Help! She likes anal play but not anal sex!?!?!?!?!?!

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Help! She likes anal play but not anal sex!?!?!?!?!?!

shooters shooters
so my partner likes anal play but has a really hard time picking out a toy. the times when we did have anal sex she ended up crying and not liking it period but likes/loves anal play. she looks at anal toys but can never make a decision on what kinda toy she would like and I don't want to buy one and her not like it and waste the money on something that will never get used. what would anyone suggest in toys or anything that she might like for anal play!!!!
11/01/2012
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ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
Is the size what she doesn't like about anal sex? It seems like that's what it is since she ended up crying. She could learn to like it if you helped her work up to the size of a penis. It also takes you going very slow and always asking how she's doing. Don't forget the lube either!

Maybe start with a nice butt plug or anal beads.

I could help more if you let me know what type of toys she usually looks at.
11/01/2012
shooters shooters
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Originally posted by ShadowedSeductress
Is the size what she doesn't like about anal sex? It seems like that's what it is since she ended up crying. She could learn to like it if you helped her work up to the size of a penis. It also takes you going very slow and always asking how ...
she really doesnt like looking at anal toys at all and when i do I make suggestions on some toys and she is kinda like ehhh idk!! she likes toys with a velvety texture and some toys with like little nubs and some ribbed ones.
11/01/2012
shooters shooters
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Originally posted by shooters
she really doesnt like looking at anal toys at all and when i do I make suggestions on some toys and she is kinda like ehhh idk!! she likes toys with a velvety texture and some toys with like little nubs and some ribbed ones.
she likes the little toys that we have that are about the size of my thumb and she doesnt like when I put the toy or my finger in more then like a inch or more but there are times when I wont push the toys or my fingers and she will push them in more herself.
11/01/2012
ShadowedSeductress ShadowedSeductress
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Originally posted by shooters
she likes the little toys that we have that are about the size of my thumb and she doesnt like when I put the toy or my finger in more then like a inch or more but there are times when I wont push the toys or my fingers and she will push them in more ...
It sounds like her problem is with size then. Obviously a penis is larger than a finger, and since it sounds like that's as large as she's gotten I can see how she doesn't like anal sex. Try getting her a butt plug and go from there. She needs to work her way up to a penis. Lots of lube and patience! See if she's interested in adding another finger into the mix.

Since she can't seem to make up her mind, surprise her with something! It's obvious she likes it but she may feel "dirty" because anal play is often perceived as taboo. Try something like the Bootie butt plug it's silicone, small, and has good reviews!
11/02/2012
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