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Fair is fair and if you want to do it, you shouldn't have any problem doing it as well.
I don't think "fair" has anything to do with it. Some people enjoy having anal play performed on them, others don't. In many relationships, (I feel like I have said this 100 times) the Power Dynamic only allows one member to be the penetrator.
This is how many relationships are. They are based on Power Play, not on an outsider's view of "fairness."
Also, anal is NOT like oral sex in terms of "what is good for the goose is good for the gander." It is very different
to have penile/anal sex than to be pegged with an object. One does not
equate to the other.
I have yet, in all my years on Earth, seen a single relationship that is "100% fair and 50/50" That isn't what relationships are all about. They are usually about each fulfilling a role and fulfilling the others needs as well as one's own. And one person's needs may not be an others'.
My Man and I have anal sex frequently, but I have never
pegged him, played with his asshole, nothing. It has nothing to do with "fair" and everything to do with the dynamic that works itself out in a good relationship.
If the man wants to be pegged, more power to him. But, to say he "has to so it's fair" is ridiculous. A hetero couple can't "equate" either the woman, nor the man's role in PIV sex with any other act, either, does that make it "not fair?"
I just don't get this type of thinking. If anyone has been in a long term relationship, the idea of what is "fair" to those members of the relationship is not what it may seem looking in from the outside.