#SexIs - Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD

Ansley Ansley


Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD - Click here to read this amazing and poignant article by Tucker Cummings!

Many of us have been touched by war in some way; whether it's because we've enlisted ourselves or know someone who has enlisted, the coping mechanisms can sometimes take years to master after seeing the effects of war. Not only on the towns and citizens of the affected areas, but it can be seen in the faces of the men and women who have defended their honor.

Currently, the United States has shown minimal efforts at protecting these men and women. The women in Tucker's article - Elizabeth, Lana and Ashley detail firsthand accounts of the damage done to the minds and hearts of those on the front lines during times of war. While they have chosen this duty as their burden, no one can be completely prepared to see the horrific scenes.

Ashley, fed up with the military's disinterest in helping her husband, posted a picture on her Facebook with a poem inked across her back:

"Broken by battle,
Wounded by war,
I love you forever,
To you this I swore:
I will quiet your silent screams,
Help heal your shattered soul
Until once again, my love, you are whole."




Ashley encouraged posts from other wives who had been affected by war, and whose husbands were struggling; all of this inspired the creation of an organization called Battling Bare. Battling Bare is currently seeking non-profit status and hopes to raise awareness and remove the stigma of post-traumatic stress disorder.

Do you know of any efforts in your area like this? I personally know of a few efforts that provide separate housing for inmates who are veterans and suffering from PTSD; here they provide counseling and a quiet environment without a lot of stimuli from unexpected sources. There are also a couple of support groups here for wives and family members of the deployed.

Would you be interested in participating in a fundraiser for Battling Bare?
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How many soldiers do you know who are suffering from PTSD?
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Are any of them directly related to you?
Yes, they are my family members.
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No, they are friends or acquaintances of mine.
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Should the government provide mandatory counseling for all returning servicemen and women?
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Yes!
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Require? No. But, it should be available if requested.
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Kindred Kindred
PTSD is no less devastating than losing a limb in combat. Our government should do everything necessary to take care of our wounded soldiers. It's the least we can do to honor the sacrifices that they make for our country.

I would absolutely donate to a fundraiser for Battling Bare by EdenGivesBack.
08/02/2012
beautifulbombshellVI beautifulbombshellVI
Yes please! I would definitely donate to that fundraiser.
08/02/2012
beautifulbombshellVI beautifulbombshellVI
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Yes please! I would definitely donate to that fundraiser.
They have a mental check before they enter the military. It should be part of the exit process as well.
08/02/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
The soldier I knew has since passed away, but I remember the scars he had and how PTSD affected him. I would donate to a fundraiser for Battling Bare in a heartbeat.
08/02/2012
bedorerc bedorerc
My husband has PTSD (thankfully he has a mild case) and so do several of his friends from the army. The army needs to do more about it, they need to do more to encorage soliders to ask for help. I have heard of several cases that a soldier had PTSD and was afraid to ask for help, afraid of what people would think of them. In some cases the person tried to fight it on their own until they couldnt, and they killed themselves.
08/02/2012
geekkink geekkink
I am a suffer of PTSD myself, Let me assure you how not fun it is to have panic attacks from flash backs that no one understands. Or the fact that when my friends and family have concerns, or my girlfriend just needs to be held and I can't because my brain wont let me care. Yeah, I totally support this.
08/02/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I think the fundraiser is a great idea. I have family and best friends that served in the military, but none of them were ever sent off to war so they don't experience PTSD.
08/03/2012
lovekink lovekink
What a courageous young woman she is! I would be interested in a fundraiser!
08/05/2012
Do emu Do emu
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Originally posted by Ansley


Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD - Click here to read this amazing and poignant article by Tucker Cummings!

Many of us have been touched by war in some way; whether it's because ... More
My cousin suffers from PTSD, but tries to hide it. I think he's coping a bit better now at least.
08/05/2012
Ansley Ansley
I also have a soldier in the family who has PTSD. When he left for the Marine Corp, he had beautiful kind eyes and when he returned, there was no longer a window to his soul; they were orbs of ice staring at back at all of us.

This was many years ago when they called PTSD "shell shock". Sadly, the only advancements we've made in providing care is our military has stopped calling it shell shock and given it a real diagnosis.
08/06/2012
XxFallenAngelxX XxFallenAngelxX
This affects so many and is still not that openly talked about.
08/06/2012
apryls apryls
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley


Loving the Broken: Three Women Coping with Marriage to a Military Man with PTSD - Click here to read this amazing and poignant article by Tucker Cummings!

Many of us have been touched by war in some way; whether it's because ... More
My dad is suffering from PTSD. He served his country for over 30 yrs and served in 2 wars, but this last time I almost lost him He's home and getting treated, but not for the PTSD. I'm just lucky to have him home. I'm thankful for that.
08/06/2012
Ansley Ansley
Do you think the U.S. gov't admitting that war shatters souls and hearts of everyone involved, it would shake our foundation for peacekeepng efforts?
08/07/2012
sweetiejo sweetiejo
I think that we need make sure we have enough doctors to provide counselling for those coming home with PTSD, it takes weeks for an initial appointment. Then after that it can take several more weeks for another one, many of these guys give up on going before they can make it to a second meeting.
08/08/2012
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