Number one reason for breaking up?

Contributor: K101 K101
There are so many reasons, but my partner and I just hit the 5 year mark, but I had a BF before him who cheated so I ditched him. He begged for forgiveness multiple & random times every year since then except for this past one he finally quit. I also had a BF who was just too whiney for me. I thought he was sweet and respectful, but he cried and whined over everything and I couldn't handle that so I guess that's one reason. Also, I'd never date a guy who treated women as objects, disrespected and/or degraded them & I have broken up with people over that. I've also broken up over abuse. I had a bf when I was very young who broke my finger & treated me like shit & I broke up with him when he broke my finger & soon after he beat the freakin' crap out of me. Good thing I'd already broken up with his ass! Ha Ha
06/04/2011
Contributor: Anjulie Anjulie
cheating.
06/04/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
I kind of think that 'other' would be best to explain...

People tend to just kind of drop me because they get bored of me / never really had feelings. That or I have issues with someone because of us both being stubborn assholes. Orrrr, of course, lack of communication, but I'm trying very hard to work through that.
07/30/2011
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Definitely communication. My man and I are as different as night and day, but the thing that keeps us together is our ability to sit down and talk about what we're feeling and thinking. It's a beautiful thing.
07/30/2011
Contributor: Eliza Eliza
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Originally posted by Amazing! :)
I don't think it's cheating. It's the inability to communicate and trust each other.

And like what the person above me said. It's the fact that both people(Maybe all people depending on your situation.) have to be willing to ... more
Totally agree with this.
08/08/2011
Contributor: Triple X Moma Triple X Moma
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Originally posted by Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
I believe all are apart of breakup sometimes.
08/11/2011
Contributor: sarki sarki
It would be cheating for me
08/11/2011
Contributor: haley730 haley730
cheating
08/24/2011
Contributor: Katastophy Katastophy
My previous relationships have ended either with cheating, or we just couldn't get along anymore.
09/11/2011
Contributor: Chaotic Rantings Chaotic Rantings
Cheating and/or being caught lying to me always does it. I rank them equal
09/11/2011
Contributor: SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
Like many have said already, COMMUNICATION.

You can't have a true relationship without communication. I talk about everything with my partner and he does the same. Neither of us clam up when we are angry/depressed/etc. We talk through our problems and compromise on solutions.

There has to be communication from the beginning too. From what I have seen, couples think it will happen with time. But if you start off not talking then you fall into that behavior and it takes a lot to get out of it.
11/09/2011
Contributor: tlaskowski tlaskowski
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Originally posted by Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
u cheat u die!! LOL
11/12/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
For me, my break up was I found out i was being cheated on. I also found out that the last two years of my relationship he had lost all interest in me, but never opened his mouth. I was just a placeholder until someone better came along, and if it didn't work, i was a backup gf. I was angry and I haven't spoken to my ex since, but am on wonderful terms with his family.
11/12/2011
Contributor: Angelica Angelica
in my experience it has been abuse, cheating, or the love disappeared (and a few days later he gets a new girl so feels more like cheating)
11/12/2011
Contributor: Moein Moein
In my society families play a major role in divorce.
11/12/2011
Contributor: Sinfully Sinfully
I would prob say not getting along which I suppose could lead to cheating.
11/12/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by Alan & Michele
Of the people we know there seems to be a trend that all comes down to a lack of honest communication or willingness to compromise (aka immaturity on one or both parts). Then there are the ones who got together for the wrong reasons to begin with, ... more
This.
11/28/2011
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Just start to change, go different ways in life, grow up and apart, one finds success, etc. Priorities are different.
11/28/2011
Contributor: kinky girlfriend kinky girlfriend
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I agree cheating (meaning having some sort of intimate relationship with an other person that your SO doesn't agree to and is fine with) is only a symptom.

Most marriages I know which break up have some cheating in them, but the cheating ... more
I also read complacency is slow suicide.
11/28/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
I voted not getting along, and that does sometimes play apart in cheating.
11/28/2011
Contributor: mastersonv mastersonv
If the communication is good every issue could be solved. Not a single one of my former relationships ended because we had good communication. There was a break down somewhere!
12/10/2011
Contributor: smashthepatriarchy smashthepatriarchy
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Originally posted by Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
Usually it's out of boredom or I found someone new.
12/10/2011
Contributor: Sublime Sublime
I've ended a relationship on almost every one of those things you've listed in the past but the one that comes up most is not getting along after a while.
12/10/2011
Contributor: beachluv51800 beachluv51800
not getting over an ex!
12/10/2011
Contributor: (Re)tired Stripper (Re)tired Stripper
For me it's been severe abuse (sigh, as of last month it's TWICE, my intuition needs honing) or simply sexual incompatibility. Once or twice it was just not being in the same "place in life." One of us was ready to settle down and be serious and all, and the other wanted to go travel or join the Peace Corps or be free-spirited and unencumbered for awhile.

Cheating has never broken up a relationship for me. Neither has lack of communication, because I have this awful bossy way of forcing a partner to sit down and spit out what's on their mind. Usually works for me!
12/10/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
Cheating
12/10/2011
Contributor: thebest thebest
cheating
12/10/2011
Contributor: Mihoshi4301 Mihoshi4301
I think it's often a loss of feeling.
12/25/2011
Contributor: dbm6907 dbm6907
Cheating...money issues as well
02/09/2012
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
I hear mostly cheating used as the excuse but it really is about broken trust and not being compatible or able to resolve conflict properly when it's broken down to it's basics. makes sense though, we aren't exactly given a blueprint for success in the world around us are we?
02/09/2012