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Have you ever wondered what you gotta do just to get your man to bed? ok ladies lets get together and see what we are doing wrong its time we get these men to the bed so we can make not ony them happy but so we can be happy.
Has he been tested for Low Testosterone? It isn't uncommon, and with all the hormones in our food, and stress in our lives, many men just don't have sex as often as they should.
The most accurate test is a saliva testosterone test. Most Family Doctors or Internists have NO idea how to do this, but seeing a urologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction is the choice to take. Once they get at least 2 or 3 T Levels (because it varies during the month and also during the time of day) they can decide how to treat him. Some newer medications which replace lost Testosterone have just come onto the market, so there IS medical help for this. Sex Therapy for you two as a couple also will help.
Viagra isn't the answer, it doesn't little to nothing for libido, which is different than erection. My guess would be he needs his Testosterone levels checked and then treated.
Most people will see an increase in Testosterone from just HAVING sex (as well as activities like doing well at work, getting a raise or job upgrade, exercising, winning something, competing etc. All these increase male hormones in men and in women.) Once he gets the ball rolling, things may go better.
I'd advise going to a University Teaching Hospital, as Community Hospitals are usually not staffed well enough to have urologists who specialize in sexual issues, nor do they have sex therapists.
I hope things get better.