Almost everybody has one these days... that humorous or scary or heartwarming anecdote from their experiences with online dating services.
What's yours?
What's yours?
What's Your Online Dating Service Story?
I'll even go first!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people know where i was, who I was with, all the right moves and while he was too liberal for me (yes, there is such a thing as too liberal, even for me!) I still felt like he was safe, normal, not crazy.
But there was no real chemistry and I didn't think seeing each other again was worth it, especially since he spent most of his time in NY (vs KC, where I am).
But then, things started getting odd. His text messages were strange, his video text messages were disturbing... he would send me videos of himself as he was driving down the road, just rambling on about I don't know what. Then he sent one where he was yelling in a high pitched voice (think the voice Tony Perkins uses in Psycho to imitate his dead mother...creepy!)..but the final straw was the video of him shooting a pigeon with a shot gun and then picking it up and flinging it into the air repeatedly while (in the same creepy screech) yelling.."fly away birdie, fly away!"
That was it, I told him I'd started seeing someone seriously who was quite jealous and he needed to stop texting me and contacting me so I could keep the new guy happy. I wanted him thinking there was a seriously-jealous, very-large man hanging around me, who might get violent should he show up with pigeons..or a shotgun!
P.S. This was my first attempt at dating after breaking up with someone I'd been seeing for 7 years and it kept me from trying again for another 5 months!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people know where i was, who I was with, all the right moves and while he was too liberal for me (yes, there is such a thing as too liberal, even for me!) I still felt like he was safe, normal, not crazy.
But there was no real chemistry and I didn't think seeing each other again was worth it, especially since he spent most of his time in NY (vs KC, where I am).
But then, things started getting odd. His text messages were strange, his video text messages were disturbing... he would send me videos of himself as he was driving down the road, just rambling on about I don't know what. Then he sent one where he was yelling in a high pitched voice (think the voice Tony Perkins uses in Psycho to imitate his dead mother...creepy!)..but the final straw was the video of him shooting a pigeon with a shot gun and then picking it up and flinging it into the air repeatedly while (in the same creepy screech) yelling.."fly away birdie, fly away!"
That was it, I told him I'd started seeing someone seriously who was quite jealous and he needed to stop texting me and contacting me so I could keep the new guy happy. I wanted him thinking there was a seriously-jealous, very-large man hanging around me, who might get violent should he show up with pigeons..or a shotgun!
P.S. This was my first attempt at dating after breaking up with someone I'd been seeing for 7 years and it kept me from trying again for another 5 months!
09/09/2010
I've done the online dating thing a few times, each with mixed results.
My first real long term started online in 1998, back in the days of dial up and looking at porn on the internet was an all-day event.
The last time was the summer of 07. The girl seemed really nice at first. But OMG did she get crazy fast! I found out really quick why she was a divorcee!
My first real long term started online in 1998, back in the days of dial up and looking at porn on the internet was an all-day event.
The last time was the summer of 07. The girl seemed really nice at first. But OMG did she get crazy fast! I found out really quick why she was a divorcee!
09/09/2010
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Oh, Laurel, that's awful! When I was dating, there was no internet to speak of.
Originally posted by
LicentiouslyYours
I'll even go first!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people ...
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people ...
I'll even go first!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people know where i was, who I was with, all the right moves and while he was too liberal for me (yes, there is such a thing as too liberal, even for me!) I still felt like he was safe, normal, not crazy.
But there was no real chemistry and I didn't think seeing each other again was worth it, especially since he spent most of his time in NY (vs KC, where I am).
But then, things started getting odd. His text messages were strange, his video text messages were disturbing... he would send me videos of himself as he was driving down the road, just rambling on about I don't know what. Then he sent one where he was yelling in a high pitched voice (think the voice Tony Perkins uses in Psycho to imitate his dead mother...creepy!)..but the final straw was the video of him shooting a pigeon with a shot gun and then picking it up and flinging it into the air repeatedly while (in the same creepy screech) yelling.."fly away birdie, fly away!"
That was it, I told him I'd started seeing someone seriously who was quite jealous and he needed to stop texting me and contacting me so I could keep the new guy happy. I wanted him thinking there was a seriously-jealous, very-large man hanging around me, who might get violent should he show up with pigeons..or a shotgun!
P.S. This was my first attempt at dating after breaking up with someone I'd been seeing for 7 years and it kept me from trying again for another 5 months!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people know where i was, who I was with, all the right moves and while he was too liberal for me (yes, there is such a thing as too liberal, even for me!) I still felt like he was safe, normal, not crazy.
But there was no real chemistry and I didn't think seeing each other again was worth it, especially since he spent most of his time in NY (vs KC, where I am).
But then, things started getting odd. His text messages were strange, his video text messages were disturbing... he would send me videos of himself as he was driving down the road, just rambling on about I don't know what. Then he sent one where he was yelling in a high pitched voice (think the voice Tony Perkins uses in Psycho to imitate his dead mother...creepy!)..but the final straw was the video of him shooting a pigeon with a shot gun and then picking it up and flinging it into the air repeatedly while (in the same creepy screech) yelling.."fly away birdie, fly away!"
That was it, I told him I'd started seeing someone seriously who was quite jealous and he needed to stop texting me and contacting me so I could keep the new guy happy. I wanted him thinking there was a seriously-jealous, very-large man hanging around me, who might get violent should he show up with pigeons..or a shotgun!
P.S. This was my first attempt at dating after breaking up with someone I'd been seeing for 7 years and it kept me from trying again for another 5 months!
One of my friends met a psycho on one of those dating sites (the one that is supposed to screen out the weirdos) He was OK for the first few dates, then she said he keep going into the bathroom, and coming out looking really stoned. The one day he got really mad at her for no reason, he got crazy, and she thought he was going to hit her. She told her him was going to call the police. He left, but did the whole "guilt texting" thing etc. for a while.
A short while later she met the man who would become her husband on the same site. She was about to give up on it, and this new man was just insistent he HAD to see her, but not creepy. They went out, and her dog bit him on the face! Even after the ER visit, and the mandatory police investigation (they have to Kennel dogs who bite for rabies watch in our county) he STILL wanted to see her, and now they are happily married with a toddler.
09/09/2010
Before we met my husband had joined a dating service..back then it wasn't online though, it was a building that he went to. It cost something like $60 a month and there was a contract for 24 months. It was INSANE. We got together like two months after he signed up...NOT through the company, the company only set him up once and him and the girl had no chemistry and nothing in common. We were planning our wedding while budgeting into our bills that we had to pay this rip off of a company $60 a month. It worked out that two months before our wedding we paid off the last payment.
09/09/2010
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wow...that's crap. It's for reasons like that I'm not a big fan of signing contracts with companies for services. It makes life a little more difficult, but at least I'm not stuck paying for stuff I'll never use.
Originally posted by
Alicia
Before we met my husband had joined a dating service..back then it wasn't online though, it was a building that he went to. It cost something like $60 a month and there was a contract for 24 months. It was INSANE. We got together like two
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Before we met my husband had joined a dating service..back then it wasn't online though, it was a building that he went to. It cost something like $60 a month and there was a contract for 24 months. It was INSANE. We got together like two months after he signed up...NOT through the company, the company only set him up once and him and the girl had no chemistry and nothing in common. We were planning our wedding while budgeting into our bills that we had to pay this rip off of a company $60 a month. It worked out that two months before our wedding we paid off the last payment.
09/09/2010
I have never been on an actual dating site, but I have had guys go after me online in games and such. I think the weirdest one was when i was 18 and this 12/13 year old was stalking me. It was so bad that he didn't tell me he registered his phone to AIM and got charged out the ass. Because I was partially responsible, his mother said I had to pay half. Being young and naive I didn't want dad knowing, I agreed and did so (I was working at the time, just got a job and all). Now that it's been many years, I really do not think I should have paid, how was I to know her son registered his phone to work with AIM without her knowing? I didn't know either, so how does it make me at fault?
Oh well. Later on I met another guy, found he lived by me, about 45 minute drive away. It was nice, but then i found out he was a player and thusly left him, too, after he kept standing me up when he realized i didn't want to get physical until MUCH later in the relationship. (Thankfully never happened.)
After that I found my bf I am still with now after 3 years. Long distance relationship, but we are doing our best to make it work and hope to have a future together.
It was funny tho, all 3 times I wasn't even looking and it was from inside video games where we started off as friends. I can only imagine the kinds of weirdos I'd have met on an online dating service though.
Oh well. Later on I met another guy, found he lived by me, about 45 minute drive away. It was nice, but then i found out he was a player and thusly left him, too, after he kept standing me up when he realized i didn't want to get physical until MUCH later in the relationship. (Thankfully never happened.)
After that I found my bf I am still with now after 3 years. Long distance relationship, but we are doing our best to make it work and hope to have a future together.
It was funny tho, all 3 times I wasn't even looking and it was from inside video games where we started off as friends. I can only imagine the kinds of weirdos I'd have met on an online dating service though.
09/09/2010
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Jesus, Some people. :/ I can see why that would put you off dating for a while. Yikes.
Originally posted by
LicentiouslyYours
I'll even go first!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people ...
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people ...
I'll even go first!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people know where i was, who I was with, all the right moves and while he was too liberal for me (yes, there is such a thing as too liberal, even for me!) I still felt like he was safe, normal, not crazy.
But there was no real chemistry and I didn't think seeing each other again was worth it, especially since he spent most of his time in NY (vs KC, where I am).
But then, things started getting odd. His text messages were strange, his video text messages were disturbing... he would send me videos of himself as he was driving down the road, just rambling on about I don't know what. Then he sent one where he was yelling in a high pitched voice (think the voice Tony Perkins uses in Psycho to imitate his dead mother...creepy!)..but the final straw was the video of him shooting a pigeon with a shot gun and then picking it up and flinging it into the air repeatedly while (in the same creepy screech) yelling.."fly away birdie, fly away!"
That was it, I told him I'd started seeing someone seriously who was quite jealous and he needed to stop texting me and contacting me so I could keep the new guy happy. I wanted him thinking there was a seriously-jealous, very-large man hanging around me, who might get violent should he show up with pigeons..or a shotgun!
P.S. This was my first attempt at dating after breaking up with someone I'd been seeing for 7 years and it kept me from trying again for another 5 months!
I met a guy through an online service who seemed normal enough. I went through all the safety protocols, took my time talking to him and genuinely felt like he was a normal guy. I even met up with him, letting people know where i was, who I was with, all the right moves and while he was too liberal for me (yes, there is such a thing as too liberal, even for me!) I still felt like he was safe, normal, not crazy.
But there was no real chemistry and I didn't think seeing each other again was worth it, especially since he spent most of his time in NY (vs KC, where I am).
But then, things started getting odd. His text messages were strange, his video text messages were disturbing... he would send me videos of himself as he was driving down the road, just rambling on about I don't know what. Then he sent one where he was yelling in a high pitched voice (think the voice Tony Perkins uses in Psycho to imitate his dead mother...creepy!)..but the final straw was the video of him shooting a pigeon with a shot gun and then picking it up and flinging it into the air repeatedly while (in the same creepy screech) yelling.."fly away birdie, fly away!"
That was it, I told him I'd started seeing someone seriously who was quite jealous and he needed to stop texting me and contacting me so I could keep the new guy happy. I wanted him thinking there was a seriously-jealous, very-large man hanging around me, who might get violent should he show up with pigeons..or a shotgun!
P.S. This was my first attempt at dating after breaking up with someone I'd been seeing for 7 years and it kept me from trying again for another 5 months!
Feb 1, 6:52 pm
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I signed up for a (what will remained unnamed) online dating service once and had such a terrible experience that I deleted my account less than 24 hours later! It was full of creeps and one person started leaving me threatening comments because I didn't want to reveal my personal information to them. Others left derogatory comments and attempted to pressure me into webcam sex. The website also wasn't very accommodating to non-cisgender and/or non-heterosexual individuals - when I signed up I actually could not exclusively choose women to view my profile and had to choose "women and men". Even if this has changed the whole experience left a bad taste in my mouth and I'll probably never use a dating service again.
Originally posted by
LicentiouslyYours
Almost everybody has one these days... that humorous or scary or heartwarming anecdote from their experiences with online dating services.
What's yours?
What's yours?
I've known a lot of people that have said "their friends" had a good experience with it, good for them I guess. Thankfully I now have a wonderful partner whom I love very much and am no longer in need of such things.
Feb 9, 10:56 pm
Ah..I've been meaning to incorporate some of my online dating into an article!
I've had both good and bad experiences. I met one guy online, met him, got along great, and we ended up having sex that night, and then every weekend thereafter for a couple months, haha. It was my "slut" phase in my short inrexperienced life
I've had both good and bad experiences. I met one guy online, met him, got along great, and we ended up having sex that night, and then every weekend thereafter for a couple months, haha. It was my "slut" phase in my short inrexperienced life
Feb 20, 1:09 am
I have a profile on a BDSM social networking site, and in my profile it said that I wasn't interested in anyone over 30, but a 41 year old man messaged me anyways. I'm usually nice to people who message me unless they do something really offensive, so I chatted with him for a bit and we got along, but I let him know he was too old for me.
A little while later, I got a message from a cute young guy on the other side of the country, even though my profile said I wasn't interested in anything long distance. But again, I was nice to him because he wasn't being offensive. It turns out, that the older guy was his brother, and he had found me through him. Because I'd been nice to the older guy, he told his younger brother that I was cool when he asked about me, which is part of what led to him starting a conversation with me. That younger guy and I ended up falling in love, and I flew out to see him over the summer last year, and I'm going back again for the whole summer this year. The older brother and I are still friends, and he's sort of like an uncle to me at this point.
So I guess the moral of the story is that being nice to people even if their first impressions aren't perfect can really pay off in the end sometimes.
A little while later, I got a message from a cute young guy on the other side of the country, even though my profile said I wasn't interested in anything long distance. But again, I was nice to him because he wasn't being offensive. It turns out, that the older guy was his brother, and he had found me through him. Because I'd been nice to the older guy, he told his younger brother that I was cool when he asked about me, which is part of what led to him starting a conversation with me. That younger guy and I ended up falling in love, and I flew out to see him over the summer last year, and I'm going back again for the whole summer this year. The older brother and I are still friends, and he's sort of like an uncle to me at this point.
So I guess the moral of the story is that being nice to people even if their first impressions aren't perfect can really pay off in the end sometimes.
Feb 20, 2:41 am
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