There are so many reasons, but my partner and I just hit the 5 year mark, but I had a BF before him who cheated so I ditched him. He begged for forgiveness multiple & random times every year since then except for this past one he finally quit. I also had a BF who was just too whiney for me. I thought he was sweet and respectful, but he cried and whined over everything and I couldn't handle that so I guess that's one reason. Also, I'd never date a guy who treated women as objects, disrespected and/or degraded them & I have broken up with people over that. I've also broken up over abuse. I had a bf when I was very young who broke my finger & treated me like shit & I broke up with him when he broke my finger & soon after he beat the freakin' crap out of me. Good thing I'd already broken up with his ass! Ha Ha
Number one reason for breaking up?
I kind of think that 'other' would be best to explain...
People tend to just kind of drop me because they get bored of me / never really had feelings. That or I have issues with someone because of us both being stubborn assholes. Orrrr, of course, lack of communication, but I'm trying very hard to work through that.
People tend to just kind of drop me because they get bored of me / never really had feelings. That or I have issues with someone because of us both being stubborn assholes. Orrrr, of course, lack of communication, but I'm trying very hard to work through that.
07/30/2011
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Totally agree with this.
Originally posted by
Amazing! :)
I don't think it's cheating. It's the inability to communicate and trust each other.
And like what the person above me said. It's the fact that both people(Maybe all people depending on your situation.) have to be willing to ...
And like what the person above me said. It's the fact that both people(Maybe all people depending on your situation.) have to be willing to ...
I don't think it's cheating. It's the inability to communicate and trust each other.
And like what the person above me said. It's the fact that both people(Maybe all people depending on your situation.) have to be willing to compromise. Also, you have to be able to talk things through and not just end it right when something bad happens.
If a person cheated, in my opinion, it's for a reason. Maybe they didn't feel loved enough, or maybe they don't really love you anyway.Me and my lover have been through so much together, and every fight and downfall we go through we just get stronger as a couple.
And like what the person above me said. It's the fact that both people(Maybe all people depending on your situation.) have to be willing to compromise. Also, you have to be able to talk things through and not just end it right when something bad happens.
If a person cheated, in my opinion, it's for a reason. Maybe they didn't feel loved enough, or maybe they don't really love you anyway.Me and my lover have been through so much together, and every fight and downfall we go through we just get stronger as a couple.
08/08/2011
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I believe all are apart of breakup sometimes.
Originally posted by
Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
08/11/2011
Like many have said already, COMMUNICATION.
You can't have a true relationship without communication. I talk about everything with my partner and he does the same. Neither of us clam up when we are angry/depressed/etc. We talk through our problems and compromise on solutions.
There has to be communication from the beginning too. From what I have seen, couples think it will happen with time. But if you start off not talking then you fall into that behavior and it takes a lot to get out of it.
You can't have a true relationship without communication. I talk about everything with my partner and he does the same. Neither of us clam up when we are angry/depressed/etc. We talk through our problems and compromise on solutions.
There has to be communication from the beginning too. From what I have seen, couples think it will happen with time. But if you start off not talking then you fall into that behavior and it takes a lot to get out of it.
11/09/2011
For me, my break up was I found out i was being cheated on. I also found out that the last two years of my relationship he had lost all interest in me, but never opened his mouth. I was just a placeholder until someone better came along, and if it didn't work, i was a backup gf. I was angry and I haven't spoken to my ex since, but am on wonderful terms with his family.
11/12/2011
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This.
Originally posted by
Alan & Michele
Of the people we know there seems to be a trend that all comes down to a lack of honest communication or willingness to compromise (aka immaturity on one or both parts). Then there are the ones who got together for the wrong reasons to begin with,
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Of the people we know there seems to be a trend that all comes down to a lack of honest communication or willingness to compromise (aka immaturity on one or both parts). Then there are the ones who got together for the wrong reasons to begin with, and then wonder why it falls apart later.
11/28/2011
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I also read complacency is slow suicide.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
I agree cheating (meaning having some sort of intimate relationship with an other person that your SO doesn't agree to and is fine with) is only a symptom.
Most marriages I know which break up have some cheating in them, but the cheating ...
Most marriages I know which break up have some cheating in them, but the cheating ...
I agree cheating (meaning having some sort of intimate relationship with an other person that your SO doesn't agree to and is fine with) is only a symptom.
Most marriages I know which break up have some cheating in them, but the cheating is usually a symptom of a poor sex life, a lack of talking to each other and a lack of listening to each other, unresolved anger and resentment, and of course not communicating.
I have to say, IMO, nagging is death to a relationship. I have seen it destroy so many relationships. If he doesn't "do what I want" shut up about it. It drives me crazy when my friends always want to control their husbands all the time. I have a friend who went out of town a few weeks ago, and she came to me and told me to "not let S. leave our son with you while I'm gone for any reason." I told her I love her son, and I'd help S. out if he needed me to. "NO!" she said, "It's his turn to watch him." This is the kind of shit that destroys relationships. I can see this one disintegrating in front of my eyes, too.
Most marriages I know which break up have some cheating in them, but the cheating is usually a symptom of a poor sex life, a lack of talking to each other and a lack of listening to each other, unresolved anger and resentment, and of course not communicating.
I have to say, IMO, nagging is death to a relationship. I have seen it destroy so many relationships. If he doesn't "do what I want" shut up about it. It drives me crazy when my friends always want to control their husbands all the time. I have a friend who went out of town a few weeks ago, and she came to me and told me to "not let S. leave our son with you while I'm gone for any reason." I told her I love her son, and I'd help S. out if he needed me to. "NO!" she said, "It's his turn to watch him." This is the kind of shit that destroys relationships. I can see this one disintegrating in front of my eyes, too.
11/28/2011
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Usually it's out of boredom or I found someone new.
Originally posted by
Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
12/10/2011
For me it's been severe abuse (sigh, as of last month it's TWICE, my intuition needs honing) or simply sexual incompatibility. Once or twice it was just not being in the same "place in life." One of us was ready to settle down and be serious and all, and the other wanted to go travel or join the Peace Corps or be free-spirited and unencumbered for awhile.
Cheating has never broken up a relationship for me. Neither has lack of communication, because I have this awful bossy way of forcing a partner to sit down and spit out what's on their mind. Usually works for me!
Cheating has never broken up a relationship for me. Neither has lack of communication, because I have this awful bossy way of forcing a partner to sit down and spit out what's on their mind. Usually works for me!
12/10/2011
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I hear mostly cheating used as the excuse but it really is about broken trust and not being compatible or able to resolve conflict properly when it's broken down to it's basics. makes sense though, we aren't exactly given a blueprint for success in the world around us are we?
Originally posted by
Pablo F Lleras
well i was just sitting there when i started to wander, why do people break up so often?, i listed some stuff but if i'm missing anything please explain. i'm sure i missed a lot so please add all you want
02/09/2012