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I will try to keep this short. My wife does not like anal sex. At times I will play with a finger or tongue (right after bathing) for added stimulation on her anus, and she does enjoy that most of the time. For a few years I have asked if anal was
I will try to keep this short. My wife does not like anal sex. At times I will play with a finger or tongue (right after bathing) for added stimulation on her anus, and she does enjoy that most of the time. For a few years I have asked if anal was something she was willing to try with me. We have had several attempts, with one full session. That time she was relaxed from a few glasses of wine and we were out of town, which seems to bring out her wilder side.
Anyway, it had been a long time, so I asked again a few weeks ago. She seemed frustrated, and I thought that was the end of it. Well, this week after a nice orgasm for her, she asked me if I wanted to. She does not want to do a lot of prep, because she is just doing it for me. I did a little to try to get her ready. It was quick, I was already quite turned on, and I knew she wanted me to finish. As in the past, she gets a puzzled look and asks, "was it that great?" I thanked her for sharing and said I enjoyed it.
I just want to know for those of you who say you did not like it or hated it, how did you get to where you love it now? I know I can't make my wife like it, but it isn't all that enjoyable to me when I can feel she is not relaxed and is not trying to achieve any pleasure. What changed for you? Thanks.
The first few times My Man suggested it, I was like, "Are you crazy?" LOL! However, now we do it a lot, and we both love it.
He didn't do anything to "make" me like it, as you said. He did suggest that I use a vaginal dildo or insertable vibrator during anal sex, this is a feeling that most women are familiar with, and it really helped me enjoy the anal sex more. Also, the dil gets pushed into your G Spot and it is really fantastic. He always took it slow and easy, we use a lot of lube and I don't know why I like it, but I know it took him years to talk me into it. I have NO idea what I was afraid, of; he said I used to be afraid it would hurt too much or I'd tear. But, if you take it slow and don't push yourself, that won't happen.
I also found that I have to have a good orgasm before we begin anal sex, I can have anal play before an orgasm (in fact, I have become so sexualized to it, that it helps me orgasm most of the time) but for full anal intercourse, I have to have had an orgasm in the last hour or so.
I wish I had more information for you. I know I had fantasies about anal sex for a long time before I consented to it, and finally I thought, "What the heck? I'm thinking about it, why don't we do it?" Also, I found that watching anal porn helpful, that doesn't work for all women, though. I tend to be more "visual" than most women, so that worked for me, and still does.