To Get the Hubby to the bed.

Contributor: sweet434cream sweet434cream
Have you ever wondered what you gotta do just to get your man to bed? ok ladies lets get together and see what we are doing wrong its time we get these men to the bed so we can make not ony them happy but so we can be happy.
10/25/2010
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Contributor: Judy Cole Judy Cole
Oh, I thought you said, "Get him to make the bed." Never mind.

10/25/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
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Originally posted by Judy Cole
Oh, I thought you said, "Get him to make the bed." Never mind.

lmao that's impossible!

I almost always initiate sex and sometimes it is a matter of dragging him behind a closed door or on desperate nights waiting for him to fall asleep so I can pounce him lol Not really sure why. I know he's tired a lot with work but still. One would think hubby's would be dragging wives to bed.
10/25/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by sweet434cream
Have you ever wondered what you gotta do just to get your man to bed? ok ladies lets get together and see what we are doing wrong its time we get these men to the bed so we can make not ony them happy but so we can be happy.
Has he been tested for Low Testosterone? It isn't uncommon, and with all the hormones in our food, and stress in our lives, many men just don't have sex as often as they should.

The most accurate test is a saliva testosterone test. Most Family Doctors or Internists have NO idea how to do this, but seeing a urologist who specializes in sexual dysfunction is the choice to take. Once they get at least 2 or 3 T Levels (because it varies during the month and also during the time of day) they can decide how to treat him. Some newer medications which replace lost Testosterone have just come onto the market, so there IS medical help for this. Sex Therapy for you two as a couple also will help.

Viagra isn't the answer, it doesn't little to nothing for libido, which is different than erection. My guess would be he needs his Testosterone levels checked and then treated.

Most people will see an increase in Testosterone from just HAVING sex (as well as activities like doing well at work, getting a raise or job upgrade, exercising, winning something, competing etc. All these increase male hormones in men and in women.) Once he gets the ball rolling, things may go better.

I'd advise going to a University Teaching Hospital, as Community Hospitals are usually not staffed well enough to have urologists who specialize in sexual issues, nor do they have sex therapists.

I hope things get better.
10/25/2010
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
It used to be the other way around. I'm the one who always had a hard time getting turned on. Now, if you look at me funny, I'm ready to go! I've never been turned down by him (maybe 5 times ever), so I don't really have any advice. But, P'Gell has good advice. It could just be a matter of hormone levels.

You could always try the direct approach and ask him. (In a kind way, not to make him feel inadequate.) But that's 8 years of marriage talking. Talking is always the way to get to the root of the matter, and if he's not sure, then maybe P'Gell is right and it's hormonal! But, if you choose to take the direct approach, realize that you might not like the answer. It could be something you don't want to hear... (just as a precaution, because I'm sure you're a hotty and there's something wrong in his brains)
10/25/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Has he been tested for Low Testosterone? It isn't uncommon, and with all the hormones in our food, and stress in our lives, many men just don't have sex as often as they should.

The most accurate test is a saliva testosterone test. ... more
I agree w/ P'Gell - my man's testosterone level is lowered by a diabetes drug and once it was properly diagnosed and treated by an externally applied hormonal cream (zero side effects for him, very easy to use) it's like he's 16 again, when he's actually 42. So getting him into bed is not a problem. On the odd chance that he doesn't initiate things first, it doesn't take more than a glance or a little nudge to get him into gear.

If nothing else, it's a good jumping off point to start looking into what might be wrong, since it's such a common, yet overlooked, culprit.
10/25/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
Sometimes it is an emotional thing also. Depression and anxiety (and the meds that treat them) could also decrease the libido.
10/25/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
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Originally posted by sweet434cream
Have you ever wondered what you gotta do just to get your man to bed? ok ladies lets get together and see what we are doing wrong its time we get these men to the bed so we can make not ony them happy but so we can be happy.
Never had that problem. All it takes is a look sometimes lol.

But if you are having that problem, sounds like you need to talk to your guy or try something new with him that is unexpected. Sometimes its just stress that makes a guy uninterested. So...de-stress him by giving him a massage or cater to him during his football game.
10/25/2010