It really depends. For us part of being married is to sit together and talk things over before any major decisions are made. I don't really like to think of it as compromising, more like a mutual understanding of things. It also depends on whether something is more beneficial to one of us as an individual, or to our family as a whole.
Are you following what you really want in life, or being influenced to do things your mate wants. It's a general question so leave your comments. I'm asking about sex, everyday life, work, ect..
My partner IS my heart.
I can love him and have a good life with some of my own choices thrown in.
I made the choice to be a wife and mother. Yes, there are sacrifices, and some people want a different life than that, and I respect that. But, I'm happy with my life. I didn't marry My Man with the thoughts that I could "change him" nor have I ever done anything I didn't want to do, because of him (I mean, aside from housework and dishes and the laundry and stuff that has to be done, no matter who you live with).
I did give up Medical School to be with him and have children with him. It was a good trade off.
If he were a hurtful or abusive man, that would be different. But, he isn't and we both have made sacrifices to be together. He was ready to join the Merchant Marine when I met him. Either that or move to Alaska and work in forestry or oil engineering. He put that aside for me, so we've both had to mix our lives together to love each other.
I mostly do what I want, but I am cognizant of my partner's wants and needs. I'm not going to do something I want that will make them horribly unhappy unless they are unreasonably unhappy.
For instance, if I have two really great job offers and one is close to my partner and one is far away, I would balance many factors in my decision on which to take, and my partner's location would definitely be one of those factors. It would be one of many though. At the same time, if I was offered a really great job at a place where an ex-partner worked, someone I had never expressed interest in seeing again, and a partner made a big deal out of something so silly, I would ignore them and take the job because it's better for me.