What makes a break-up hard for you?

destinationtwilight destinationtwilight
I just recently went through a break-up and I was wondering what was the hardest part for you?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Letting go of the relationship
dbm6907 , collifornia , Cookie Monster Mike , unfulfilled , calliope , El-Jaro , Tagmstr , Jon S , jmex83 , BG529 , Short Cake , Undecided , Voilet , MzGreenEyedLady , SoloJoe , Supervixen , Castielskitten , The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary , Leather & Lace , Katelyn , Darling Jen , Nurse Katie , cherryredhead88 , Trysexual , shielaray , Tristan's Everything , sktb0007 , LeeBee , SMichelle , nikki0668 , closed account , PassionCpl , FLIPxMODE , tovehunter , RedKyuubi , Edeneve , eri86 , lillmiss5054 , Munko , karenm
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Letting go of the friendship
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The change in routine in your life
dbm6907 , collifornia , Cookie Monster Mike , unfulfilled , calliope , El-Jaro , cvasser89 , AJvil , kendra30752 , Jon S , jmex83 , BG529 , Undecided , Stagger13 , Voilet , MzGreenEyedLady , SoloJoe , skeeterlynn , Leather & Lace , Katelyn , Darling Jen , Nurse Katie , Mrs.Tee , Trysexual , Geogeo , Tristan's Everything , kadelette , Lover of Leather , No-nita , sktb0007 , LeeBee , nikki0668 , PassionCpl , FLIPxMODE , tovehunter , RedKyuubi , KottonKandi , The Cinnamon Spider , misterazor , quackbuster , Ayogirl230 , Munko , karenm
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Total votes: 143 (81 voters)
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02/24/2012
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Jul!a Jul!a
Honestly for me the hardest part was losing their family. I really enjoyed the family gatherings and hanging out with them.
02/24/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Not being told we broke up - total silence. "Get the hint" bullshit.

That's harder. I need closure more than my "feelings being spared" (because they won't be ... the silent treatment makes it ten times worse).
02/24/2012
MeliPixie MeliPixie
I think losing something you thought you had is the hardest part. Friendship, closeness, someone to be comfortably silent with.
02/24/2012
dbm6907 dbm6907
All three options. It is really hard for me to be with somebody for a long time and then have my life flipped outside down in an instant.
02/24/2012
xoxo xoxo
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Honestly for me the hardest part was losing their family. I really enjoyed the family gatherings and hanging out with them.
Same I usually love being close to my boyfriend's parents
02/24/2012
Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
I chose all the options because I have had various relationships where all those things have been the hardest. I find they apply more to the longer relationships though. But I find overall the hardest thing, is when the relationship ends with a lot of pain and hurt, but you are forced to still see that person on a daily basis. Ugh!
02/24/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
All of the above for me, plus the family if you'd been with them for a long time. When I was in high school, I dated someone for 2 years and became close to his older sister and mother so much we regularly wrote notes to each other after the breakup.
02/24/2012
js250 js250
All of the above..and the loss of security of having someone who loves you. Uncertain of the future, pain and emptiness in place of the good times you had.
02/24/2012
calliope calliope
All above and more
02/24/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
All three, without a doubt. The other big thing is that all the plans you made with the person in your life are totally gone.
02/24/2012
cvasser89 cvasser89
I am not very good with change. I would definitely miss the companionship, but the fact that I have to change my routines would bother me a lot. Hmmm...that sounds cold hearted, but it is the truth for me. But, if there would probably be a reason for the ending of the relationship, so I see the ending of it as a positive thing.
02/24/2012
AJvil AJvil
Quote:
Originally posted by destinationtwilight
I just recently went through a break-up and I was wondering what was the hardest part for you?
A lot of things than just those three
02/24/2012
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by destinationtwilight
I just recently went through a break-up and I was wondering what was the hardest part for you?
Well I guess all of those things would be hard, but I think the routine change would kill me! Lol. I've never had a huge break up since the only man who I've ever truly loved is my lovie now! We've been together for 5 years and I was only 15 when we got together so it'd be so new and I would not know what to do if we broke up. I don't plan on that happening, but me and a girlfriend were talking the other night about break-ups and I told her I don't think I ever could be in another relationship. I REALLY don't think I'd ever be able to if my lovie and I split. I just don't think anyone could possibly fit with me. Lol. Maybe I'm complicated. It'd be hard and I don't think I could love someone else. Sure I'd be devastated if we split and I ain't heartless, but I doubt I could ever see anything at all in another man. I guess I'd be the single old cat lady! Lol

I think getting used to being alone would be hard, but not having that person to share your life with after so many years of doing that would just be like losing some of your life. I'm all for independacy and being a strong, independant woman, but it would be hard no doubt.
02/25/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by destinationtwilight
I just recently went through a break-up and I was wondering what was the hardest part for you?
Sometimes relationships don't work, but it's a shame I've never really been able to stay friends with my exes.
05/14/2012
melissa1973 melissa1973
I don't miss anything about my X-husband or his people. The guy I had on the side I SSOooooo miss the sex. I still remember hjim and what he did how he made me feel. Shame I had to move away but life happens, and he was married at the time too.
05/14/2012
Short Cake Short Cake
The relationship has everything including the friendship, it holds the love, trust, passion, everything that's good in a relationship that's why it's hard for me.
06/03/2012
Undecided Undecided
All of the above plus loosing their family if I was close to them. Really a lot of things makes it hard
07/10/2012
milfstatus milfstatus
Losing the friendship, my other is alway my best friend
07/28/2012
Voilet Voilet
Ugh. All three.
Right now I work midnights, so, once I get used to having someone to text while I"m at work, if that suddenly stops, it feels so empty and boring. :I You really feel the void.
08/09/2012
MzGreenEyedLady MzGreenEyedLady
All of it and more. I broke up with most of my ex's, but they made me. I hated to lose their family. Some of them got on my nerves, but I still loved them. I hate losing the relationship, because it some with all the benefits that are frowned upon when you are single. Losing the friendship is hard too, as I really don't have too many friends. I don't have anybody to talk to anymore. Then having to find something else to do with my life sucks as well.
10/02/2012
SoloJoe SoloJoe
all of it
10/07/2012
skeeterlynn skeeterlynn
Depends on the reason for leaving. Usually, friendships stay either way unless the relationship ends badly. For me that is. I'm friends with most my ex's. My serious ones were mentally abusive and cheated, so it was more of I didn't wanna leave and them sell all my my stuff for drugs or anything. But I still got out of them both in plenty time. It's just a long process of making sure they don't turn around and do something.
10/07/2012
Castielskitten Castielskitten
I have to say, for me it was letting go of the relationships, but I had to. Two out of five relationships were abusive, one only wanted me for my mom, and the other, well I was forced to break up with him.

I've maintain friendships with all but one.
10/07/2012
novanilla novanilla
Really depends on which relationship I'm talking about. For one, it was routine because I was with them for so long, but for others it was fear of losing a friend.
11/03/2012
Leather & Lace Leather & Lace
All of the above!
11/04/2012
tortilla tortilla
loosing the companionship/friendsh ip is difficult
11/07/2012
cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
I hate when things don't work out but it really sucks when the other person takes no responsibility for their own actions/blames you for everything.

I also miss the good times--- it can be tough remembering that everything happens for a reason.
11/07/2012
Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Quote:
Originally posted by destinationtwilight
I just recently went through a break-up and I was wondering what was the hardest part for you?
All three. But I think for all women we need some type of closure. Men can let go and go on like they never even knew you.
11/07/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
Losing the friendship
11/07/2012
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