Sex Toy Parties

LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
I've been thinking of this for a while. Pretty much ever since I went to my first sex toy party. They're pretty popular, and I really think that EF and those in the affiliates program could benefit from sex toy parties.

To other affiliates, is this something that you would like to see as well?
To the powers that be, would it be possible to integrate sex toy parties into the affiliates program?
04/22/2009
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Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I'm too young to be an affiliate (boo ;_; ), but EdenFantasys sex toy parties are an interesting idea. I've only been to a few sex toy parties, but from those experiences, I've seen the following pros and cons:

Pros: Fun social event, word spreads fast about parties (so a good marketing tool), you get to feel/taste/smell products before you buy, encourages sexual openness.

Cons: Products are oftentimes overpriced. Depending on the company, some parties are women-only, the seller has to buy her own "display/tester set", and needs to have some stock on hand for immediate sales. If customers order something in the catalog that the seller doesn't have on hand, the seller is responsible for placing orders for customers and arranging for pick-up (if customers doesn't want it delivered straight to their doorstep). Again, depending on the company, some sex toy party systems are set up like pyramid schemes. For the sake of selling toys, sometimes sellers will not tell customers about pthalates or whether a toy is porous or non-porous, and just one such careless salesperson could damage the integrity of the program, because bad news travels a lot faster than good news.

My list of cons is a lot longer than the list of pros, but they also aren't disadvantages that are true for every sex toy party program. A lot of it depends on the company's policies and the seller's personal ethics. From what I've seen at sex toy parties and the stuff that's available--printed catalogs, order forms, and company logo bags--there's some extra production cost involved as well. Most of the sex toy programs I've heard of offer incentives for hosting a sex toy party, such as commissions or discounts based on the sales made at a party. Sometimes the company pays for these, other times the seller has to pay for these host benefits.

I can see EF sex toy parties, but it would take a lot of work to set up a good system. I can't be an affiliate for another year or so, but if the sex toy party thing happens... I'd be happy to host one.
04/22/2009
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
I've never been to one, but once I become of age I'd also love to do this. Actually, before I saw this post, I pondered over it in the shower (where I do a lot of daydreaming).
04/23/2009
Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
I for one love this idea! I usually avoid sex toy parties on my campus, because they're not even done by recognizable names, and I just don't trust them like I trust EF.

I had a few ideas to add to the mix, too. While most parties I have heard about are mostly toys and a few lubes, it would be great if these potential EF parties could involve more in the way of education. There could be pamphlets or handouts on material safety and cleaning, on choosing the right toy for you, on storage solutions! This would make sure that people attending would always be able to get that information, even if the person running the party is new or forgets something. Also, there's a huge selection of books and DVDs available here; making those available through parties would be really cool, even just as a catalog.

I tossed the idea of EF toy parties around to some of the girls I live with; they know I'm part of this community, and that I trust EF more than any other site or store. They all thought it would be a great idea, and asked if we could hold one in the dorm. So if this idea is even feasible, there's definitely a need and a desire for something like it.

I know it would be a lot of work to set up a program like this, but if it's possible, it would be a great resource! While making it a part of the affiliates program may or may not work (I only know the very basics about the mechanics of that program), it seems to me that a SexToy Party program and the affiliate program could work hand in hand very well, if they chose to create a separate program.
04/23/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I was just thinking about another contributor's mention of EF merchandise. At the last sex toy party I attended, the seller handed out pens with little penis pen toppers. It'd be cute if those could be EdenFantasys pens with little penis toppers, y'know what I mean?

I didn't mean to come down so hard on the idea in my first post. It's definitely a great idea and one that I've juggled a few times myself. I do think that EF could bring something new to the sex toy partying scene, and that the parties themselves would bring more business to EF. I don't know about everyone else, but I've never been to a sex toy party where the seller actually took the time to explain different materials. The closest I've had to that is when a local sex store owner came to our dorm to talk to us about safe sex and incorporated sex toys into the mix. It was informational, but she didn't mention that jelly toys containing pthalates are bad for you, or to use a condom if you intend on sharing.

I could see Luscious Lily's idea of having informational pamphlets (or even a little guidebook) at an EF party. Another benefit is that EF offers many more products than most companies whose main business is throwing toy parties. A seller would only need to stock up on some of the best selling items and order the rest as requests come in.

I'm just trying to figure out how commissions would work. Would it be the same as the percentage per sale for the regular affiliates program?

* sigh * I should be studying, but now I'm thinking of pink and green EF parties and what sorts of stuff would look awesome in its condensed catalog.
04/23/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
More thoughts:

Every single one of the sex toy parties I've been to have been women-only, which is ridiculous. I know there's at least one company out there that lets women bring their guys... but I don't think that there's anything actually FOR them other than Good Head Gel and maybe a vibrating cock ring.

If EF were to do these parties, I think it'd be pretty neat to let the host decide on the attendance. So if it's a bachelorette party, sure, just bring the girls. But make it an option for the guys to come and give them their own stuff to look at. And there should be a "guys only" option too. I have a hard time imagining a party where guys sit in a big circle and pass butt plugs, p-spot massagers, and Fleshlights around, but a couple of years ago, I had a hard time imagining women doing much the same. This is an interesting opportunity for the current party scene to change.
04/23/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
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Originally posted by Luscious Lily
I for one love this idea! I usually avoid sex toy parties on my campus, because they're not even done by recognizable names, and I just don't trust them like I trust EF.

I had a few ideas to add to the mix, too. While most parties I ... More
I think that's a great idea to make it educational. This community knows a lot more about sex toys and safety than the general population, and we should definitely share that knowledge.

I'm with you on the not trusting other companies that do parties. The first one I went to, everything was overpriced but I felt obligated to buy something, so I just got something little. I wrote my check out and brought the lady my order form, and she was like "Oh, you have to add on the handling charge"...She didn't have to order the product, she had it with her to give me right then and there, so there really was no need for a handling charge. I was angry but didn't want to be a bitch and say "forget it then" so I wrote out another check for 7fucking$....I'm getting mad again just thinking about it. Then my second one (was by the same company as the first) I just checked out what the lady had then bought stuff from EF that I had liked. It was half for my own good and half to get back at the company for ripping me off the first time.
04/23/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by LikeSunshineDust
I think that's a great idea to make it educational. This community knows a lot more about sex toys and safety than the general population, and we should definitely share that knowledge.

I'm with you on the not trusting other companies ... More
That sounds a lot like my first sex toy party. The salespeople, though nice, are not the most ethical. After all, how ethical can you be when the company you work for is a little shady to begin with? I'm guessing that the company is ripping off the salespeople just as badly. I blew nearly $130 on my first purchase with Pure Romance. It was going to be under $100, but then she sprung the handling charge on me. The reason that they charge you for it is because they have to order it themselves. They might have it on hand at the party, but that doesn't mean that they didn't have to pay for the shipping beforehand. If they don't charge you for handling, they lose a lot of money.

The way I use sex toy parties in general is just to have fun and learn about new products. If I really like something, I'll shop for it online. Saves money that way and I get to compare and think about it. Good salespeople are good at pushing you into buying things without even knowing it! I've learned to go to parties without more than, say, $30 on hand. I don't even bother bringing my checkbook. It's just a disaster waiting to happen.
04/23/2009
Ciao. Ciao.
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
More thoughts:

Every single one of the sex toy parties I've been to have been women-only, which is ridiculous. I know there's at least one company out there that lets women bring their guys... but I don't think that there's ... More
Yeah I was going to mention that this is probably much more easily accomplished by and for women. While I know that there is demand in the male community I think men (particularly men who identify as straight) are much more uncomfortable talking about sex and masturbation with each other...and especially uncomfortable about talking about anal pleasure. I would love to see it change, but I do wonder about how much interest there would be. Certainly I think it would be great if guys could get more involved.
04/23/2009
Gary Gary
This is definitely an interesting idea. I am not sure what it would take to make something like this happen, but I will certainly pass this idea up the ladder.
04/23/2009
Viv Viv
funny, my fiancee and i were just talking about if there was a way to make this happen, since most sex toy parties are usually full of cheap products and run by people who don't take the time to educate the party-goers about material care etc.
04/23/2009
Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
Thanks Yeti!

Boink, I think you're right. To begin with, at least, it might be better to stick to girls-only, and if those involved are comfortable with it, couples or girls and their male guests. Then, if the mixed-gender parties go over well, perhaps branch into the guys-only party world?

Miss Cinnamon, I have to say your toy party experience made me giggle, only because that sounds so much like the stupid Mary Kay beauty parties they host at my dorm every year! Just as pushy, and knew just as little about the contents of her products!
04/23/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
I would go to one... but it seems as though I'm already banned .. haha


I think you could have a speaker and could hold up toys and teach stuff about them as an awareness program to boost sales of more expensive and quality toys.

but i think I'd only go to one if it had a learning thing to it like you could get something out of it other than just a new toy. if they are overpriced then why buy it there? I think the party could have a coupon to order something from the site when they get home to get them to view the site maybe just $5 off or something, or if that's to expensive maybe a contest to win a free toy something totally fun and unexpected. I'm sure it would make your party popular if you could get something free by chance? maybe just a lucky number out of a hat or something and everyone when they enter gets a printout sheet of the events and it has a number on it.
04/23/2009
Machina Machina
I love this idea. I live in a college town, and one of my friends is in a sorority. They hired someone to host a sex toy party, and she said 90% of the toys were made of jelly, were way overpriced, and there was no discussions on health and safety. Even worse, the majority of girls actually bought stuff!

I'd love to do something like this on my campus, especially if it was for EF. I've looked into the starter kits for other companies, but they're usually filled with crappy products-- nothing I would ever be able to sell, & still call myself respectable.

I like the idea of having a party where you bring in a variety of awesome products to show off & talk about. You could encourage the group to share experiences and ask any questions. Maybe even have a questionnaire they could fill out at the beginning to help consult each girl about choosing the right products. I also think a discussion about health, safety, and caring for products is a necessity. Games & cocktails are fun too.
04/23/2009
Cinnamon Chambers Cinnamon Chambers
I would so love this. I think it is important to promote the safety aspects of toys, in both use and materials. This would be such an awesome thing if it eve did happen.
04/23/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Machina
I love this idea. I live in a college town, and one of my friends is in a sorority. They hired someone to host a sex toy party, and she said 90% of the toys were made of jelly, were way overpriced, and there was no discussions on health and safety. ... More
Games = yay. Cocktails = still underage. Boo

I definitely like the idea of having a questionnaire. But what about a sort of a pre-party quiz that focuses on safety? Questions like "Which of the following are not safe for your body?" and then having a multiple choice answer that includes products like Anal Eze and various Shrinking Creams (not the "safe" ones that are now being produced by more conscious companies). And then, based on how many correct answers a person gets when the tests are corrected, she (just assuming a gender here, don't nag) gets a certain number of raffle tickets/entries into a hat for prizes and the like. Another icebreaker game idea I've seen at parties which could be reworked to be more sexually progressive (!) is bingo.

Of course, these are fine details of organizing parties and would be up to the sellers themselves... but it really is fun to think about.

I'm starting to warm up to the idea... still have my worries, but I have to say it'd be cool.
04/23/2009
Lithaewyn Lithaewyn
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Games = yay. Cocktails = still underage. Boo

I definitely like the idea of having a questionnaire. But what about a sort of a pre-party quiz that focuses on safety? Questions like "Which of the following are not safe for your body?" ... More
Just to extend on your quiz bit:

I think that'd also be good because they would reveal what kind of sexual health topics should be emphasized if there will be health discussion. Like a poll and also a way to win a nice little something.
04/23/2009
Victoria Victoria
Hello all! Thanks to Yeti for fielding this one. I talked to the boss man about it today. We will developing the idea over the next few months.

We have thought about toy parties for a while now. It is definitely an area with potential - and could be a meaningful way to connect people and do outreach while demonstrating toys. We totally agree that the existing parties out there are done badly - on many levels.

Right now we're deciding how to do it our way, to make it the best experience overall for everyone involved. While we work on our approach and designing the big picture over the next few months, we would really appreciate your insight. Please do email your feedback and experiences with toy parties to us! We would love to take it all into consideration. What did you like about them? What didn't you like? How can the toy party idea be improved? What kind of role would you want to play if you were to be involved in one of our toy parties?

We're looking forward to your thoughts. Please email: affiliates@edenfantasy s.com

Thanks!
04/23/2009
LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
That's exciting! I was a little afraid that the idea would get shot down for some reason. Thanks to Yeti and In the pink for being open minded and relaying the idea to the boss
04/23/2009
DreamyLove DreamyLove
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Originally posted by Cinnamon Chambers
I would so love this. I think it is important to promote the safety aspects of toys, in both use and materials. This would be such an awesome thing if it eve did happen.
My thoughts exactly. So many of the companies out there that do sex toy parties seem to still be selling so many jelly toys.
04/23/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
Quote:
Originally posted by Victoria
Hello all! Thanks to Yeti for fielding this one. I talked to the boss man about it today. We will developing the idea over the next few months.

We have thought about toy parties for a while now. It is definitely an area with potential - and ... More
Awesomesauce strikes again!

Thanks, In the pink.
04/23/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
I could imagine playing sex bingo.. something like this...

....
penis, stroke
vaginal, lick
anal, caress... ORGASM!!!! YAYAYAYAY I WIN!!!
04/23/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by That Weird Guy
I could imagine playing sex bingo.. something like this...

....
penis, stroke
vaginal, lick
anal, caress... ORGASM!!!! YAYAYAYAY I WIN!!!
That's.... not quite how it works....

...but sure. If that sort of bingo bloats your goat, then go ahead.
04/23/2009
Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
Went to a sex toy party for another company that my friends were hosting. Great fun, but the woman really spent too much time on bath and body stuff, then had to rush the toys. And as nice as she was, there was a lot of jelly and not-super-safe stuff...I felt bad doing it, but I accidentally kept stealing her thunder.

Also, you would have to try and fit the party to the group. She could've moved faster if she hadn't shown us stuff that generally doesn't appeal to college-aged women, like shrink cream and vaginal exercisers.
04/24/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Backseat Boohoo
Went to a sex toy party for another company that my friends were hosting. Great fun, but the woman really spent too much time on bath and body stuff, then had to rush the toys. And as nice as she was, there was a lot of jelly and not-super-safe ... More
Sex toy parties are definitely something to tailor to your audience. At one of the parties I went to, the guests were in their late teens to early twenties, and the woman insisted on calling the vagina "your hoo-ha" and the clitoris "your love button". She gave the impression that the actual names of those parts were rude to say in company. After she left, the girls stayed behind to help clean up and we talked about the party. One of the girls said "What on earth was up with the hoo-ha-ing and love buttoning? That was ridiculous!"

I'm not sure that how a presentation is made can be monitored by EF. Not everyone is a brilliant salesperson or a good public speaker (and in large parties, that's essentially what you need to be). However, maybe new salespersons could be given a booklet or something that contains certain tips and tricks to presenting products (how to organize what you're going to talk about, how long to spend on each product)to help them start out.
04/24/2009
That Weird Guy That Weird Guy
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
That's.... not quite how it works....

...but sure. If that sort of bingo bloats your goat, then go ahead.
I guess I haven't played bingo in a while then

im actually going go look at how it's played now bc I though that you had columns and rows and if you had the column and row you put a marker on it where they meet... maybe i'm thinking of a different game instead of bingo
04/24/2009
Maiden Maiden
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Originally posted by Ciao.
Yeah I was going to mention that this is probably much more easily accomplished by and for women. While I know that there is demand in the male community I think men (particularly men who identify as straight) are much more uncomfortable talking ... More
I have tons of male friends, straight and gay, that have already come to the few coed fantasy parties my friends have had. I feel bad for them, because there aren't a lot products for them. They don't even touch on p spot orgasms, unless trying to sell you anal beads. Other than that, the only thing they got to see for men was Rocket Balm.

I know there would be a huge interest, for my male friends at least, in masturbators, from the small and cheap, to the Fleshlights and Tenga Flip Holes. Not to mention anal plugs and prostate massagers, desensitizing or enhancing lubes, and cock rings. I definitely think it would be great to have some way of instructing them about how to properly size and use some of the cock rings out there.
02/12/2010
El-Jaro El-Jaro
I've never heard of a co-ed sex toy party. Most cases I've heard of were "Women Only!" like some kind of treehouse cool-kids things. Big turn off, bad business.

EF parties would be cool. A couples party instead of one based on gender would be a better idea.

My own opinion: the singular company that does do the women only parties has some of the most over-priced and unsafe stock I've seen.

The idea of a party as an intro to the sex toy world is a good one, but poorly executed on the whole that I've seen.
02/12/2010
J's Alley J's Alley
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
I've never heard of a co-ed sex toy party. Most cases I've heard of were "Women Only!" like some kind of treehouse cool-kids things. Big turn off, bad business.

EF parties would be cool. A couples party instead of one based ... More
I've never had anyone tell me women only. We've done lots of couples parties...they are soooo much fun. Although, the bachelorette ones I have been to have been a ton of fun as well.

I do agree that most of the products are unsafe, and the distributors are not well educated on sex toys. And overpriced is the understatement of the year.
02/12/2010
Gary Gary
I am not saying that I support it, but hosting 'women only' parties may have been done when targeting a certain demographic that has little to no experience with toys. Doing so may have increased the comfort level of the participants. There are definitely a lot of areas in the country where people are way more conservative than others.
02/12/2010
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