What are the easiest positions for a newbie to handle?

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What are the easiest positions for a newbie to handle?

NuMe NuMe
My husband and I have tried anal a few times with no luck. He's quite big and girthy (if that's even a word. lol).

I have been trying a few toys. I have the Jolly Jack which I can handle, sort of, if I'm laying on my back. But I still can't handle him yet.

What positions worked for you when you started out? Are there anything other tips?

Also it seems that the lube causes him to go soft. Any help with that?
05/27/2009
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NuMe NuMe
One more thing. He likes using the Shunga massage oils. Could that work? Or is oil a no no for anal?
05/27/2009
Vincent's Fantasies Vincent's Fantasies
My wife and I found out that the thicker lubes work best for anal. If the lube starts getting him soft, just manually begin to masturbate him with your hands and a whole lot of lube - he'll get hard pretty quick.

We actually found that the easiest position of anal entry was actually doggy from behind. It put the least amount of straqin on my wife's anus as she was ablt to relax better that way (with no anal tightening). Your partner just has to be careful when he enters, not to go to deep right away as the doggy position kinda makes it real easy to go deep.

The last thing is - take is very slow. Hope this helps!
05/27/2009
NuMe NuMe
Quote:
Originally posted by Vincent's Fantasies
My wife and I found out that the thicker lubes work best for anal. If the lube starts getting him soft, just manually begin to masturbate him with your hands and a whole lot of lube - he'll get hard pretty quick.

We actually found that ...
Thanks for your help! Actually doggy style was one of the things we tried and I found that to be the most uncomfortable. Not sure, maybe we should try that again.
05/27/2009
Sammi Sammi
When we were first trying, I found it easiest to be in a missionary-like position. It doesn't seem to allow for as deep of penetration. We used (and still do) lots of lube and progressively larger toys until I was able to handle him fairly comfortably.
05/27/2009
ScottA ScottA
My two favorites are lying on the back, legs up and doggy. I'm not a newbie anymore, but both of those seem to allow you to relax pretty well.
05/27/2009
NuMe NuMe
I don't know why I never thought of missionary or any variation of it. Thanks all!

If anyone else has any other suggestions that would be great.

Also still wondering if massage oil works well as a lube for this.
05/28/2009
Liz2 Liz2
There are many positions but I would suggest that you lie on the bed close to the edge, perpendicular to the floor, raise your legs, holding them up and let your partner penetrate your butt while standing on the floor. Also your ass should be warmed up, the Jolly Jack is good as are a number of butt plugs and dils with wide bases. Also use a vibe or his or your fingers on your clitoris prior to anal penetration. Relax. An orgasm prior to anal sex always helps.
I would forget the massage oil and use a thicker lube such as Maximus(be generous with the lube on your toy, his penis and your butt hole.
Also go slow and direct him on how you feel. Anal sex should not be painful but an area to find new sensation and satisfaction.
And never switch from anal to vaginal but from vaginal to anal is ok.
05/28/2009
Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I've only recently been able to fully enjoy anal sex with my boyfriend. It took quite a bit of prep work! We used a bumpy glass probe that started out small and grew larger to warm me up. Then we slathered on the lube and started inching him in. We've only ever used doggie style for anal. It gives him slightly better aim and I feel like I have more control over how deep he goes.
05/28/2009
ScottA ScottA
Massage oil (or any other sort of oil) doesn't work very well for anal. It's too fluid, so it doesn't stick around where it's needed. Invest in some good quality thicker lube - you'll never regret it.
05/28/2009
NuMe NuMe
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Originally posted by ScottA
Massage oil (or any other sort of oil) doesn't work very well for anal. It's too fluid, so it doesn't stick around where it's needed. Invest in some good quality thicker lube - you'll never regret it.
Thanks for that info. I do have the Maximus lube.
05/28/2009
Domineight Domineight
I usually start off either missionary or a variation of that on my side. I feel that doggy is the worst to start off with since it tends to be deeper. Also, facing your partner they can tell if you're in discomfort by your face before you can even need to say anything.
10/15/2009
pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
My husband and I have tried anal a few times with no luck. He's quite big and girthy (if that's even a word. lol).

I have been trying a few toys. I have the Jolly Jack which I can handle, sort of, if I'm laying on my back. But ...
i think doggie style is best..im on all fours on the bad hubby standing behind me.
12/04/2010
pinkzombie pinkzombie
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Originally posted by pinkzombie
i think doggie style is best..im on all fours on the bad hubby standing behind me.
this way i can scoot forward if it is too much and he is blocked by the bed. he is however very sensitive and nice because he knows it is a process for me
12/04/2010
ScottA ScottA
For a first position I'd recommend something where you're supported by furniture or the bed. That way you don't need to use your muscles to hold yourself up and you can really relax everything. Another positive (at least at the beginning) is that it's hard to get at your genitals (clit or penis)

WHAT???

Yes, I said hard to get at your genitals can be a good thing. Often when people are stimulated they tighten their anus, so at the beginning you shouldn't stimulate yourself. Later on in the session you can move to a different position and throw in some genital stim as well.
12/05/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
Doggie style works best for us. And we warm up by him fingering my ass.
12/05/2010
Kim! Kim!
I found that lying on my stomach works best until I'm warmed up.
12/05/2010
Jammin14580 Jammin14580
Quote:
Originally posted by NuMe
My husband and I have tried anal a few times with no luck. He's quite big and girthy (if that's even a word. lol).

I have been trying a few toys. I have the Jolly Jack which I can handle, sort of, if I'm laying on my back. But ...
Doggy will provide for easiest penetration. Just ease of access, really.
11/30/2011
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