Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?

Lucidity Lucidity
I agree with everyone else. I love having anal sex, if my bf wanted me to peg him, we could talk about it, but he doesn't and that's fine too.
12/21/2010
ToyingCouple ToyingCouple
Strangely enough, my guy wanted this and I had to be talked into it. I think I was afraid of hurting him but now we're old pros!
12/22/2010
The Awesome Penguin The Awesome Penguin
I think some guys just need to open up and try it once and they might be pleasantly surprised!
12/22/2010
RemusHalifax RemusHalifax
My boyfriend and I decided that since he tried anal on me, I would be entitled to do the same to him at some point. It's only fair.
12/22/2010
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
Never thought about this till now..good point! I chose the option: I think that if a guy wants anal he should allow his girl to do anal on him back.
01/04/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by rdytogo
Fair is fair and if you want to do it, you shouldn't have any problem doing it as well.
I don't think "fair" has anything to do with it. Some people enjoy having anal play performed on them, others don't. In many relationships, (I feel like I have said this 100 times) the Power Dynamic only allows one member to be the penetrator.

This is how many relationships are. They are based on Power Play, not on an outsider's view of "fairness."

Also, anal is NOT like oral sex in terms of "what is good for the goose is good for the gander." It is very different to have penile/anal sex than to be pegged with an object. One does not equate to the other.

I have yet, in all my years on Earth, seen a single relationship that is "100% fair and 50/50" That isn't what relationships are all about. They are usually about each fulfilling a role and fulfilling the others needs as well as one's own. And one person's needs may not be an others'.

My Man and I have anal sex frequently, but I have never pegged him, played with his asshole, nothing. It has nothing to do with "fair" and everything to do with the dynamic that works itself out in a good relationship.

If the man wants to be pegged, more power to him. But, to say he "has to so it's fair" is ridiculous. A hetero couple can't "equate" either the woman, nor the man's role in PIV sex with any other act, either, does that make it "not fair?"

I just don't get this type of thinking. If anyone has been in a long term relationship, the idea of what is "fair" to those members of the relationship is not what it may seem looking in from the outside.
01/04/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by P'Gell
I don't think "fair" has anything to do with it. Some people enjoy having anal play performed on them, others don't. In many relationships, (I feel like I have said this 100 times) the Power Dynamic only allows one member to be the ... More
P'Gell - I luv'ya - but this is your 4th rant with essentially the same message. We get that you are the sub and subs don't peg - but others have a different view.

Let go & let them speak their minds as well.
01/04/2011
hornypoet69 hornypoet69
This isn't exactly the same issue, but something similar comes up in the top/bottom dichotomy in gay relationships. While I have never done either, the people who are exclusive tops, or exclusive bottoms don't really make sense to me. It seems like one of the joys of gay sex is that we can experience everything our partner can, so why close yourself off to that? But then I realize things are different for straight couples. And obviously sex shouldn't be about what you are required to do, but rather what you want to do. And if you don't want to do something, then you shouldn't be pressured into it. It might be worth examining why you don't want to do it, to see if maybe there are fears that can be overcome.
01/04/2011
Emma (Girl With Fire) Emma (Girl With Fire)
I disagree with many of you in some respect. I DO think fair has a LOT to do with it. This does not mean that I would expect to peg every guy who I let "What what in my butt" but I am comfortable with anal and do not have any inclination towards pegging.

Essentially I believe that if you would like something of your partner you need to discuss it with them. If somebody requested I try something new, it would go a long way with me if they were as willing to try it as they would like me to be. This doesn't mean it will happen, but I don't think it is fair to expect something of your partner that you would be unwilling to attempt yourself. Oral is a good example. If you wont go down on me, there is no way in hell I am going to do it for you.

Of course some relationships do not revolve around equality in that respect. D/S and M/S relationships in particular.

Pegging and organic anal ARE different, however the premise is the same, something foreign is being stuck into an orifice that is, for the sake of this argument, virginal.
01/04/2011
That Guy That Guy
I'm with Mistress Kay on this one. There's no "should". If the girl doesn't want or enjoy anal, she shouldn't do it. Same goes for guys. Just because one partner enjoys receiving doesn't mean the other will, nor should they feel pressured to.

That said, I think a lot of guys would be willing to make the trade.
01/05/2011
Hallmar82 Hallmar82
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
I think it would be polite to offer, but everyone has their preferences. As long as both people are in agreement with what they want to do or not do, then it's not a problem if it's one sided. Some women don't want anal play in any way, shape, or form (like my wife), but still enjoy the other way around on occasion. So, I don't see why the opposite couldn't be true too.
01/05/2011
ihavenipples ihavenipples
Obviously there are many different opinions. I feel that there should be a willingness to try things out of fairness. If a girl doesn't love anal but lets her guy do it, he should be willing to be pegged in return if she asks. Trust and comfort are major factors. Some men feel like they are less of a man if something goes in their butt. I think if you are comfortable enough to be inside someone else's body you should be comfortable enough to let them put a little something in you for a while.
A penis and vagina are built to go together, but a butt is a butt. If you love to fill other's you should know what it feels like to be filled. It may make you a better lover.
01/06/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
P'Gell - I luv'ya - but this is your 4th rant with essentially the same message. We get that you are the sub and subs don't peg - but others have a different view.

Let go & let them speak their minds as well.
Yeah, I know. But, sometimes people post without reading the entire thread.

It's a Thing with me, not necessarily my message (I had no idea I posted that many times, LOL!) but the posting without reading what other people have already said.

01/06/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
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Originally posted by P'Gell
Yeah, I know. But, sometimes people post without reading the entire thread.

It's a Thing with me, not necessarily my message (I had no idea I posted that many times, LOL!) but the posting without reading what other people have already ... More
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01/06/2011
Doug1956 Doug1956
My gal enjoys anal immensely on occasion, but not all the time. She also enjoys taking me with her Feeldoe once and a while when the mood strikes. Like her I need to be in the right mood and she needs to be patient, but hey what's good for the goose is good for the gander. She really surprised me (and herself) when she realized that she also enjoyed dp...quite frankly I was shocked (happily so...lol). Anyway, it works for us, but may not be for everyone of course. To each his/her own.
01/22/2011
lamira lamira
My partner has had anal with me, only a few times, and it's okay for him. But I do wish I could do anal on him, but he refuses. And I can't force him to do something he's uncomfortable with.
02/05/2011
Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
i think if someone isn't willing to reciprocate the same exact act and at least try it once then you shouldn't give it to them (unless you really want to)... unless they had a really good reason i wouldn't put up with it. Unfortunately many guys probably won't agree with that statement or want to be pegged in exchange for anal
02/06/2011
sweet seduction sweet seduction
I think they should lol
02/06/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I'm on the other side of this- want to peg my man but don't want to receive
02/07/2011
Fuck it. Fuck it.
I do have a 'if you do it to me, I should be able to do it to you' rule. Maybe not jump straight into pegging, but I want to put something in there.
02/18/2011
RonLee RonLee
Way back in the late 70's my GF and I did the "pegging" thing. At the time I didn't quite get that idea of Bi or HeteroFlexible. It just felt good.
02/20/2011
MontereyJak MontereyJak
I think that if a guy wants to do anal on her that he should be open to her turning the tables on him as well. He must also keep in mind that if she has a bad experience with that he might have bad one himself. Take care of your woman and she will do the same for you.
02/21/2011
Istanbull Istanbull
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
If #1 was the case, then anal sex would be suppressed back into the closet again.

Even men who want it most of the time need to be seduced into it because of social barriers around men and their asses. It's still viewed as gay to get a blowjob with a finger in the ass.
02/28/2011
cobiffle cobiffle
It really depends on alot of things but thats something you have to talk about before doing it
03/01/2011
Conrad Conrad
I don't expect my wife to do anything I wouldn't do myself. If it doesn't work on me, it most likely won't work on her.
04/01/2011
tammyandy69 tammyandy69
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Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ... More
You are totally right. If it feels good do it....if it's ment to happen it will.
04/01/2011
indiglo indiglo
I don't think it matters one way or the other. If both parties consent, then there is no such thing as "turn about" because both parties are on board with the sexual act. But, if either party is interested in pegging, you might as well explore it!
04/01/2011
Spilock Spilock
Out of fairness sake, I think the guy should be open to it at least if he practically begs the woman for it. But as stated often in here, should isn't really applicable here.
04/06/2011
fymenfolk fymenfolk
Ha, with me and my wife, it was I who wanted her to try anal before we moved onto pegging. It's reasonable to want a partner to understand the sensations involved with anal play before plowing into you.
04/11/2011
not your average knitter not your average knitter
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Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
thats our bed rule. My partner has never asked to do anal, but I always tell him I am going to get a strap on. So we have the rule, if one person wants to do anal, then the other party gets too also. Only fair.
04/11/2011
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