Reviewers Spotlight - Beck and TheSinDoll

I have many times. I have one published on Eden cafe. It's linked to my profile if you want to read it.

I do read it from time to time. I seem to like the more violent ones. It's weird. I can be lost in an erotic book for days. I can't say for sure what my favorite author is.

We don't get slack from anyone really. We get get a lot of confused faces. Like the lady who cut my hair yesterday wanted to small talk, so I started to talk about hubby, kids, and blah, blah. Well, she looked puzzled when I mentioned my older step child in college. So, she had to ask...how old are you? So, I had to tell her about our age difference.

There is one lady that hubby works with who will make comments in him about "how could anyone have that much in common with someone who is half their age?" Other than that we don't have any issues unless we are in the store and someone thinks I am the daughter and hits on hubby. That is always a great shocker to them. We laugh it all off, so it rarely bothers us.

Well, a fetish club - depends on the area. Some are good. Some are shit. Some can be intimidating. If you;re new to BDSM, I wouldn't suggest busting up into one. Some of those places can be crawling with crazies. Fuck knows no one needs any of those in our lives.

New to BDSM - check out your local community. See what they have to offer. Read. There's some great books out there. Be honest with your partner and with yourself about what you want out of each experience. Keep a journal, maybe even a blog. It might help you to organize your thoughts. What you 'think' you might like, you really might not. Trust me, I've been there. Get references. Seriously. Don't be afraid to speak up, EVER. Sometimes "No" and even "Fuck off" can be your best friends. Never be afraid to stand your ground and don't be swayed. Don't get so frenzied that you want to try everything at once. Go slow. Watch. Listen. Learn. Ask questions. If someone can't take the time to help someone that's new, then you know then and there what you're dealing with. Be open, be honest. Be yourself. And hell... if it ain't fun, don't do it.

I would recommend that the couple learn how to laugh off what others say about their age gap. Everyone seems to have something to say about it whether it is a joke or it isn't...learn how to laugh it off. Don't let what people say bother you because it will not turn out good for the relationship.

Age is just a number. There are some people that are my age that have the maturity level of a 40 year old. And there are 40 year old's who act like they are toddlers, so age doesn't show maturity. Maturity is impacted by what things have happened to you in the past. So you can have things in common with someone who is old enough to be your parent or even older. It's all about personality, not age.

You have to make time. It's not easy when you have to take care of the children and the house all day, but they have a bed time. When they go to bed, I relax. I don't care if that means I have to do dishes tomorrow or any other house work. My break starts when they go to bed. I have to have some down time for myself and I have to relax too. So, when it's bed time, I play some xbox, take a shower, and experimentation or play time begins. We always make time for sex because it isn't going to make time for us. Sex is very important in our relationship and sex toys are a part of that. I play at night. I am not really sure how I find time to review, but I do. I have been finding I have less time, but I try my hardest to at least write one a week.

I don't think anyone asked exactly that.

I look for many things. A "good" review is a useful review. It answers the majority of my questions, but still leaves me with some. So, the good review didn't really help me decide whether or not the item is for me. It's missing something that will make a difference in whether or not I desire this item.

A great review surprises me with details. It answers my questions and tells me things that a "good" review wouldn't.

You're sweet, Sugar!