Fingering A Man 101 for someone who's never attempted it

(Blushing....hard) Ok, so this is something I would like to try on Mr.Mans, should he be comfortable enough to let me. We havrn'the really approached the idea of this kind of play, but, I don't want to bring up something that I don't even know how to begin with him.

So, my question to the forum is: Men/Women, what do you normally do for your partners (or what have your partners done for YOU)?

I obviously don't want to be a "chump" in this area and I would at least like to know sort of what to do to make it gooood. One thing that concerns me is my long nails. Is this going to be an issue? I've also heard about finger cots, which I think would make ME more comfortable. Thoughts ??

Thanks, luvs less

(Blushing....hard) Ok, so this is something I would like to try on Mr.Mans, should he be comfortable enough to let me. We havrn'the really approached the idea of this kind of play, but, I don't want to bring up something that I don't even know how to begin with him.

So, my question to the forum is: Men/Women, what do you normally do for your partners (or what have your partners done for YOU)?

I obviously don't want to be a "chump" in this area and I would at least like to know sort of what to do to make it gooood. One thing that concerns me is my long nails. Is this going to be an issue? I've also heard about finger cots, which I think would make ME more comfortable. Thoughts ??

Thanks, luvs less

Being the wind bag I am and a fan of Prostate stimulation. I'm going to answer in several parts.

V, no need to blush. I've learned from the forum there's plenty of couples that enjoy stimulating Mr.'s back door. It is taboo for a many hetero men. However once experienced, come back for more and more.

Yes, fingering is the first stage, then plugs, then P massagers like the Aneros products or the Eden Prostimulator VX1. Then powered devices like the Lelo Billy. If Mr. Mans still enjoys it and wants more, progress to the Fun Factory Drei. When that euphoria/ thrill wears off those then it's time for pegging. To us the latter is the ultimate act of love/commitment between a husband and wife. Brings even soul mates even closer.

Perhaps you can have him read the thread you have started here. I think you will get a few replies.

We will have review on the FF Share out soon. It's one or our faves for the act. less

Fingering is a starting place. If you really want to do it, you may have to have a dedicated trimmed nail. Small sacrifice it you really want to please your man. Of course easy for us men to say. I know women love long nails. At least Ow does.

Enough lube to get it in, not too much or it will give him a yucky feeling. Or try a finger/clot glove with lubricant on it. If he is receptive add more lube to go deeper or to rub the prostate.

Now how to get it in? Either straight up ask him if he is willing to try it. Maybe do some anal play with toys yourself and let him know what u r doing. Then ask if he would like to try it.

Perhaps tell him you heard there are more nerves and sensory ending in the rectum and more and more men are getting into it.

Or while going down on him and getting him really excited, slip your finger in super slowly. Sneak it in like how he sneaks toys into you. More sucking then fingering at this point. If no complains go for it !

One day if he gets into using plugs, give him some oral. The combo is fantastic ! I'm sure others will vouch for this combination. If he enjoys that then use the Njoy Pure Wand on him while giving him oral.

If he's not receptive to P stimulation at this time. No worries. And remember "Rome was not built in a day."

The worse that can happen is he will tell you, "Your're spending too much time on EF !" "Too many crazy ideas !" less

That Wand in a "What if you could only bring one toy " won. Great for G spot and anal stimulation. Will last forever. (unless u stratch it up)

I think playing Doctor is a good way to get into it. Doctor fantasies ! Forgot to put that in Symb's thread ! less

Vnessa, earlier you mentioned your nails. They aren't long are they? If they are, finger cots will be Greatly appreciated. You can also use Latex gloves with cotton balls stuffed into the finger tips if you have long manicured nails and are concerned about them.

As for a movie you can watch to become more informed, you might want to check out Tristan Taorimino's Expert Guide To Anal Pleasure for Men. less

Ha! Nothing like a super sized finger shot geesh, it could have been smaller lol Anywho, that's my nail length .

I will probably do the little finger cots. Just because I think it will make me more comfortable. The movie idea is great. I think I need that! less

Yikes, maybe look into purchasing the Lelo Billy. It's like a finger.

Or use your your big toe. Lol, Maybe one of you will develop or have a hidden foot fetish.

Ok before you try to throw you shoe at me, just joking around. I wouldn't want that nail in me ! I already complain when she scratches me accidentally. less

Yes, I did a review on the Lelo Billy. Still loving it ! And females can use it also. So nothing to lose and everything to gain. You can find it on my page. Don't be fooled by it's slim size. It's great !. Might be perfect for your virgin hubbie. (after your finger introduction of course.)

Have fun ! less