Some questions on dating etiquette...

Istanbull Istanbull
While on a 1st, 2nd or 3rd whatever date it is that a guy is making out with a woman for the first time and he gets his hands in her panties, is it all right to try to finger her anus to see if she's an anal lover?
08/30/2012
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
It might go over better if you simply ask her. Trying to suave your way when it comes to anal sex usually ends up rather nastily. It's always better to simply ask if she likes to be touched there and if she is interested in the act itself.
08/30/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It might go over better if you simply ask her. Trying to suave your way when it comes to anal sex usually ends up rather nastily. It's always better to simply ask if she likes to be touched there and if she is interested in the act itself.
I agree. I would not be happy if someone did that without asking
08/30/2012
Sera26 Sera26
Yeah, I agree you need to ask. If someone asks then I consider stuff like that. If they just go for it then I get defensive and put off.
08/30/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Istanbull
While on a 1st, 2nd or 3rd whatever date it is that a guy is making out with a woman for the first time and he gets his hands in her panties, is it all right to try to finger her anus to see if she's an anal lover?
No. NOT a good idea...at all.

It's even possible you could get arrested for that.
08/30/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
No. NOT a good idea...at all.

It's even possible you could get arrested for that.
I was very tired when I wrote the question so it's not worded the best but anyways.

What states can one get arrested for it? Must be the same states that arrest women for owning vibrators.
08/31/2012
Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by Airen Wolf
It might go over better if you simply ask her. Trying to suave your way when it comes to anal sex usually ends up rather nastily. It's always better to simply ask if she likes to be touched there and if she is interested in the act itself.
I originally included a "Ask her" part but then removed it. The fact is there's pretty much no easy way I can see in asking that comes across good.

The idea of asking anything "Can I touch you _____?" just seems ackward and goofy, like if she says "yes" one then responds with "Thank you". It just seems to me that no matter how I one could go about it, there's a high risk of turnoff and driving her away.

I was talking with a girl I went to high school with on-line. We eventually got to talking about hooking up and we did this over a week. Every once in a while we talked sex and then I finally started asking what she was in to. Her response was "Well what do you mean?" and I asked about things like oral and swallowing, condoms yes/no, such and such and she would respond with "Yes, maybe, Oh Yes". Than I asked if she liked anal and she typed "ABSOLUTLY NOT!" and blocked me.
08/31/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Maybe ask something more vague like "how do you like to be touched" and let her know that nothing she admits to will be held against her, and that you're not easily offended. You need to gain her trust first, but she'll open up to you. Then, of course, she will hopefully ask you what your fantasies are.

Honestly, I do enjoy anal play, but only when I'm in the mood for it. I don't ever appreciate being touched there without warning.
09/04/2012
SavingMyself SavingMyself
If a guy touched me there without asking, especially if we're just dating(for me there's a point where it becomes a "relationship" not just "dating"), he would probably never get to touch me anywhere else again.
09/05/2012
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