would not like/agree with.
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07/13/2012
Yes, I can get into really hard core stuff. Harder than my husband likes.
I used to think there was something "wrong" with me, so I stopped getting into those thoughts and even those fantasies.... and I couldn't orgasm. (This was years ago and unrelated to my hormone issues that caused the same side effect from a totally different reason.) So, for a long time it was back to the fantasies but not the porn.
Now, I figure, whatever works, works. It brings me closer to climax, so that when I'm having a hard time I can climax. I know the people engaging in it are adults and should know what they are doing, so I indulge from time to time. No more guilt. No more trying to stop the fantasies etc.
My Man seems to think (like a lot of people) that a fantasy is something you want to do. Of course, being a guy, his number one fantasy (that I know of) is having two or more women... and he wants that once. Uh, I'm different. I don't WANT the stuff I watch in porn a lot of the times. Some of it, yeah. I realized I was fantasizing about anal play and anal sex for years, and My Man was asking for it and I was resisting. Why? It was just the two of us, and I though I might enjoy it. So, that fantasy was made a reality.
But, a lot of the stuff I enjoy is JUST fantasy. I even tried to explain that to him last night. We were watching some stuff I picked out and he was saying stuff like, "You like this stuff. You want this stuff, stuff like this? Damn, you're kinky, woman. (Big smile from him.) Do you want this? Let's..." and I stopped him right there and let him know, "It's JUST fantasy. I DON'T WANT it for myself. As for the woman in the video, she's an adult, she knows what she's getting herself into and even the plot of the video makes it clear these are her fantasies. It isn't reality. OK?"
I hope that was clear. I used to feel disingenuous liking porn that some would consider "degrading" but I've grown and no longer accept the whole "victim mentality" that so many people let themselves get sucked into. If these things triggered me, it would be different. They used to, they don't anymore. I've grown. I can enjoy them, occasionally, not a steady diet of them and know who I am and what I want in bed in reality.
I used to think there was something "wrong" with me, so I stopped getting into those thoughts and even those fantasies.... and I couldn't orgasm. (This was years ago and unrelated to my hormone issues that caused the same side effect from a totally different reason.) So, for a long time it was back to the fantasies but not the porn.
Now, I figure, whatever works, works. It brings me closer to climax, so that when I'm having a hard time I can climax. I know the people engaging in it are adults and should know what they are doing, so I indulge from time to time. No more guilt. No more trying to stop the fantasies etc.
My Man seems to think (like a lot of people) that a fantasy is something you want to do. Of course, being a guy, his number one fantasy (that I know of) is having two or more women... and he wants that once. Uh, I'm different. I don't WANT the stuff I watch in porn a lot of the times. Some of it, yeah. I realized I was fantasizing about anal play and anal sex for years, and My Man was asking for it and I was resisting. Why? It was just the two of us, and I though I might enjoy it. So, that fantasy was made a reality.
But, a lot of the stuff I enjoy is JUST fantasy. I even tried to explain that to him last night. We were watching some stuff I picked out and he was saying stuff like, "You like this stuff. You want this stuff, stuff like this? Damn, you're kinky, woman. (Big smile from him.) Do you want this? Let's..." and I stopped him right there and let him know, "It's JUST fantasy. I DON'T WANT it for myself. As for the woman in the video, she's an adult, she knows what she's getting herself into and even the plot of the video makes it clear these are her fantasies. It isn't reality. OK?"
I hope that was clear. I used to feel disingenuous liking porn that some would consider "degrading" but I've grown and no longer accept the whole "victim mentality" that so many people let themselves get sucked into. If these things triggered me, it would be different. They used to, they don't anymore. I've grown. I can enjoy them, occasionally, not a steady diet of them and know who I am and what I want in bed in reality.
07/14/2012
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Yes, this happens to me all the time.
Originally posted by
Experiment
I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would
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07/14/2012
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The mind is an incredibly funny thing...you know that you oppose these things yet seeing it acted out is titillating mostly BECAUSE you feel so very strongly about the subject. So long as you realize that fantasy should remain fantasy about 90% of the time, I think you're ok.
Originally posted by
Experiment
I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would
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I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would not like/agree with.
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I always tell people that realizing that your body is reacting strongly, to a particular thought, scene or idea doesn't mean you are going to commit the crime or that you are a horrible, deranged person. It simply means that this is a subject you feel incredibly strongly about and your mind is reacting normally to intense stimuli.
Like Pasdechat said it doesn't mean you are really "turned on" by the thought but the feelings can be just as intense and lead to arousal or even orgasm.
07/18/2012
I think it's a fairly common occurrence to physically react to something that your conscious mind may find unappealing.
I know it isn't a light subject, but it does remind me of one my favorite Onion headlines ever: "Ironic porn purchase leads to unironic ejaculation."
I know it isn't a light subject, but it does remind me of one my favorite Onion headlines ever: "Ironic porn purchase leads to unironic ejaculation."
07/24/2012
The louder the actors and actresses are the more turned on I am, even if there is no great sex scene or plot.
I am a little embarrassed by it.
I am a little embarrassed by it.
07/27/2012
As sexual beings, we want that "take me now and hard" love life.
As emotional and spiritual people, we need loving, trusting relationships where 2 people are seen as equals and treat each other with respect.
These 2 ideas conflict with each other but it's normal. We just need to agree to disagree with our mind sometimes
As emotional and spiritual people, we need loving, trusting relationships where 2 people are seen as equals and treat each other with respect.
These 2 ideas conflict with each other but it's normal. We just need to agree to disagree with our mind sometimes
07/28/2012
I'm turned on by femdom and I don't want to go around kidnapping people and sexually torturing them. Nor do I even want to experiment that way with my boyfriend. I just allow myself to daydream and turn my morality off every once and a while. I feel bad about it but I've been trying to stop the guilt and be nicer to myself.
08/13/2012
We don't watch porn.
08/13/2012
I don't watch a ton of porn, but yes, I'm in the same boat as you. I never mind while I'm watching something, but afterwards, I'll occasionally feel a little grossed out by what I just masturbated over, even though I know that it's just fantasy & it's not something I have any reason to feel guilty about.
08/24/2012
Anytime I see sex on camera I get physically aroused- even during a rape scene when I feel like crying and throwing up. I don't think that physical arousal is necessarily a sign of anything mental or emotional. I hope no one ever feels ashamed by a simple physical reaction as we are humans and this is how our bodies work. I think it's more like our sub consciousnesses reach for what turns them on just by being triggered by anything sexual sometimes. I do not get turned on by rale or molestation or even pain or violence or degradation but I see sex and I react. Just naked bodies does it. Guys have so much more experience with this than woman because of erections. It's too bad women don't get the same consideration. I'd definitely prefer a physical/emotional and mental arousal but physical on its own can be dismissed.
09/13/2012
Oh wow, yes. I'm very much a feminist and I definitely have found some great actively consensual queer/otherwise what I would consider "good," but I also look at some porn that kind of makes me nervous after the fact. I have super mixed emotions about it. :/
09/13/2012
09/23/2012
IT'S ACTING
09/23/2012
I did go to the really naughty places in porn, now im staying with softcore, lesbian, and a little hentai.
10/30/2012
Porn is an escape from reality, there's no reason to feel bad about it
11/19/2012
oh I feel you there. I am a curious porn watcher, I will watch just about anything just to see what it's like.
I do usually get turned on eventually, because, in the end it's erotic stuff. And that's okay because (hopefully) no one is actually getting hurt or abused in a way they don't want, and I'm just letting my inner animal get worked up. The brain doesn't always interfere!
I will admit that there are some types of porn that I just find so distasteful that I don't get turned on...I think everyone has a line.
I do usually get turned on eventually, because, in the end it's erotic stuff. And that's okay because (hopefully) no one is actually getting hurt or abused in a way they don't want, and I'm just letting my inner animal get worked up. The brain doesn't always interfere!
I will admit that there are some types of porn that I just find so distasteful that I don't get turned on...I think everyone has a line.
11/20/2012
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Nope
Originally posted by
Experiment
I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would
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I'm a woman and a hard-core feminist, and yet often find myself watching porn that is particularly degrading for women. I'm wondering if anyone else out there finds themselves sexually turned on buy things in their everyday life they would not like/agree with.
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11/20/2012
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^This.
Originally posted by
indiglo
Oh sure, happens all the time to me! It's understandable - porn is fantasy, and entertainment. I look at it this way:
The same way I love watching sci-fi and zombie flicks, but would never really want to go into space or be chased by a ... more
The same way I love watching sci-fi and zombie flicks, but would never really want to go into space or be chased by a ... more
Oh sure, happens all the time to me! It's understandable - porn is fantasy, and entertainment. I look at it this way:
The same way I love watching sci-fi and zombie flicks, but would never really want to go into space or be chased by a zombie... I can enjoy watching something in porn I'd never want to do in real life. No guilt here! less
The same way I love watching sci-fi and zombie flicks, but would never really want to go into space or be chased by a zombie... I can enjoy watching something in porn I'd never want to do in real life. No guilt here! less
I'm also a hardcore feminist, but sometimes I like watching really kinky, hardcore porn. For me, porn is a way to explore things I wouldn't be comfortable with in real life, like rape play. I have also never felt insecure about my sex life from watching porn, like some people do. Porn stars are sexual olympians, they do things with their bodies which I could never dream of, and I'm ok with that. Frankly, some of those positions seem to be more painful than fun, and I would get tired of sex after a while. Basically, I see porn as I see the olympics. It gives me an escape, and new ideas to try in bed
11/28/2012
I can get turned on by just about anything involving sexy women having sex. There are a few lines I can never cross (vomiting for example) but many things I'm opposed to in the normal, porn-free world that I can accept, and even feel turned on by when watching it on a screen (spitting for example).
11/28/2012
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That's just...fascinating. Thanks so much for the link. I love these kind of articles.
Originally posted by
pasdechat
If it's any consolation, studies have been done showing that women in particular are physically turned on by basically any sort of erotic image, regardless of beliefs, sexual orientation--even species! Just because you're responding
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If it's any consolation, studies have been done showing that women in particular are physically turned on by basically any sort of erotic image, regardless of beliefs, sexual orientation--even species! Just because you're responding physically doesn't necessarily mean you're really "turned on."
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01/09/2013
I find myself turned on sometimes even when I find the subject not in-line with my ideal fantasy.
01/11/2013
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This makes a lot of sense, considering I don't always like the porn I'm watching but it can still put me in the mood.
Originally posted by
pasdechat
If it's any consolation, studies have been done showing that women in particular are physically turned on by basically any sort of erotic image, regardless of beliefs, sexual orientation--even species! Just because you're responding
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more
If it's any consolation, studies have been done showing that women in particular are physically turned on by basically any sort of erotic image, regardless of beliefs, sexual orientation--even species! Just because you're responding physically doesn't necessarily mean you're really "turned on."
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