Anal how to?

Contributor: Mesmerizing Mesmerizing
My fiance and I have been talking about having more anal sex. Now, I'm no prude and have had anal before but I'm still concerned about things getting... messy. Other times I've used laxatives to clear my bowels but I'm kind of a health freak and don't like constant use of laxatives. What I'm getting at here is enemas. I'm thinking about using this as a method for anal. I have some questions though. Are they safe? Are they safe for daily usage? Is it something I can do solo or am I gonna need some assistance? I'm open to other suggestions on how to make anal a little less messy so feel free to link anything you use personally or think will help my situation. Thank you in advance for your help and understanding
12/09/2009
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12/09/2009
Contributor: Mesmerizing Mesmerizing
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Originally posted by Mesmerizing
My fiance and I have been talking about having more anal sex. Now, I'm no prude and have had anal before but I'm still concerned about things getting... messy. Other times I've used laxatives to clear my bowels but I'm kind of a ... more
Not sure if the title really suits this but I couldn't think of anything else and I am not sure I can edit the post lol
12/09/2009
Contributor: Saraid Saraid
Honestly, you'd be surprised how clean the anal canal is provided that you've already had a bowel movement earlier in the day. I have never had an issue with anal play being messy and have never done an enema.

If you feel you want to do an enema (even though I stress, there's not much need) empty out the contents of the enema well and use only plain water. You could also just do this with a ball-suction device. (Think of something that looks a little like a turkey baster.)

Also, if you've never done anal before, you probably won't be able to take his cock the first time. You would be best off buying a smaller toy like the Fun Factory Bootie, or if you feel you can relax enough, the Tantus Ryder which is my favorite plug, but a little girthy for a beginner.

Also, I would *highly* recommend buying The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino. It's an awesome book. You can get it right here on Edenfantasys at a good price (also, I wrote a review you can read to get more of an idea what it contains - it will be on the product page).

Another thing is lube - make sure you have a nice thick lube. My favorite is Sliquid Sassy, but a lot of people also like Maximus. I hope this helps!
12/09/2009
Contributor: Mesmerizing Mesmerizing
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Originally posted by Saraid
Honestly, you'd be surprised how clean the anal canal is provided that you've already had a bowel movement earlier in the day. I have never had an issue with anal play being messy and have never done an enema.

If you feel you want ... more
How much earlier in the day would be "less of a hassle" if I may?

I'm quit regular and usually am doing my business fairly early after asking up in the morning but will I be able to go through my day and come home after school and work and get to it? Or will that be too late in the day?
12/09/2009
Contributor: Saraid Saraid
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Originally posted by Mesmerizing
How much earlier in the day would be "less of a hassle" if I may?

I'm quit regular and usually am doing my business fairly early after asking up in the morning but will I be able to go through my day and come home after school ... more
You should be fine. I usually go to the bathroom around 9 in the morning and don't do any anal play until 7-8 that night.
12/09/2009
Contributor: Mesmerizing Mesmerizing
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Originally posted by Saraid
You should be fine. I usually go to the bathroom around 9 in the morning and don't do any anal play until 7-8 that night.
This was very helpful thank you very much
12/09/2009
Contributor: Bill Ditchburn Bill Ditchburn
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Originally posted by Mesmerizing
My fiance and I have been talking about having more anal sex. Now, I'm no prude and have had anal before but I'm still concerned about things getting... messy. Other times I've used laxatives to clear my bowels but I'm kind of a ... more
There shouldn't be a problem if you're just using straight, clean water, but I'd stay away from chemical formulations, especially anything intended to treat constipation. Guy Morin in his little book 'Anal Pleasure and Health' says they may cause problems with normal functioning of the lower digestive system.

There's also a bit of a myth that the rectum contains feces most of the time, when in fact fecal matter is usually contained in the colon, and only passes through the rectum when - well, you know when. There is a sphincter muscle between the colon and the rectum, which holds back the brown tide till you're ready to go. As a result, at most times, the rectum only contains traces of poo, easily sloshed away with a bit of Adam's Ale.
12/09/2009
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
If you're worried, a quick finger check in the bathroom before starting play will let you know. As you get used to your body you'll start to know as well.

It really depends on your body. Sometimes I'm clean for a while after a BM, sometimes not. Stimulant laxatives should be avoided, since they're hard on the GI tract and will probably make anal play less comfortable. A bit of warm water (8-12oz) is OK, or a couple of glycerin suppositories (they work by pulling water into the rectum rather than being a stimulant). I don't always have good luck with the suppositories, though.

Definitely start with fingers and other toys to get used to the sensations and used to relaxing.

Enemas are pretty safe if you don't do them too often or take too much. Definitely don't use soap or anything in the water, a little salt or baking soda is OK but not necessary. Get some decent equipment that doesn't have hard or sharp edges and is easy to use, too.

Give your bowels about an hour to settle down afterwards before playing, too.
12/10/2009
Contributor: Bullfanch Bullfanch
Thanks for all the great information. Some of it was new to me, and very helpful Love anal, but don't always love the hassle......
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