Can choosing not to have children be an expression of love?
To begin, I simply do not like children. From my childhood, I always preferred adults, as children my own age were confusing, illogical creatures that could never be predicted. Growing older did little to change this opinion, rather, it was cemented. Children are loud, lack the capacity to listen, fundamental reasoning skills, or any bit of self-control, they may have appeal, but it’s lost on me?
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The above statement is rather controversial in a lot of circles because the idea of not liking children sends people reeling. How can you not like a precious child, they ask. This is sometimes followed with statements about how precious, defenseless, and innocent they are.
When did it become law that you had to have a child? Are we still holding onto the concepts of religion to go forth, be fruitful and multiply? Why is it so shocking for someone to not like children enough for them to want to have one of their own?
It should be perfectly okay to not be particularly fond of children or even out right dislike them, so long as you remain tolerant and compassionate towards them when the need arises. Yet, people can somehow think less of a person because of this. The reaction can often be as harsh as if you'd just told someone you kill kittens for fun.
Would it be so difficult to think, maybe just maybe, this person has done a lot of soul-searching and realizes they don't have the desire, the skills, the finances or the instincts to parent a child? With all of the complaints in this world about people being on social services and needing tax payers money to support themselves, shouldn't this person be congratulated and celebrated for not adding to the problem?
But, it all boils down to this - we have a "my body, my choice" mantra in this country. Why does that only seem to apply to abortions and medical exams? Why is it anyone's business whether or not you, or anyone else for that matter, procreates? And most importantly, how can both sides of the argument work together to help each other understand?