#Sweet&Sexy - #SexIsSocial - Sex after a C-section: Feeling Sexy with Scars

Ansley Ansley


Sex after a C-section: Feeling Sexy with Scars, by AwesomeAmanda! - Click here to read the full article.



Body image. It can be a real bitch sometimes, right? The media seriously impacts how we perceive ourselves whether we want to admit it or not. AwesomeAmanda (aptly named) is no different. She's had two c-sections, both vertical and horizontal, and while she struggles with this aspect on occasion she has found things about her physical appearance she likes.

Pregnancy changes a woman's body. Period. One can never predict exactly how one's body will react to this amazing process, but we can change how we perceive the results. AwesomeAmanda refers to her scars as battle wounds; proof she was willing to do whatever it took to bring her children into this world.

Do you think if more people approached changes to their body in this manner that it would result in higher self-esteem?
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On a scale of 1 (lowest) to 10 (highest), how would you rate your self-esteem about your body image?
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What is your favorite physical attribute about yourself?
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Total votes: 64 (27 voters)
Poll is closed
12/13/2012
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Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My wife has a c-section scar - and has for 22 years. It's never been an issue for her or me. She has struggled with her weight - but after years of me assuring her that she's beautiful to me, she's less obsessive.

She's still very fixated on coloring he hair, getting botox and other 'vanities' - and she looks great.

I think the problems arise when people 'give up'. Do the best with what you have - don't 'let yourself go'. And this is just as true for men as women.
12/14/2012
Pandwhora Pandwhora
I have not had a c-section but I do have pregnancy stretch marks. I am now just becoming comfortable with them. This summer was the first summer that I wore a Bikini at the beach and was not embarrassed! I have finally come to realization that my body is not ruined, I'm a tiger who has earned her damn stripes!
12/14/2012
winterseve winterseve
I had a C-section 12 weeks ago today. It's not the scar that bothers me, as that is nice and low and easy to hide even with skimpy panties, it's my pooch that I'm working off (slowly) and a little bit my stretch marks. My stretch marks appeared mostly all at once in an explosion of purple on me. One night I went to bed with a few cute little marks, and the next morning it was like I became a tiger. The ones that bother me the most are on my thighs. I can cover my belly with my tankini, but my thighs show those purple stripes with any swim suit. It doesn't bother my husband, so I'm trying to not let it bother me so much. They totally are battle scars, and my tiger stripes.
12/14/2012
Sunny Meadows Sunny Meadows
See I am okay with my scar as well and my pooch is not big at all. It is my stretch marks. How ever some women say that they can may them lighter with oils. I am trying this right now. I use the lotions with e and aloe then I use bio oil as well. when I looked it up on how to get right of them there where stories of combinations of different oils that worked we will see. It this dont work I am saving to have them removed maybe?
12/14/2012
edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by Gunsmoke
My wife has a c-section scar - and has for 22 years. It's never been an issue for her or me. She has struggled with her weight - but after years of me assuring her that she's beautiful to me, she's less obsessive.

She's still ... More
I agree.
12/14/2012
kadelette kadelette
It makes me so sad to people rating themselves so low on the poll.
12/15/2012
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
I had 2 c-sections and the scars are so tiny, they don't bother me. My partner does not seem to see them and I don't have any issues with them.
12/15/2012
spiced spiced
Quote:
Originally posted by kadelette
It makes me so sad to people rating themselves so low on the poll.
Me, too. It would be a sexier (and just generally better) world if everyone could fall in love--with the person they see in the mirror every day.
12/16/2012
Stephanie Marie Stephanie Marie
I had a c-section 7 months ago. I have no problem with the scar, it is really low. Also it started disappearing pretty quickly. I do not like the stretch marks! They are circular around my belly button. Like I just have huge circles. First circle is near my belly button, then more circles. It is weird.

But then again I did tell the doctor I only wanted a side to side cut. No up and down cuts. Which he said was fine he wouldn't do a up and down cut on me. I talked about it with him beforehand. Only came down to a c-section due to labor not progressing far enough at hour 17.

At first I was super bugged by it, but now I am not. I got those marks and scars from my baby. I would do anything for him. It just proves hey I went through pregnancy and delivery. Hey those marks and scars are a trophy in a way.
12/16/2012
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I just read the article and I absolutely loved it. AwesomeAmanda's calling her scars battle wounds reminds me of cultures that engage in decorative scarring. From the Birmingham Museums and Art Gallery website, "An individual with scars may be seen as a person with great courage." Doing whatever it takes to make sure your babies are healthy? Sounds pretty courageous to me.
12/17/2012
sweetpeanil sweetpeanil
I had 2 c-sections 14 months apart. Both of them were vertical & about 12" long.
I am incredibly thankful that they were in exactly the same spot because I'm very self-conscious
about it. On top of that I've got a pooch which is bisected by the scar. Meh...
12/17/2012
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
You know, this is only.. semi-related, but I saw something on pinterest the other day: a shot of a woman's abs with stretchmarks from birth. The caption read something like "don't be ashamed of your stretchmarks. you're a tiger who's earned her stripes" and I like that.. It kinda relates but not exactly.
12/17/2012
Ansley Ansley
I think women should be proud of the sacrifices they've made to bring children into this world and I think people should respect them for choosing to do that instead of going the way I did which is completely vain and conceited: I don't have any desire to do that to my body.
12/18/2012
Beck Beck
I'm the first person to say their favorite feature is their nose. Sadly, I think it's the only thing on my body I wouldn't change. I don't mind the stretch marks from having my babies, but the chub and the breast bother me. I'm working on my body image. My partner loves me no matter what. That is all that matters to me.
12/18/2012
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