How many women follow their partners, instead of following their heart?

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How many women follow their partners, instead of following their heart?

Djiffy Djiffy
Both. I do my own thing when it's beneficial, but sometimes you have to be willing to give things up to make relationships work.
03/02/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
Both
03/02/2012
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife's heart was for me so she followed both.
03/02/2012
Swish Swish
follow my own heart but we are walking through life together. so you compromise
03/02/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Are you following what you really want in life, or being influenced to do things your mate wants. It's a general question so leave your comments. I'm asking about sex, everyday life, work, ect..
too many
03/18/2012
Deeder Deeder
It really depends. For us part of being married is to sit together and talk things over before any major decisions are made. I don't really like to think of it as compromising, more like a mutual understanding of things. It also depends on whether something is more beneficial to one of us as an individual, or to our family as a whole.
04/23/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
Its give an take
04/23/2012
mistressg mistressg
Tough call...and I have to wonder how many of these votes are people being absolutely honest with themselves. Including myself.
04/23/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Are you following what you really want in life, or being influenced to do things your mate wants. It's a general question so leave your comments. I'm asking about sex, everyday life, work, ect..
I do both. Relationships are give and take.
05/14/2012
Short Cake Short Cake
Being in a committed relationship comes with compromising, he does the same with the wants of my own. It's the same when you become a parent, you give things up for your kids.
06/03/2012
Petthekitty Petthekitty
I do what I want, but I'm not inflexible.
06/05/2012
Kitka Kitka
I do both. We always discuss and share with each other and take it from there.
06/05/2012
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Are you following what you really want in life, or being influenced to do things your mate wants. It's a general question so leave your comments. I'm asking about sex, everyday life, work, ect..
My partner IS my heart.

I can love him and have a good life with some of my own choices thrown in.

I made the choice to be a wife and mother. Yes, there are sacrifices, and some people want a different life than that, and I respect that. But, I'm happy with my life. I didn't marry My Man with the thoughts that I could "change him" nor have I ever done anything I didn't want to do, because of him (I mean, aside from housework and dishes and the laundry and stuff that has to be done, no matter who you live with).

I did give up Medical School to be with him and have children with him. It was a good trade off.

If he were a hurtful or abusive man, that would be different. But, he isn't and we both have made sacrifices to be together. He was ready to join the Merchant Marine when I met him. Either that or move to Alaska and work in forestry or oil engineering. He put that aside for me, so we've both had to mix our lives together to love each other.
06/05/2012
rekarf rekarf
We honestly like the same things and a lot of what we want are the same. So there's really no "I would rather do this with my life" or "I'd rather be doing this tonight." We're almost the same person!
07/23/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
i do both
07/25/2012
Ms. Peaches Ms. Peaches
both
07/25/2012
SoloJoe SoloJoe
both
10/10/2012
SaraW0512 SaraW0512
Both. In any relationship, there is give and take. Most of the time, I try to do what he would want to do as long as I am ok with it. He does the same.
10/21/2012
Castielskitten Castielskitten
Both. I'll do my own stuff but I'll follow him too :3
11/01/2012
Kenneth Fort Kenneth Fort
Quote:
Originally posted by markeagleone
Are you following what you really want in life, or being influenced to do things your mate wants. It's a general question so leave your comments. I'm asking about sex, everyday life, work, ect..
You know. making only one medium answer makes that by default one the people take.
11/03/2012
novanilla novanilla
I mostly do what I want, but I am cognizant of my partner's wants and needs. I'm not going to do something I want that will make them horribly unhappy unless they are unreasonably unhappy.

For instance, if I have two really great job offers and one is close to my partner and one is far away, I would balance many factors in my decision on which to take, and my partner's location would definitely be one of those factors. It would be one of many though. At the same time, if I was offered a really great job at a place where an ex-partner worked, someone I had never expressed interest in seeing again, and a partner made a big deal out of something so silly, I would ignore them and take the job because it's better for me.
11/03/2012
Wolfenisa Wolfenisa
Depends on what it is really, sometimes we follow eachother or else we are very independent
11/08/2012
Howley Howley
sexually i do what she wants, she's kinkier than me but ill oblige
03/15/2013
karenm karenm
I mostly do what I want, but I always keep what my partner wants in mind and they usually line up anyway.
03/26/2013
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