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I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems
I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems that some guys don't seem to care what the girl wants and I think most of the guys that have this mindset would never allow a girl to peg them.
Well, their girlfriends have every right to say no, not to say, "Only if you let me do it to you." That's kind of like playing games. As for the girl whose "boyfriend" did it anyway, IMO, that's a form of assault, and although I LOVE anal sex with My Man, would NOT stand for ANY sexual contact that was not consensual.
A guy who doesn't care what the girl wants should become an EX BOYFRIEND as soon as can be. Why would anyone put up with that? There are PLENTY of men out there who want to do things you want to do, and will experiment with you to try new things at both your paces.
There is nothing wrong with "trying" something, in a gentle slow manner, even if you aren't sure you might like it, but being FORCED is assault, pure and simple. I really didn't think I was interested in anal, when we first tried it. We worked up to it, similarly to the way we worked up to PIV sex many years earlier, and I was WRONG, I love it. But, if My Man had just rammed it in, without my consent (which he wouldn't do) it would have been a deal breaker. Maybe even a marriage breaker. We play rough, sometimes very rough, but CONSENT is there. If there was any whiff of actual rape (meaning something he KNEW I didn't want) then there would be problems, and probably lawyers....
But, one of the reasons I married him is that we not only understand each other, but respect each other.
I still don't want to peg him, though.