Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?

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Do you think that if a guy wants to do anal on a girl it's only fair for him to let the girl peg him back?

P'Gell P'Gell
If you are in a hetero relationship, it's useless to try to make things "fair" or "50/50."

As I've said earlier in this thread, there is NO such thing as a 50/50 relationship. Even PIV in a hetero relationship isn't "equal" as it is much different for the man than it does for the woman. How would you make PIV (penis in vagina sex) "fair?" You simply can't because the experience, while thrilling for both members is so different.

I allow anal penetration, why? Because I like it and we wanted to do it. My Man doesn't engage in being penetrated anally. SO? That's his choice. I'm not 15 years old, where I think everything has to be "fair and even." (There is a reason that most 15 year olds aren't allowed to get married, they have no concept of the give and take of a good relationship, only the grammar school idea of "Fair.")

Whatever you and your partner are comfortable with and whatever turns you both on is "fair." The same exact thing doesn't have to be done to both members.

I have to say, girls who say, "You can have my ass ONLY if I can do your ass" probably don't want or need anal penetration in the first place and are using it as a bargaining chip or a tool of humiliation against their man. I'm not fond of that type of behavior. It's juvenile.

If he wants it, that's a different story, but using it to "bargain" bodes an immature relationship.

"Fair" is making sure both members have an orgasm. Not doing the exact same thing as is done to the other.

And, I'm still chuckling while shaking my head at the term "do anal on" as if we were in High School or something. Really.
03/05/2012
lisasharrer lisasharrer
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
no i dont think i would like that
04/07/2012
GONE! GONE!
I think he should at least be open to the idea if his partner is interested, yes. It's not fair to refuse to do what you want your partner to do unless they're perfectly fine with that arrangement.
04/07/2012
SilverMinxxx SilverMinxxx
It just depends on what each person wants.
04/18/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I don't think he has to it he's not comfortable with it.
04/19/2012
comatose-kitty comatose-kitty
Yeah definitely. If you can dish it out, you can take it.
04/21/2012
CindyH CindyH
i think that is fair let him see what it feels like
05/01/2012
bayosgirl bayosgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ...
Agreed 100%. There should be NO obligations when sex is concerned.
05/02/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
I love it when my boyfriend and I have anal, I am perfectly fine with not pegging him... It's a lot of labor
05/06/2012
prettynpink prettynpink
I don't mind anal, but I think that if this rule worked for us, there would be a lot less giving in to his wants when I dont want it
05/08/2012
NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
I don't think sex should be a spiteful act.

If anal sex is something you and your partner both want, try it. However, if one person would like to give and not receive, that should be ok as long as both partners are completely consensual and ok with the entire situation. I like being spanked and my boyfriend doesn't, I never felt I should hit him back. We are beginning anal play with me as the receiver, but I don't feel the need to peg him so it's "fair."
05/09/2012
theavocadopit theavocadopit
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
Agree
05/15/2012
MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
In a happy couple, everyone likes it in the ass. Heheh. Joking, by the way, but sharing is caring.
05/15/2012
sweetpea12 sweetpea12
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
I kind of feel like your right, and he should let you do it to him if he wants to do it to you... But I don't really know
05/16/2012
Makoto Makoto
I think if anyone wanted me to do anal, I wouldn't agree unless they'd agree to let me do it to them. But of course that's a choice any couple has to make themselves.
05/30/2012
libbyv libbyv
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
i voted that the girl should be able to peg her man, although my husband has more interested in being pegged then fucking my ass
11/24/2012
Mrs.Tee Mrs.Tee
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
No i dont think so
11/24/2012
novanilla novanilla
I don't really agree with this. This question implies that women reluctantly let men have anal sex with them when in reality a lot of women like having anal sex and don't care to do it back to their male partner. On EF I've seen a lot of women talk about loving anal sex with their male partners and not necessarily having pegged them. There's no problem with that going one way as long as both partners are truly 100% satisfied with that.
11/24/2012
Danneh Danneh
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
There's no "should" in this case. That's how uncomfortable relationships start. If the person is comfortable with it, then yes, it could be done. But if the person is uncomfortable, there should be no pressure to do it. Same to be ...
This.
11/24/2012
Harpina is gone Harpina is gone
Sure! Sounds completely fair.
11/24/2012
Winifred Winifred
I think it should depend what the guy wants. If the girl gets pleasure from anal and enjoys it but the male doesn't then why should he have to go through it?
11/24/2012
collegecouple collegecouple
No. Relationships aren't about keeping score. It is about open communication and mutual trust. The decision is up to the person catching! I wouldn't want to feel forced and neither should he through petty "only fair" scenarios
11/24/2012
atryonix atryonix
I say that to guys all of the time to keep them out of there
11/24/2012
geliebt geliebt
Partners should do what they're both comfortable with and interested in. It's totally inappropriate to think that one should have to make things "fair" when it comes to sex :\
11/25/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
Quote:
Originally posted by novanilla
I don't really agree with this. This question implies that women reluctantly let men have anal sex with them when in reality a lot of women like having anal sex and don't care to do it back to their male partner. On EF I've seen a lot of ...
This. The only thing I think that should be expected of both partners is to reciprocate pleasure and satisfaction, and to an extent, if you accept oral sex or request it, but refuse to go down on your partner, and your partner really wants it, then you need to get over yourself and go down on your partner or find someone who doesn't want oral sex. If a woman really wants to peg a guy, and her partner refuses, then I could see it being a deal breaker, just like any sexual desire or need that we want to have fulfilled. That's legitimate.

But this isn't what the question is. It seems to imply that women engage in anal sex reluctantly and just to please men, not for their own pleasure, (like novanilla is saying, here). So that means that she should be able to "show him what it's like," the implication being that it's unpleasant and he probably won't enjoy it, or it will have to be rewarded to him after he's been "put through it." That's just not right.

As a woman, I love anal sex. The very first time I did it, I requested it. I had no experience with any anal play at all; I was simply turned on by the idea of it and intrigued over what it might feel like. And I loved it. With my current guy, it took several months before we got to anal, and he never pushed it; I did. I kept asking, "so, when are you going to fuck me in the ass?" And he'd get kind of shy about it, but it was clear that he wanted to do it, but was a little nervous because of lack of experience. And when we did do it, he loved it. Now I'm using beads and plugs, and that too was my idea (well, the beads were his--and what a good idea it was!)

But I have interest in pegging him. Now, if he asked me to do it to him, I'd do it with big, horny grin on my face for him. But that's because he's my partner and I care about him and care about his pleasure. I love doing things with him in the bedroom because it gives him pleasure, which gives me pleasure. That's how sex should work. It shouldn't be a reward for doing something you don't want to do for them, and then in exchange, you get the thing that you want. That's just...not a healthy way to work.
11/25/2012
MrWill MrWill
I voted that he should just because turnabout is fair play.

Then again, I'd offer to be pegged anyway.
12/01/2012
Supervixen Supervixen
Quote:
Originally posted by Supervixen
This. The only thing I think that should be expected of both partners is to reciprocate pleasure and satisfaction, and to an extent, if you accept oral sex or request it, but refuse to go down on your partner, and your partner really wants it, then ...
That should read "no interest in pegging him."
12/01/2012
freesoma freesoma
Quote:
Originally posted by PonyPlay
If a guy want to do anal on a girl do you think he should let her do anal to him?
Of course! Although I am perfectly fine with just having the girl do me, pegging is just so incredibly hot!
12/03/2012
RonLee RonLee
Quote:
Originally posted by freesoma
Of course! Although I am perfectly fine with just having the girl do me, pegging is just so incredibly hot!
I agree!
But then, I quite enjoy being fucked up the ass by my girl.
12/03/2012
Zandrock Zandrock
I do not think so. I think each person should be able to say no. It is important to be able to say that.

I think it is fair to discuss it, ask why he does not want to. Have communication and try to convince him. But if he still says no then that should be his right.

At the same time that means the girl should have the right to say no as well.
12/03/2012
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