The Slavette Diaries: Myths and Realities of Masters and Slaves

slavette slavette
Okay, so after my first round of myth-busting, I'm curious - were there any surprises in the article? And what annoying myths would you like me to tackle in future articles?
05/26/2009
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bodymodboy bodymodboy
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Originally posted by slavette
Okay, so after my first round of myth-busting, I'm curious - were there any surprises in the article? And what annoying myths would you like me to tackle in future articles?
Really great article! I remember a lot of people spouting off the same stuff and laughing in their face about it. Oh, I remember one master saying he was so skilled, his slaves didn't need a safeword. Riiiiiight.
05/26/2009
slavette slavette
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Originally posted by bodymodboy
Really great article! I remember a lot of people spouting off the same stuff and laughing in their face about it. Oh, I remember one master saying he was so skilled, his slaves didn't need a safeword. Riiiiiight.
Thanks...and I don't care what anyone says about not using safewords - everyone uses them whether they recognize it or not. Consider the phrase, "Ma'am, my eyeball seems to be attached to the end of your single-tail". It might not be a pre-arranged safeword, but saying it will have the same effect as yelling "Red!" If that doesn't stop the scene, you can bet a safeword wouldn't have worked either. (Worst case scenario, the top will at least want to stop and make sure that the eyeball hasn't done any permanent damage to their whip.)
05/26/2009
bodymodboy bodymodboy
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Originally posted by slavette
Thanks...and I don't care what anyone says about not using safewords - everyone uses them whether they recognize it or not. Consider the phrase, "Ma'am, my eyeball seems to be attached to the end of your single-tail". It might not ... More
Most definitely. I've met really great folks in the BDSM scene, and psychos who probably are potential sociopaths who are using it as an excuse to use derogatory words. I still am submissive, even though I top in the current relationship I am in. I always demand a safeword established.
05/26/2009
Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by slavette
Okay, so after my first round of myth-busting, I'm curious - were there any surprises in the article? And what annoying myths would you like me to tackle in future articles?
Great article. I love myth busting.

Maybe, for the future, a back to basics article regarding what M/s *is* as opposed to S&m or casual BDSM? How and why folks live it as a way of life rather than a kink?
05/26/2009
slavette slavette
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Great article. I love myth busting.

Maybe, for the future, a back to basics article regarding what M/s *is* as opposed to S&m or casual BDSM? How and why folks live it as a way of life rather than a kink?
Ooo, great article idea (I hope my editor is reading this). I touch on the difference a little bit in an upcoming article - yes, that's a blatant teaser - but don't get into much detail about M/s as a way of life.
05/26/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
I thought all of the points were pretty obvious and/or common sense. Although, some tend to be forgotten
05/26/2009
Lostfey Lostfey
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
I thought all of the points were pretty obvious and/or common sense. Although, some tend to be forgotten
Common sense is seldom common.
The points in the article are good advice to anyone entering a new sub-culture with which they are unfamiliar.
Everything is obvious once you have familiarity with it.
05/26/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by Lostfey
Common sense is seldom common.
The points in the article are good advice to anyone entering a new sub-culture with which they are unfamiliar.
Everything is obvious once you have familiarity with it.
Well, I think the folks who aren't using this common sense are less newbies than they are.. so entrenched in the thing that they forget. Heh
05/26/2009
Lostfey Lostfey
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Originally posted by Adriana Ravenlust
Well, I think the folks who aren't using this common sense are less newbies than they are.. so entrenched in the thing that they forget. Heh
Hmmm. So they get lost in the romance of the concept? Blinded by the fantasy? Would those folks be a higher percentage than your average newbies who might make the same mistakes? It's interesting to consider that the points made might have more validation for someone with experience who has lost their way then a newbie. For me, anyway. I'd originally only considered it from a rookie point of view, but it could equally apply as 'don't get lost in familiar territory' advice. Thanks for the response!
05/27/2009
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
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Originally posted by Lostfey
Hmmm. So they get lost in the romance of the concept? Blinded by the fantasy? Would those folks be a higher percentage than your average newbies who might make the same mistakes? It's interesting to consider that the points made might have more ... More
I definitely think it's an issue of familiarity/habit. I know some folks who are so used to what they do that they don't realize these things (like that there are no universal protocols or that "vanilla" can be an offensive word) even if they -practice- them.
05/27/2009
Jessica Elizabeth Jessica Elizabeth
Excellent article!

A lot of the myths i seem to come across is that all submissives are masochists, that slaves are 'better than" submissives, etc.
05/30/2009
slavette slavette
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Originally posted by Jessica Elizabeth
Excellent article!

A lot of the myths i seem to come across is that all submissives are masochists, that slaves are 'better than" submissives, etc.
I'd forgotten the one about submissives being masochists. You're right and I'm an excellent example of that not being true. When it comes to SM, I'm extremely submissive but not very masochistic. Basically, I won't enjoy it if the top isn't enjoying it even if it something I normally love (such as spanking or wax play). However, if it is something the top loves, I can get into it even if I normally wouldn't enjoy it (such clothes pins or gags).
06/01/2009
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