If you have been "ready to go" and then put the breaks on any anal play, what was the reason? What happened to "change your mind" and how did the other person take the news?
Ever been ready to go anal with a lover and then put the breaks right on it at the last minute?
07/08/2011
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My Husband is rather inpatient, and will get excited and try to rush it. He seems to think if I'm relaxed enough for him to easily get his finger in, that he should be able to go straight to the sex.
When he does that, it completely ruins what relaxation and readiness I had.
When he does that, it completely ruins what relaxation and readiness I had.
07/08/2011
nope
07/08/2011
... I wasn't warmed up enough.
07/09/2011
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I second that! lol
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
... I wasn't warmed up enough.
07/09/2011
Yep, just a few weeks ago it happened. Even though he was being really careful warming me up it still hurt enough that I said forget it.
07/09/2011
Sometimes even after feeling prepared I suddenly feel like maybe it isn't the time. For various reasons. I'm not warmed up enough I will still try and I usually eventually relax. But there have been times where it just didn't feel good so moved on to something else.
07/09/2011
Once the green light has been given in our bedroom it is pretty much a go.
06/29/2012
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I have been ready to go a couple times and then changed my mind due to men who are inexperienced. 'Nough said!
Originally posted by
Bignuf
If you have been "ready to go" and then put the breaks on any anal play, what was the reason? What happened to "change your mind" and how did the other person take the news?
08/20/2012
I'm with Lauren I wasn't warmed up enough.
08/27/2012
When my partner and I started getting into anal, we didn't know that warming-up was an absolute MUST. I'd had anal with my exes, but they were average size and I could handle that without warming-up first.
I knew when we started talking about trying anal that my partner was well endowed, but I didn't know that it made any difference... Until we actually tried anal together. Because I was naive (despite having some experience) and he'd never tried anal before, we just kinda rushed into it without proper preparation. Needless to say, it hurt like hell, which put a damper on things. We decided we didn't really want to try it after all.
Thankfully, we learned about warming-up, and that made the experience(s) way more enjoyable.
So, yes, there were a few times where we were all ready to go and suddenly decided not to. Now that we know what we're doing, that never happens.
I knew when we started talking about trying anal that my partner was well endowed, but I didn't know that it made any difference... Until we actually tried anal together. Because I was naive (despite having some experience) and he'd never tried anal before, we just kinda rushed into it without proper preparation. Needless to say, it hurt like hell, which put a damper on things. We decided we didn't really want to try it after all.
Thankfully, we learned about warming-up, and that made the experience(s) way more enjoyable.
So, yes, there were a few times where we were all ready to go and suddenly decided not to. Now that we know what we're doing, that never happens.
08/27/2012
Augustxsins
Sometimes I just really want PIV sex. The warming up part can get me so hot and impatient that I tell him to stick a plug in my ass and just go ahead and fuck me.
08/27/2012
sometimes it just doesn't feel like a good option
04/17/2013
I have been really hesitant to do anal with my current partner. I am not really sure as to why this is. I have engaged in anal sex with prior partners and actually enjoy anal sex so it isn't fear that it will hurt, I think it has to do with his whole attitude about it. Long story short I let him years ago put a finger there and for weeks after he kept laughing and saying "you let me stick me a finger in your ass." I think his whole acting immature about that kinda put me off on the whole idea.
04/30/2013
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i agree
Originally posted by
~LaUr3n~
... I wasn't warmed up enough.
04/30/2013
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Exactly that!! It is so exciting to my man that he is like.. ok.. your wet.. lets go ......
Originally posted by
Misfit Momma
My Husband is rather inpatient, and will get excited and try to rush it. He seems to think if I'm relaxed enough for him to easily get his finger in, that he should be able to go straight to the sex.
When he does that, it completely ruins ... more
When he does that, it completely ruins ... more
My Husband is rather inpatient, and will get excited and try to rush it. He seems to think if I'm relaxed enough for him to easily get his finger in, that he should be able to go straight to the sex.
When he does that, it completely ruins what relaxation and readiness I had. less
When he does that, it completely ruins what relaxation and readiness I had. less
05/02/2013
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