so my partner likes anal play but has a really hard time picking out a toy. the times when we did have anal sex she ended up crying and not liking it period but likes/loves anal play. she looks at anal toys but can never make a decision on what kinda toy she would like and I don't want to buy one and her not like it and waste the money on something that will never get used. what would anyone suggest in toys or anything that she might like for anal play!!!!