How would you feel about your partner going to a strip club?

NuMe NuMe
In Rachel Kramer Bussel's article Strippers Are Sexy, she says "Gossips love to speculate that strip club visits equal marital doom, whereas I don't think you can infer anything from a strip club visit other than that a guy likes to look at scantily clad women."

What do you think? Do you agree or disagree? How would you feel about your partner going to one? Would you go with them?
Jan 26, 11:56 pm
BobbiJay BobbiJay
I personally have gone to the strip club with a few of my exes and it increased their libido. It had nothing to do with our break ups. I see nothing wrong with it.
Jan 27, 12:15 am
Coralbell Coralbell
My boyfriend has gone to strip clubs a few times during our relationship, for bachelor parties. It doesn't have anything to do with problems in our relationship, he's just out having fun with his friends. It doesn't bother me. I don't have any interest in going.
Jan 27, 12:44 am
Kayla Kayla
I don't mind us going together to strip clubs, but if he went by himself on a regular basis, it might be a bit annoying to me.
Jan 27, 11:57 am
Beck Beck
If he is going so am I, but otherwise he is not going. My hubby wouldn't like it much anyhow, he is one cheap bastard. If he has to pay to get in, pay more for drinks, and tip the girls then he doesn't want to go. He doesn't have any unmarried friends so a bachelor party is not a thing for him. However if he wanted to go regularly I would be extremely annoyed too and it would cause issues, plus I would think he has a thing with one of the girls.
Jan 27, 12:11 pm
P'Gell P'Gell
My Man goes once in a great while, for someone's bachelor party or something. I've never been. I trust him and it only happens once in a great while (I can probably count the times on one hand) so it isn't a big deal. He got his picture taken with those twins with the biggest natural boobs in the world. 98 inches around or something.

It doesn't bother me. He is trustworthy. If he, once every 10 years or so, wants to look at some titty, I don't care. I have no desire to go with him, though.
Jan 27, 12:24 pm
DynamicKitty DynamicKitty
I would hate it if he left me home to go to a strip club, I'd rather go along with him because I love doing things with him and I'd like to see some titties and ass too! I'm stuck at home all the time as it is so him going by himself would probably upset me but only because I don't want to be stuck at home if I can get out and do something fun.
Jan 27, 12:37 pm
Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
I wouldn't have an issue with it; though, if we were sharing finances, and he went often, I can see how I would get annoyed financially with his visits. I may want to go once in a while, but more than likely, I probably wouldn't.
Jan 27, 12:53 pm
Sam (aka Jul!a) Sam (aka Jul!a)
If he was going as part of a bachelor party, then whatever. Have fun and don't sleep with anyone. I wouldn't have a problem going with him, or if he went occasionally with friends. I would have a problem with him choosing to leave me at home while he went alone or all the time with friends.
Jan 27, 1:09 pm
Curiouscat Curiouscat
Well if he's got me, why would he need to be at one? I wouldn't stand for that. I'd be hurt, and when I’m hurt I get angry. LOL. I wouldn't mind seeing a burlesque show WITH him, which would be cute. But a strip club no. No touching or lap dances from other girls or anything like that. As I’m sure he wouldn't want me doing that with another man. If he wouldn't want me doing anything with another man than I expect he won’t do anything with another woman in return.

Though my guy is not like that. He's very considerate and devoted to me as I am to him. So this would never happen with us. But generally speaking any guy I’m seeing I would not stand for them going to a strip club or anything, especially alone.
Jan 27, 1:09 pm
Stormy Stormy
He wouldn't go without me and I would jump on the opportunity. The one time I went, we had a lot of fun. Well, I did anyway. He ended up getting really jealous.
Jan 27, 1:43 pm
Coralbell Coralbell
If he was going all the time and choosing that over spending time with me, obviously that would be a problem. But that's true for almost anything, not just strippers.
Jan 28, 6:36 pm
married with children married with children
I dont care if we go together, but not by ourselves.
Jan 29, 8:49 pm
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
In Rachel Kramer Bussel's article Strippers Are Sexy, she says "Gossips love to speculate that strip club visits equal marital doom, whereas I don't think you can infer anything from a strip club visit other than that a guy likes to look at scantily ... More
Honestly, I am against strip clubs if you are in a relationship. UNLESS if its something that BOTh parties are really into. Some women are turned on by seeing their men oogle over other women and be rubbed on.....

Personally, with having a marriage ending in infidelity (porn addiction and constant belittling) I would have to say that I am totally against anything of that nature. My husband now, doesn't watch the porn dvds, magazines or even have any desire to enter a strip club. Its funny because he doesn't even masturbate! (which I know is hard to believe, but quite frankly, he doesn't have the time to slip away for it, so iM pretty sure he's telling the truth on that one lol).
Jan 30, 1:30 pm
MamaDivine MamaDivine
Quote:
Originally posted by Sam (aka Jul!a)
If he was going as part of a bachelor party, then whatever. Have fun and don't sleep with anyone. I wouldn't have a problem going with him, or if he went occasionally with friends. I would have a problem with him choosing to leave me at home while ... More
You are a bigger woman than I sam LOL. Id be so nerve racked knowing he was at a strip club with friends or others. But, Ive had bad experiences with that situation, so I guess thats why.
Jan 30, 1:31 pm
JR JR
As long as they came back to me (if I didn't go), I'd be ok with it. I know there are lots of variations in interest and that going to a club has nothing to do with love, so I wouldn't take it personal. Now, if they started acting different, I'd be concerned.
Jan 30, 5:47 pm
JustLikeHeaven JustLikeHeaven
It would not bother me shoot I will go with them.
Jan 30, 6:14 pm
blackbunny blackbunny
I don't see the big deal. My boyfriend I have a thing going on where if we were to ever go to a strip club together I would get to choose the girl to give him a lap dance. Besides I think the ladies would like me more
Jan 30, 8:08 pm
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I wouldn't mind going with, at all. I just wouldn't want my man going all the time.
Jan 30, 8:10 pm
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