Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?

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Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?

Envy Envy
I don't see why it matters, that's on a person to person choice. Some like to peg or be pegged, but not the other way around.
08/04/2010
Annemarie Annemarie
Slightly unrelated, but this is kind of how I feel regarding oral. If I have to taste some guy's junk, he better have tasted his own junk first.

As for this question, I agree with Mistress Kay. It depends on the relationship, and goes either direction.
08/04/2010
Sera Sera
It depends if both of them want it.
08/05/2010
ScottA ScottA
Interesting - I read it as "should he be willing to consider anal play" for which my answer was yes - if he wants his partner to be open to expanding horizons, then he should also make an attempt to be open to expanding his horizons. Does he have to like it? No. Should she tie him up and make him? NO!
08/05/2010
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ...
Bingo. It would be the same as the guy saying "I'm fine with you pegging me, but in return, you should let me do the same to you." There shouldn't be any obligations when it comes to sex. If a person isn't ok with a certain sex act, it's pretty cruel to say "Well, I let you do that to me all the time; why can't I do it to you?"
08/17/2010
MsTryska MsTryska
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Originally posted by Miss Naughty Kitty
It doesn't really matter its the girls choice wither she wants anal or not. I do think that it would be funny to be like if ur gonna fuck me anally then im going to do u too. would love to see what guys would think of that.
haha - i used to say this to my ex all the time. I do not prefer to get anal. It's just not my thing - and god he used to whine for it all the time. That used to shut the conversation down pretty quick. Now my current boy whines for anal to, but he's catchin' not me. Hee! And he doesn't wanna pitch so it's all good. perfect fit.
08/24/2010
ScottA ScottA
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
Bingo. It would be the same as the guy saying "I'm fine with you pegging me, but in return, you should let me do the same to you." There shouldn't be any obligations when it comes to sex. If a person isn't ok with a certain sex ...
I found the point of contention: the question is is it "only fair for him to let the girl peg him" (emphasis mine). If the question was "should she be able to peg him" or something else like that then definitely you're right. I guess it depends on whether "him to let her" means that 'he should be open to the idea' vs "having it" mean 'she should be able to compel him to'.

Compulsion (even emotional compulsion) NO! I don't bug my wife about penetrating her anally - it's not her thing.
08/26/2010
Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
The man should not "have to" and neither should the female. Depends on the couple and their relationship.
09/26/2010
Intrigued Intrigued
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
Anal play can be enjoyed by both men and women. I think if you're adventurous enough to penetrate your female partner anally, you should be willing to try it yourself.

By experiencing both, each partner learns what to expect and possibly give more pleasure to each other.
10/03/2010
mllebeauty mllebeauty
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Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ...
Absolutely.
10/03/2010
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by Intrigued
Anal play can be enjoyed by both men and women. I think if you're adventurous enough to penetrate your female partner anally, you should be willing to try it yourself.

By experiencing both, each partner learns what to expect and possibly ...
I agree - it's not about should, but both doing it will make both aware of the sensations and subtleties. There's a lot to learn that you'll never figure out if you're only the giver.
10/03/2010
namelesschaos namelesschaos
"willingness to experiment or try new things. I feel that if they would like me to stretch my boundaries they too should be open to, at least in theory expanding theirs"

I agree with this but I don't know how people make the leap from this to saying that if they do x on me they should be willing to let me do x on them. Willingness to experiment is broad trait; anal is a narrow specific act. The first in a relationship is a matter of compatibility; the second is a game of tit-for-tac.

Although you say it not about the actually act, the statement in question is about an actual individual act, to contrast, saying I'm willing to x if your willing to do y or z (or a, b or c), can show just as much willingness to stretch ones boundaries as saying I'm willing to do x.
10/04/2010
Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
"Do anal on?" That's a new phrase.
10/14/2010
Sbear89 Sbear89
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
I think that it should be a mutual thing. I.E. Me and my partner have an agreement, "He can do me in the ass, and if I ever want to do him in the ass I can". But I'm not sure if I will want to do his ass... lol
10/15/2010
Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Sir
I agree with this.

In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ...
exactly. It is not a should or should not. It is a comfort level.
10/16/2010
Shellz31 Shellz31
Personally - I allow anal cause I enjoy it. I dont do it just so he will allow me to do something in return to him.
10/16/2010
Trashley Trashley
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Originally posted by Sir
I agree with this.

In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ...
Well said. My only thing is that guys my age tend to immediately associate pegging with being gay.. Even if they want to, people tend to nut up and shut up about it.
10/16/2010
isisandshiva isisandshiva
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Originally posted by Annemarie
Slightly unrelated, but this is kind of how I feel regarding oral. If I have to taste some guy's junk, he better have tasted his own junk first.

As for this question, I agree with Mistress Kay. It depends on the relationship, and goes ...
I think it's a similar primise, however I think the same sentiments from the first page, with it's all based personal boundries. Personaly, I have no boundries, a list of things I would like a discussion about first, yes, a now way no how, no, but there are lot's of people who do have a no way no how list, and that should be respected without question.
10/16/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by Intrigued
Anal play can be enjoyed by both men and women. I think if you're adventurous enough to penetrate your female partner anally, you should be willing to try it yourself.

By experiencing both, each partner learns what to expect and possibly ...
I have to disagree. It depends on the individual and the relationship dynamic. My Man and I never engage in activities which we are not comfortable with. I also don't WANT to peg him. However, we have anal sex all the time. I like it, he has no interest in being pegged or to have any anal stimulation, and I respect his choices. There was never any pressure for ME to accept anal sex from him, we did it because we wanted to.

I also know couples where the man wants and likes to be pegged and the woman simply doesn't want to be the receiver of anal sex. This works for them, so why should every man who gives anal sex "have to try it"? I don't get why this is so important. From where I sit, the only women who would INSIST on this 50/50 division are those who don't seem to want to try anal sex as a receiver in the first place. In that case, she should just say, "I don't want to do this." Not, "you have to let me do it to you first." (Unless the man wants it, then it's fine. But to REQUIRE it from both people in the couple makes no sense to me.)

I don't see this as something "has to" be 50/50. Anal sex is a very intimate and also scary for some behavior. People should have the right to say "I don't want this." Also, some people simply CAN'T have anal sex. Some people have issues with their rectum, bowel etc that prevent receiving anal sex. That doesn't mean they can't be the giver of anal sex, but some people can't receive it for medical reasons (unlike oral sex, which everybody can do, at least medically, unless you have your jaws wired shut or something.)

I feel really strongly that people should have a right to say they don't want something done to them.

I also can't understand "If you want to do this to me, you have to let me do this to you." HOW could that same dynamic work with say penile-vaginal intercourse? Some things only go one way, and in some relationships, some activities only go one way.

People should feel comfortable enough to be able to say, "This isn't something I want." Without pressure.
10/16/2010
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Sir
I agree with this.

In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ...
This is a good point. Pegging IS very different from organic anal sex. The two are not the same thing. Pegging a man is NOT the same thing as a woman receiving penile/anal sex.

Also, in some relationships (and we've talked about this in other threads) in relationships which recognize the Power Dynamic, often only ONE partner is allowed to be the Penetrator.

That, along with other reasons is why My Man and I (and probably a lot of other couples) simply don't equate pegging and M on F Anal sex.
10/16/2010
mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
you cant force your partner to do something they dont wanna do. if you both like anal than sweet. even trade!
10/16/2010
shankinbro shankinbro
Yeap, definitely. I would never ask my girlfriend to try something that I wasn't also up for trying. (granted we share the orifice of course)
10/16/2010
Liz2 Liz2
I don't think anything sexual should be a matter of obligation. Communication is the key, we all have different needs and hopefully some common ground can be found and if not, move on...
10/19/2010
Naughty Student Naughty Student
It would be awesome to peg my guy but its not nessecary. We do engage in anal but my guy only does it bcs I like it, otherwise he wouldnt do it.
10/20/2010
missyross missyross
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Originally posted by Alicia
I 100% agree
Me too.....100%
11/11/2010
Ropeguy Ropeguy
It is kind of a turnabout is fair play kind of deal. If you at least talk to him about doing some light anal play on him first i think it would be an enlightening experience about what it feels like to be penetrated anally- even with a finger. If he finds that he is genuinely not into that at all by all means don't do it or go any further.
With my girlfriend she is entirely not into anal penetration and I respect that. Even though I am I don't ever expect me to do anal on her just because she gets to peg me.
11/23/2010
sunnie sunnie
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
turnabout is fair play...
11/23/2010
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Ropeguy
It is kind of a turnabout is fair play kind of deal. If you at least talk to him about doing some light anal play on him first i think it would be an enlightening experience about what it feels like to be penetrated anally- even with a finger. If he ...
But she's been open enough to consider the possibility.
12/04/2010
Beaners Beaners
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Originally posted by Sir
I agree with this.

In my own opinion, pegging is very different from anal sex. That requires a lot more comfort of the partners. Sure, anal sex requires comfort as well, but in a different way. Neither should or should not have to reciprocate ...
Another agreed. Heck, my boyfriend and I are backwards from what's being asked here. I peg him, but we're only very slowly working on anything with my own butt.
12/20/2010
rdytogo rdytogo
Fair is fair and if you want to do it, you shouldn't have any problem doing it as well.
12/21/2010
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