Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?

Contributor: PonyPlay PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
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60  (14%)
67  (15%)
40  (9%)
Total votes: 442
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Contributor: shepegsME shepegsME
He will understand the plumbing much better.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Kayla Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
I agree with this.

In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate - it will happen of its own accord, when the partners are ready, or not at all.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
I agree.
07/30/2010
Contributor: TacoODoom TacoODoom
Quote:
Originally posted by Sammi
I agree.
seconded.

my husband is opposed to being pegged… as much as i'd love to do it, it's not his thing. I don't even bring it up to him. If one day he brings it up, i'll internally do back flips, but until that day it'll remain a fantasy.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Dusk Dusk
I think it definitely depends on the couple. If one partner loved receiving anal and the other doesn't, then that would be a good arrangement for them. If one partner doesn't want to receive anal because they have misconceptions about it, though, I think they should try it out so they can understand not only where their partner is coming from, but how they can support their partner in wanting it.
07/30/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
Yeah, they definitely shouldn't HAVE to let a girl do it back to him. I would love to do that to my hubby, but he just doesn't like it, so I can't.
07/30/2010
Contributor: twistedheartsx twistedheartsx
I think it's just a personal choice. We women do have a choice to let them do anal on us as they should have a choice as well.
07/30/2010
Contributor: removedacnt removedacnt
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
Well put Mistress Kay!
07/30/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
Absolutely agree
07/30/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
It doesn't really matter its the girls choice wither she wants anal or not. I do think that it would be funny to be like if ur gonna fuck me anally then im going to do u too. would love to see what guys would think of that.
07/30/2010
Contributor: Jenn (aka kissmykitty) Jenn (aka kissmykitty)
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
I say yes -- if the man is comfortable with it. It isn't fair to expect someone to do something simply because you did it. Comfort and trust is very important.

My husband's response:
"Honestly, yes. Receiving anal does not make you gay!"
07/30/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
Absolutely agree. In our relationship, My Man is much more Dom. I love anal with him as the Penetrator, but have never even thought about pegging him. I know people love it, and more power to them, but it isn't what is right for our relationship.

We do what is right, fun and satisfying for us.

There is not "should." Couples only "should" do what both of them want to. It never works out when one member of the couple thinks thing "should be" 50/50. There are too many variables in relationships to even try that.
07/30/2010
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
Could not agree more.
The wife does not want me to even touch her bum hole but I love her and respect her wishes. If not I would get none.
07/31/2010
Contributor: PonyPlay PonyPlay
I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems that some guys don't seem to care what the girl wants and I think most of the guys that have this mindset would never allow a girl to peg them.
07/31/2010
Contributor: PonyPlay PonyPlay
Quote:
Originally posted by Sir
I agree with this.

In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ... more
As far as my experience they are relatively the same. Me and my man will always ask permission to do it, but I guess I feel like pegging and anal are pretty close in my opinion. I could see guys being more defensive about it because pegging is not considered appropriate in our society and anal is more accepted. I personally think that is wrong and think it should be 50/50 in our society. Actually according to statistic more men have had anal sex then women.
07/31/2010
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
really, yeah. It depends on the couple. If both people don't want to receive it, then neither one will.
07/31/2010
Contributor: SexyySarah SexyySarah
I think if really depends on the couple, but we are up for anything.
07/31/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
I 100% agree
07/31/2010
Contributor: Sir Sir
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
As far as my experience they are relatively the same. Me and my man will always ask permission to do it, but I guess I feel like pegging and anal are pretty close in my opinion. I could see guys being more defensive about it because pegging is not ... more
I do not mean anal play. No, I feel that if both partners are comfortable with anal play of the both of them, then they can go ahead and do that. But pegging is different. Not every woman is into it, nor is every man. Same with anal.

Just because you have a certain experience does not mean that it's the same for everyone else. Some people do not enjoy anal play, really. Others do. Some people love pegging but no anal play. It really depends on a person's preference.
07/31/2010
Contributor: Love Buzz Love Buzz
There certainly shouldn't be ANY shoulds in any form of sexual relationship, so I agree with everyone who's said that.

But at the same time I voted for "I think that if a guy wants anal he should allow his girl to do anal on him back "

For me though it isn't about me getting to do it to my male partner, it's about their willingness to experiment or try new things. I feel that if they would like me to stretch my boundaries they too should be open to, at least in theory expanding theirs.

As long as the guy was open minded and willing to consider it, that would be enough for me. It's not about the actual act for me, rather the equality factor. I'd never ever do it to a guy unless they actually asked me to and wanted it done.
07/31/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... more
Exactly. We do this though. It's more a joke than anything else now, but when we started it was tit for tat so to speak lol.
08/01/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I'm not much into anal, but I figure if I want to do it to him, if he asks in return, I'll say sure and give it a go. None of them have so far. I like DP, when there's two guys involved.. but generally no.
08/01/2010
Contributor: Lustful Dreams Lustful Dreams
If he wants it, he can have it.
08/01/2010
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I do think that a certain amount of fair play comes into play. I would honestly recommend that he be the first. I really think the experience will enlighten him to both the challenges and pleasures. He'll find out that going fast is a bad idea and he'll learn the importance of lubrication.

To me it's a question of mutual exploration and learning. I'm sure there a lot of holes in my thought process - there is no equivalent on the vaginal sex side - but I still think that for anal play the educational opportunity is important.
08/02/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
No one should ever feel that they HAVE to do anything with sex. I agree with Mistress Kay, this is how resentment and distance is created in relationships. No one is ever obligated to perform a sex act; sex requires full consent.

However, I do think that my partner and I pegging has made him a LOT more understanding and compassionate when it comes to my body and all of its issues and sensitivities and such. Overall, I think it's been a really positive experience in that. But he was the one that wanted to start pegging, and I never pressured him to do so.

tl;dr - The individual is the only person that can decide what they should do.
08/04/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
No one should ever feel that they HAVE to do anything with sex. I agree with Mistress Kay, this is how resentment and distance is created in relationships. No one is ever obligated to perform a sex act; sex requires full consent.

However, I do think that my partner and I pegging has made him a LOT more understanding and compassionate when it comes to my body and all of its issues and sensitivities and such. Overall, I think it's been a really positive experience in that. But he was the one that wanted to start pegging, and I never pressured him to do so.

tl;dr - The individual is the only person that can decide what they should do.
08/04/2010
Contributor: Owl Identified Owl Identified
Ugh, how do I keep double-posting? I wish there were a delete button
08/04/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems ... more
Well, their girlfriends have every right to say no, not to say, "Only if you let me do it to you." That's kind of like playing games. As for the girl whose "boyfriend" did it anyway, IMO, that's a form of assault, and although I LOVE anal sex with My Man, would NOT stand for ANY sexual contact that was not consensual.

A guy who doesn't care what the girl wants should become an EX BOYFRIEND as soon as can be. Why would anyone put up with that? There are PLENTY of men out there who want to do things you want to do, and will experiment with you to try new things at both your paces.

There is nothing wrong with "trying" something, in a gentle slow manner, even if you aren't sure you might like it, but being FORCED is assault, pure and simple. I really didn't think I was interested in anal, when we first tried it. We worked up to it, similarly to the way we worked up to PIV sex many years earlier, and I was WRONG, I love it. But, if My Man had just rammed it in, without my consent (which he wouldn't do) it would have been a deal breaker. Maybe even a marriage breaker. We play rough, sometimes very rough, but CONSENT is there. If there was any whiff of actual rape (meaning something he KNEW I didn't want) then there would be problems, and probably lawyers....

But, one of the reasons I married him is that we not only understand each other, but respect each other.

I still don't want to peg him, though.
08/04/2010