Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?
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I agree with this.
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate - it will happen of its own accord, when the partners are ready, or not at all.
07/30/2010
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I agree.
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
07/30/2010
I think it definitely depends on the couple. If one partner loved receiving anal and the other doesn't, then that would be a good arrangement for them. If one partner doesn't want to receive anal because they have misconceptions about it, though, I think they should try it out so they can understand not only where their partner is coming from, but how they can support their partner in wanting it.
07/30/2010
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Well put Mistress Kay!
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
07/30/2010
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Absolutely agree
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
07/30/2010
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I say yes -- if the man is comfortable with it. It isn't fair to expect someone to do something simply because you did it. Comfort and trust is very important.
Originally posted by
PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
My husband's response:
"Honestly, yes. Receiving anal does not make you gay!"
07/30/2010
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Absolutely agree. In our relationship, My Man is much more Dom. I love anal with him as the Penetrator, but have never even thought about pegging him. I know people love it, and more power to them, but it isn't what is right for our relationship.
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
We do what is right, fun and satisfying for us.
There is not "should." Couples only "should" do what both of them want to. It never works out when one member of the couple thinks thing "should be" 50/50. There are too many variables in relationships to even try that.
07/30/2010
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Could not agree more.
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
The wife does not want me to even touch her bum hole but I love her and respect her wishes. If not I would get none.
07/31/2010
I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems that some guys don't seem to care what the girl wants and I think most of the guys that have this mindset would never allow a girl to peg them.
07/31/2010
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As far as my experience they are relatively the same. Me and my man will always ask permission to do it, but I guess I feel like pegging and anal are pretty close in my opinion. I could see guys being more defensive about it because pegging is not considered appropriate in our society and anal is more accepted. I personally think that is wrong and think it should be 50/50 in our society. Actually according to statistic more men have had anal sex then women.
Originally posted by
Sir
I agree with this.
In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ...
In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ...
I agree with this.
In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate - it will happen of its own accord, when the partners are ready, or not at all.
In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate - it will happen of its own accord, when the partners are ready, or not at all.
07/31/2010
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I 100% agree
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
07/31/2010
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I do not mean anal play. No, I feel that if both partners are comfortable with anal play of the both of them, then they can go ahead and do that. But pegging is different. Not every woman is into it, nor is every man. Same with anal.
Originally posted by
PonyPlay
As far as my experience they are relatively the same. Me and my man will always ask permission to do it, but I guess I feel like pegging and anal are pretty close in my opinion. I could see guys being more defensive about it because pegging is not
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As far as my experience they are relatively the same. Me and my man will always ask permission to do it, but I guess I feel like pegging and anal are pretty close in my opinion. I could see guys being more defensive about it because pegging is not considered appropriate in our society and anal is more accepted. I personally think that is wrong and think it should be 50/50 in our society. Actually according to statistic more men have had anal sex then women.
Just because you have a certain experience does not mean that it's the same for everyone else. Some people do not enjoy anal play, really. Others do. Some people love pegging but no anal play. It really depends on a person's preference.
07/31/2010
There certainly shouldn't be ANY shoulds in any form of sexual relationship, so I agree with everyone who's said that.
But at the same time I voted for "I think that if a guy wants anal he should allow his girl to do anal on him back "
For me though it isn't about me getting to do it to my male partner, it's about their willingness to experiment or try new things. I feel that if they would like me to stretch my boundaries they too should be open to, at least in theory expanding theirs.
As long as the guy was open minded and willing to consider it, that would be enough for me. It's not about the actual act for me, rather the equality factor. I'd never ever do it to a guy unless they actually asked me to and wanted it done.
But at the same time I voted for "I think that if a guy wants anal he should allow his girl to do anal on him back "
For me though it isn't about me getting to do it to my male partner, it's about their willingness to experiment or try new things. I feel that if they would like me to stretch my boundaries they too should be open to, at least in theory expanding theirs.
As long as the guy was open minded and willing to consider it, that would be enough for me. It's not about the actual act for me, rather the equality factor. I'd never ever do it to a guy unless they actually asked me to and wanted it done.
07/31/2010
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Exactly. We do this though. It's more a joke than anything else now, but when we started it was tit for tat so to speak lol.
Originally posted by
Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be
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There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be said with both male or female.
08/01/2010
I do think that a certain amount of fair play comes into play. I would honestly recommend that he be the first. I really think the experience will enlighten him to both the challenges and pleasures. He'll find out that going fast is a bad idea and he'll learn the importance of lubrication.
To me it's a question of mutual exploration and learning. I'm sure there a lot of holes in my thought process - there is no equivalent on the vaginal sex side - but I still think that for anal play the educational opportunity is important.
To me it's a question of mutual exploration and learning. I'm sure there a lot of holes in my thought process - there is no equivalent on the vaginal sex side - but I still think that for anal play the educational opportunity is important.
08/02/2010
No one should ever feel that they HAVE to do anything with sex. I agree with Mistress Kay, this is how resentment and distance is created in relationships. No one is ever obligated to perform a sex act; sex requires full consent.
However, I do think that my partner and I pegging has made him a LOT more understanding and compassionate when it comes to my body and all of its issues and sensitivities and such. Overall, I think it's been a really positive experience in that. But he was the one that wanted to start pegging, and I never pressured him to do so.
tl;dr - The individual is the only person that can decide what they should do.
However, I do think that my partner and I pegging has made him a LOT more understanding and compassionate when it comes to my body and all of its issues and sensitivities and such. Overall, I think it's been a really positive experience in that. But he was the one that wanted to start pegging, and I never pressured him to do so.
tl;dr - The individual is the only person that can decide what they should do.
08/04/2010
No one should ever feel that they HAVE to do anything with sex. I agree with Mistress Kay, this is how resentment and distance is created in relationships. No one is ever obligated to perform a sex act; sex requires full consent.
However, I do think that my partner and I pegging has made him a LOT more understanding and compassionate when it comes to my body and all of its issues and sensitivities and such. Overall, I think it's been a really positive experience in that. But he was the one that wanted to start pegging, and I never pressured him to do so.
tl;dr - The individual is the only person that can decide what they should do.
However, I do think that my partner and I pegging has made him a LOT more understanding and compassionate when it comes to my body and all of its issues and sensitivities and such. Overall, I think it's been a really positive experience in that. But he was the one that wanted to start pegging, and I never pressured him to do so.
tl;dr - The individual is the only person that can decide what they should do.
08/04/2010
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Well, their girlfriends have every right to say no, not to say, "Only if you let me do it to you." That's kind of like playing games. As for the girl whose "boyfriend" did it anyway, IMO, that's a form of assault, and although I LOVE anal sex with My Man, would NOT stand for ANY sexual contact that was not consensual.
Originally posted by
PonyPlay
I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems
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I have had several friends that have complained to me that there guys pressure them into anal. One of my friends boyfriends didn't just did it one time without even telling her he was about too. I guess what I'm getting at is that it seems that some guys don't seem to care what the girl wants and I think most of the guys that have this mindset would never allow a girl to peg them.
A guy who doesn't care what the girl wants should become an EX BOYFRIEND as soon as can be. Why would anyone put up with that? There are PLENTY of men out there who want to do things you want to do, and will experiment with you to try new things at both your paces.
There is nothing wrong with "trying" something, in a gentle slow manner, even if you aren't sure you might like it, but being FORCED is assault, pure and simple. I really didn't think I was interested in anal, when we first tried it. We worked up to it, similarly to the way we worked up to PIV sex many years earlier, and I was WRONG, I love it. But, if My Man had just rammed it in, without my consent (which he wouldn't do) it would have been a deal breaker. Maybe even a marriage breaker. We play rough, sometimes very rough, but CONSENT is there. If there was any whiff of actual rape (meaning something he KNEW I didn't want) then there would be problems, and probably lawyers....
But, one of the reasons I married him is that we not only understand each other, but respect each other.
I still don't want to peg him, though.
08/04/2010