#Workshop - October 3rd @ 8pm EST: Prostate massage 101

Before we delve into the how’s, I think it is best to look into the whys. For this we need to understand what the prostate is and how it functions. Taken from Wikipedia “The prostate (from Greek - prostates, literally "one who stands before", "protector", "guardian”) is a compound tubuloalveolarexocrine gland of the male reproductive system in most mammals. The function of the prostate is to store and secrete a slightly alkaline fluid, milky or white in appearance, that usually constitutes 20-30% of the volume of the semen along with spermatozoa and seminal vesicle fluid. The alkalinity of semen helps neutralize the acidity of the vaginal tract, prolonging the lifespan of sperm. The alkalinization of semen is primarily accomplished through secretion from the seminal vesicles. The prostatic fluid is expelled in the first ejaculate fractions, together with most of the spermatozoa. In comparison with the few spermatozoa expelled together with mainly seminal vesicular fluid, those expelled in prostatic fluid have better motility, longer survival and better protection of the genetic material (DNA). The prostate also contains some smooth muscles that help expel semen during ejaculation.”

So, pretty much its function is to provide a base for the sperm to survive in as it makes it way out of the penis. Most will recognize this fluid as pre-come, the clear fluid that comes out during an excited state. One reason to massage the prostate is to keep this fluid fresh. If it sits in the prostate it can become stagnate. Now, regular ejaculation will also help to refresh the supply as well, but by massaging the prostate we are sure to get all the bad stuff out. Think of the Prostate like a sponge, during regular orgasm you are just applying a small amount of pressure. During prostate massage you are wringing the sponge fully. less

OK, so now that we know the function it’s time to talk about the how. We are going to look at this from the anal beginner side of things. I am assuming that most of you have at least touched your/his anus and probably put a finger or two in there before. I am also going to assume that you have talked with your partner, for the gals wanting to do this to your man, and you both feel comfortable with the idea of exploring this stimulating experience. Remember that communication is a HUGE key to your success.

Let’s start with some basics shall we? Take a shower and clean up, eh? If you are worried about the Poo factor, make sure you have a BM beforehand. The rectum does not store feces; it is more of a staging area so most of the time it is empty. Still, if your worried, an anal douche will help to clean the rectum out. Enemas’ are not really needed, plus with an enema it will take a long time for all the stuff to clear the system. I have a shower attachment that works well but you can get one of the bulb style douche’s form EF or a Fleet enema from the drug store. Empty the contents out and just use warm water. Do this about an hour before hand, this allows the rectum’s natural mucous a chance to recoat the area. The mucous helps to protect the tissues. This also applies to any kind of anal play, whether with toys or a penis. less

Next up let’s talk about lube. USE IT! (No, spit does not work so don’t even think about it.) And don’t be shy about it. Pour it on and keep the bottle handy in case you need more. Guys do not be afraid to let your partner know you need more; there is not any natural lube in there, you are the supplier. One thing that will ruin the fun is pain; lube will go a long way in preventing that. What kind you use is up to you, I like a water based lube like Maximus. Silicone and oil based lubes will last longer but clean up may be harder. The key here is to use it.

Another good idea is a rubber/latex type glove. This helps with clean up and also protects the delicate anus/rectum from finger nails. Ladies, if you have long nails you can place a cotton ball in the fingers of the glove to keep the nails from poking through. less

Next up let’s talk about lube. USE IT! (No, spit does not work so don’t even think about it.) And don’t be shy about it. Pour it on and keep the bottle handy in case you need more. Guys do not be afraid to let your partner know you need more; there is not any natural lube in there, you are the supplier. One thing that will ruin the fun is pain; lube will go a long way in preventing that. What kind you use is up to you, I like a water based lube like Maximus. Silicone and oil based lubes will last longer but clean up may be harder. The key here is to use it.

Another good idea is a rubber/latex type glove. This helps with clean up and also protects the delicate anus/rectum from finger nails. Ladies, if you have long nails you can place a cotton ball in the fingers of the glove to keep the nails from poking through. less