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So I let my boyfriend finger my ass, I've used plugs to get ready. But when it comes to taking him it's just too big. We have tried using a lot of lube and going slow, different positions. I love the orgasm I get when he fingers me but I want
So I let my boyfriend finger my ass, I've used plugs to get ready. But when it comes to taking him it's just too big. We have tried using a lot of lube and going slow, different positions. I love the orgasm I get when he fingers me but I want all of him. Any tips or advice?
This is kind of hard to describe, but let me try. If you lay on your left side, with your right leg forward and your bottom, left leg straight, but do so right at the edge of the bed, so your bottom is right at the edge (actually, poking out over the edge of the bed), your guy can stand on the floor next to the bed, and enter your anus with the least amount of "tension" and at a very slow, controlled pace. If he "aims" his penis more towards your belly button (not "straight in, but more curved up") it will follow the more natural angle of your rectum in this position. Using a very thick lube...lots of it, and in this position, you may well find that penetration is possible, and the key is, it shouldn't hurt. If anal play hurts, please stop. The last thing you want is damage down there. It is, indeed, possible that he is "too big" for you, but that is pretty rare. Most men fall in a pretty predictable size range in the "real world" and very few are in the extreme. The anus is pretty darn expandable, if you are relaxed and willing, so it may be technique too, so sometimes you actually pushing outward, as if trying to have a bowel movement, will open your anus a bit more, and allow him to enter more easily. It sounds counter-intuitive, but that is the reality of the anatomy. Once you find something that works, you will learn to use it, and it should become easier over time. Good luck, have fun.