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great job on the article!!! sounds like you may have rushed into the BDSM thing a little... you can be kinky without being in a Ds relationship. my Mister and i have both played Dominate roles in previous relationships now in our relationship its
great job on the article!!! sounds like you may have rushed into the BDSM thing a little... you can be kinky without being in a Ds relationship. my Mister and i have both played Dominate roles in previous relationships now in our relationship its not a Ds one its more like kinky vanilla. You can still be equals in like and just one be more of a Top and one a bottom. He spanks me and we do scenes and during play he's the Dom but its not done as punishment, its done because we both enjoy it ... but as soon as scene/playtime is over we go back to being equals.. you need to sit back and consider where BDSM fits in for you and your life. every couple is different just take your time and explore all the different aspects and talk to people that have lived the lifestyle for a long time, dont base something like this off of fantasy based book. feel free to email me if you ever have any questions, i'd be happy to give advise where i can
Those are kind of the steps we have taken. We've researched, talked to a few people, etc. and were just kind of left with a 'where do we go from here' type of feeling, so we just decided to kind of pursue it our own way.... whether it's right or 'wrong', I guess I don't know, but if it works out in the end, and makes us happy, we're okay with that! We never really realized it until we started looking more into BDSM relationships, but we had been doing scenes for a long time. So we felt that since taking it further was something we both fantasized about, we'd go for it!