When did anal sex start for you. As part of a "marriage" or "committed relationship" or as a "dating thing"?

Bignuf Bignuf
Do more people start engaging in anal play with someone they are really comfortable with long term, or as part of sex, "early on" in a relationship? Which is more common?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
ticklemepink93 , Gunsmoke , Husband and Wife , smalltalkingbit , The Amber May , LoooveMonkey , LAndJ , Frank Rogers , Glinteye , honeyluv
10
RonLee , Bignuf , bighose , C&K0143 , wrecklesswords , 19WolfMan51 , BlackOrchid , CE , gehuwd , Isola , MaeGal , Sander Rugaev
12
Edeneve , SecretKinksters , wrecklesswords , SaucyxGirl , MacTheRioper , PadoruLover
6
Total votes: 28 (27 voters)
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12/23/2013
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RonLee RonLee
With my first GF the very first time that her and I had intercourse was anal.
12/23/2013
Edeneve Edeneve
if I should ever be interested in having anal sex, I know it would have to be w/ a long time lover I trust w/ abandonment in bed.
12/24/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by RonLee
With my first GF the very first time that her and I had intercourse was anal.
Was that her idea, your idea, or did it jus work out that way? Had either of you done anal before?
12/24/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Edeneve
if I should ever be interested in having anal sex, I know it would have to be w/ a long time lover I trust w/ abandonment in bed.
Trust is never a bad thing!
12/24/2013
dv8 dv8
I've dated various women who've gone around the world on our first dates.
12/25/2013
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
Was that her idea, your idea, or did it jus work out that way? Had either of you done anal before?
Neither of us had previously had a romantic partner. Although I had experimented with anal penetration on myself, I had not yet figured out that I was bi. The idea for butt fucking came out of nesseccity. She was absolutely terrified of getting pregnant but wanted to have sex so much. Of course as a teenage boy I wanted to have sex too. I had no condoms, and at that point had never purchased any. We lived in a rather small town, and there was a high probability that the checkout clerk at any of the pharmacies would have known my folks or hers. Her Mom would have gone absolutely ballistic if she'd figured out that we were sexually active. Given that, we decided that butt fucking would be the best choice.
It was...

That girl broke up with me after we'd been together for about two years. It really broke my heart.
12/25/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
He's started when dating others, I started when I met him, but I masturbated anally before I met him.
12/26/2013
Husband and Wife Husband and Wife
Started on our honeymoon when I first peg my husband. He is into anal I am not. Although I will let cum on my ass as long as he cleans it up
Jan 9, 8:45 am
wrecklesswords wrecklesswords
For me, it started during an affair that I had. (Yes, I know. gross, I was only 19). It wasn't the goal of that exact night, but I ended up liking it quite a bit. So, I suppose it was while dating? But I picked while dating and other to kind of cover all the bases.

However, after that, I only let one other man try it with me because I trusted him and had known him for so long and had slept with him off and on through the years. No one else has done it since, and it's been maybe 4-5 years, but I wouldn't mind trying it with my soon-to-be husband.
Jan 23, 5:05 pm
smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
I started once my partner and I were together roughly 6 months in. We were friends for years before dating, so early on in our relationship, he shared that anal was a fantasy of his (and he was pleasantly surprised-- moreso pleasantly shocked-- when I said I would try it). I bought lubricant shortly after that, but it took until we were together longer for us to try it. He was petrified that he would hurt me and had a hard time staying erect as a result, so I talked him through it and we both ended up loving it. There was (and is) a lot of trust involved between us in the bedroom, which is why we've been able to branch out from more "conventional" sex.
Jan 28, 11:34 am
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
We had anal sex for the first time about a week ago and it was heavenly... After 8 years in a relationship. I told him when we started doing sexual things and talking about our preferences that I would never want him to do anything like that ever. But I changed my mind when I started doing reviews here and I tried an anal toy which I really enjoyed. I presented him with the idea that I wasn't opposed to it anymore a year ago and let the seed grow in his mind. XD I'm so pleased that it finally happened!
Jan 29, 12:35 am
CE CE
I have been interested in having anal sex with women since I was 12 or 13 and when I first got really sexual with a girlfriend at 19, one of the first things I did was stick my finger up her ass during car-sex. Now if I start to date someone, I usually start anal play pretty quickly - I've never had a woman say NO to my tongue, and its a good indicator if they are open to more 'kinkier' sex. But if anal play isnt their thing, then I know that the relationship won't go very far. I want to go so much further with a life-long partner than anal play that if they aren't open to trying a finger or more - then it isn't going to work out and we each better find someone who's more compatible.

Luckily, after many years, I have!
Jan 29, 9:02 pm
LAndJ LAndJ
In a LTR after 2 years in. It was very rare the first year and now in year 4, anal play is a more regular part of our routine.
Jan 30, 8:37 pm
Oriental husband and wife Oriental husband and wife
Quote:
Originally posted by wrecklesswords
For me, it started during an affair that I had. (Yes, I know. gross, I was only 19). It wasn't the goal of that exact night, but I ended up liking it quite a bit. So, I suppose it was while dating? But I picked while dating and other to kind ... More
Would you tell your soon to be husband ? Or have you ? Or will you at a later date ? Just curious.. Some things are better kept private for a while.
Jan 30, 11:59 pm
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
My first experience with anal was with a long term boyfriend. But I have engaged in it with short term boyfriends, one night stands and friends with benefits.
Jan 31, 2:17 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by LoooveMonkey
We had anal sex for the first time about a week ago and it was heavenly... After 8 years in a relationship. I told him when we started doing sexual things and talking about our preferences that I would never want him to do anything like that ever. ... More
A week ago! Welcome to the club!!!
Jan 31, 4:44 pm
Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by Oriental husband and wife
Would you tell your soon to be husband ? Or have you ? Or will you at a later date ? Just curious.. Some things are better kept private for a while.
I think there never needs to be mention of this with her "soon to be" husband, honestly. She just needs to let him know she would love to "try" anal sex. He will likely be thrilled and she can even let him think it is her first try, or else just let him know she tried it when "dating" others. An "affair" at 19...when the brain and decision centers are not even "fully cooked" yet, is hardly something to have hanging over your head and certainly not worth burdening the trust of a new marriage with. Bury that thought and let it be. Move on and enjoy your new married life and be happy.(In short, don't add baggage that simply doesn't belong there).
Jan 31, 4:49 pm
LoooveMonkey LoooveMonkey
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
A week ago! Welcome to the club!!!
Haha, thank you! It's good to be here.
Feb 12, 10:42 pm
Glinteye Glinteye
I've only done it with my ex, but one of my current partners and I will probably go down that road soon.
Mar 30, 1:54 pm
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Unique posters: 14