My wife has a very hot looking ass which has always been a major turn on for me. I have been trying to get her interested in spanking each other.(She thinks I have a nice butt, too!) But, I think anal would be so hot to include in the bedroom..She says my cock is too big..(I don't have a monster cock, its about eight inches)She loves alot of tongue contact with her asshole during oral which I love doing to her but besides my tongue and a finger, she doesn't want anything else going up her butt..I am ok with that but I do fantasize about her wanting anal..
Getting My Wife Interested In Anal
I can sympathize - but can't offer much help. Aside from a few crack orgasms and tossing the salad it's been a frustrating endeavor. There are lots of resources out there, I think these two pod-casts may be useful - one is a 'primer' on
- male anal link
- the other female anal link.
Sex with Jaiya is a pretty cool site link
Jaiya has a weekly online radio program link and past shows can be downloaded to your PC or iPod.
I say go for it - like isn't practice for something else!
- male anal link
- the other female anal link.
Sex with Jaiya is a pretty cool site link
Jaiya has a weekly online radio program link and past shows can be downloaded to your PC or iPod.
I say go for it - like isn't practice for something else!
11/01/2009
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For some reason the youtube links don't work - but you can probably Google them.
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
I can sympathize - but can't offer much help. Aside from a few crack orgasms and tossing the salad it's been a frustrating endeavor. There are lots of resources out there, I think these two pod-casts may be useful - one is a 'primer' on
- male ...
- male ...
I can sympathize - but can't offer much help. Aside from a few crack orgasms and tossing the salad it's been a frustrating endeavor. There are lots of resources out there, I think these two pod-casts may be useful - one is a 'primer' on
- male anal link
- the other female anal link.
Sex with Jaiya is a pretty cool site link
Jaiya has a weekly online radio program link and past shows can be downloaded to your PC or iPod.
I say go for it - like isn't practice for something else!
- male anal link
- the other female anal link.
Sex with Jaiya is a pretty cool site link
Jaiya has a weekly online radio program link and past shows can be downloaded to your PC or iPod.
I say go for it - like isn't practice for something else!
11/01/2009
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Thanks for all your advice!! I realize anal isn't a favorite of alot of women but I think it would be hot..Have you ever had it? Just wondered if women really enjoy it or mostly men..
Originally posted by
Gunsmoke
For some reason the youtube links don't work - but you can probably Google them.
11/01/2009
veggieguy: if you want anal you may have to wait a long while. Try getting her a small plug like the Fun Factory Bootie (first ask if she would like one and explain that it's small - maybe have her pick one out with you). Also, get her Tristan Taormino's Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. You can see my review of it on my profile.
11/01/2009
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Sounds like a great idea...that ass of hers does drive me crazy!!..I can wait if I have to..
Originally posted by
Saraid
veggieguy: if you want anal you may have to wait a long while. Try getting her a small plug like the Fun Factory Bootie (first ask if she would like one and explain that it's small - maybe have her pick one out with you). Also, get her Tristan
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veggieguy: if you want anal you may have to wait a long while. Try getting her a small plug like the Fun Factory Bootie (first ask if she would like one and explain that it's small - maybe have her pick one out with you). Also, get her Tristan Taormino's Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women. You can see my review of it on my profile.
11/01/2009
I understand your frustration because I have also been with partners that did not share some of my most passionate sexual interests. It sucks, but it's important to remember that you have to respect your partner's boundaries.
Anal may be something she would be willing to work up to, but it shouldn't be something she feels pressured to do. I felt pressured and as a result seriously injured myself. I'm still paying the price, though slowly recovering, but hasty anal play can be very dangerous and very traumatic. My resentment toward my boyfriend because he urged me to jump in too quickly has also put a strain on our relationship, which is yet another reason to take care with anal penetration.
If this is a person you love, which obviously she is because she's your wife, you should definitely respect her wishes. If she's open to experimenting, you may want to suggest trying a very small butt plug like this to start. The Tantus Little Flirt is super hygenic (made out of 100% silicone) and it's not much bigger than a finger. It's a good way to get someone comfortable with anal stimulation, and you could both use it. If you showed her you were also willing to experiment with anal by yourself she might feel more comfortable, too. Another good toy to start with might be a graduated toy like this.
Whatever you do, please make sure that you are cautious with anal and don't jump into anything too quickly! Working up to things can be a little tedious but it beats the hell out of the painful alternative.
Anal may be something she would be willing to work up to, but it shouldn't be something she feels pressured to do. I felt pressured and as a result seriously injured myself. I'm still paying the price, though slowly recovering, but hasty anal play can be very dangerous and very traumatic. My resentment toward my boyfriend because he urged me to jump in too quickly has also put a strain on our relationship, which is yet another reason to take care with anal penetration.
If this is a person you love, which obviously she is because she's your wife, you should definitely respect her wishes. If she's open to experimenting, you may want to suggest trying a very small butt plug like this to start. The Tantus Little Flirt is super hygenic (made out of 100% silicone) and it's not much bigger than a finger. It's a good way to get someone comfortable with anal stimulation, and you could both use it. If you showed her you were also willing to experiment with anal by yourself she might feel more comfortable, too. Another good toy to start with might be a graduated toy like this.
Whatever you do, please make sure that you are cautious with anal and don't jump into anything too quickly! Working up to things can be a little tedious but it beats the hell out of the painful alternative.
11/01/2009
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Yes, there are some women that love it! But it's not something that you just "slam" in there...
Originally posted by
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Thanks for all your advice!! I realize anal isn't a favorite of alot of women but I think it would be hot..Have you ever had it? Just wondered if women really enjoy it or mostly men..
Position matters, turn on matters, lube matters- one hell of a lot (at least some of the time, some women!)
If you don't get it right, than anal isn't fun at all.
When you do, it's fantastic.
11/01/2009
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You just have to start small and well lubed up. maybe a finger first, a small butt plug for her to wear all day for a few days ect.
Originally posted by
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My wife has a very hot looking ass which has always been a major turn on for me. I have been trying to get her interested in spanking each other.(She thinks I have a nice butt, too!) But, I think anal would be so hot to include in the bedroom..She
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My wife has a very hot looking ass which has always been a major turn on for me. I have been trying to get her interested in spanking each other.(She thinks I have a nice butt, too!) But, I think anal would be so hot to include in the bedroom..She says my cock is too big..(I don't have a monster cock, its about eight inches)She loves alot of tongue contact with her asshole during oral which I love doing to her but besides my tongue and a finger, she doesn't want anything else going up her butt..I am ok with that but I do fantasize about her wanting anal..
12/04/2010
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I agree fully. I am a woman and I do enjoy anal SOMETIMES. The first time I tried it I was pressured into it and it was pretty painful. That guy was nowhere near 8 inches either. Not only did that turn me off of anal for a LONG time it also made me resent my partner for making me feel like I had to do it in the first place.
Originally posted by
Owl Identified
I understand your frustration because I have also been with partners that did not share some of my most passionate sexual interests. It sucks, but it's important to remember that you have to respect your partner's boundaries.
Anal may be ...
Anal may be ...
I understand your frustration because I have also been with partners that did not share some of my most passionate sexual interests. It sucks, but it's important to remember that you have to respect your partner's boundaries.
Anal may be something she would be willing to work up to, but it shouldn't be something she feels pressured to do. I felt pressured and as a result seriously injured myself. I'm still paying the price, though slowly recovering, but hasty anal play can be very dangerous and very traumatic. My resentment toward my boyfriend because he urged me to jump in too quickly has also put a strain on our relationship, which is yet another reason to take care with anal penetration.
If this is a person you love, which obviously she is because she's your wife, you should definitely respect her wishes. If she's open to experimenting, you may want to suggest trying a very small butt plug like this to start. The Tantus Little Flirt is super hygenic (made out of 100% silicone) and it's not much bigger than a finger. It's a good way to get someone comfortable with anal stimulation, and you could both use it. If you showed her you were also willing to experiment with anal by yourself she might feel more comfortable, too. Another good toy to start with might be a graduated toy like this.
Whatever you do, please make sure that you are cautious with anal and don't jump into anything too quickly! Working up to things can be a little tedious but it beats the hell out of the painful alternative.
Anal may be something she would be willing to work up to, but it shouldn't be something she feels pressured to do. I felt pressured and as a result seriously injured myself. I'm still paying the price, though slowly recovering, but hasty anal play can be very dangerous and very traumatic. My resentment toward my boyfriend because he urged me to jump in too quickly has also put a strain on our relationship, which is yet another reason to take care with anal penetration.
If this is a person you love, which obviously she is because she's your wife, you should definitely respect her wishes. If she's open to experimenting, you may want to suggest trying a very small butt plug like this to start. The Tantus Little Flirt is super hygenic (made out of 100% silicone) and it's not much bigger than a finger. It's a good way to get someone comfortable with anal stimulation, and you could both use it. If you showed her you were also willing to experiment with anal by yourself she might feel more comfortable, too. Another good toy to start with might be a graduated toy like this.
Whatever you do, please make sure that you are cautious with anal and don't jump into anything too quickly! Working up to things can be a little tedious but it beats the hell out of the painful alternative.
Another issue for a lot of women is whether or not they will make a mess. You need to take this into consideration. If your wife is not into trying things out to prepare her then you will have to just suck it up and take no for an answer, let her know that you will love her and think she is sexy either way.
Here is a link that might help both of you figure out what to do. link
12/04/2010
While the OP probably has resolved his question (it's been a year), it's a good sign that she likes some anal play. She's probably just worried (like she says) about size. Don't bug her about it, just keep doing what you've been doing. Eventually during play you might be able to add a second finger and explore two-finger sensations, and she might start to realize that it doesn't have to hurt - just make sure that you keep it so anal play doesn't hurt (plenty of lube, go slow, etc.)
Admit to yourself that she might never really want to do it, though, and don't bug her about it too much.
Admit to yourself that she might never really want to do it, though, and don't bug her about it too much.
12/04/2010
I can honestly say this, as a woman and as a woman who has asked MANY male friends (in the name of research) how they feel about women and anal...
Women don`t enjoy anal right away...we are always a little intimidated and scared. Even after the first initial gross out, we are very scared to do it again. I now know from experience that anal can actually be very enjoyable but it takes awhile to get there. It starts with a lick, a finger, and eventually moves up. As sad as it sounds, I never would have tried it if I hadn`t been asked to a million times and broken down eventually and just did it. That being said, I`m glad I took the bait because anal is actually one of my favorite things to do now!
Women don`t enjoy anal right away...we are always a little intimidated and scared. Even after the first initial gross out, we are very scared to do it again. I now know from experience that anal can actually be very enjoyable but it takes awhile to get there. It starts with a lick, a finger, and eventually moves up. As sad as it sounds, I never would have tried it if I hadn`t been asked to a million times and broken down eventually and just did it. That being said, I`m glad I took the bait because anal is actually one of my favorite things to do now!
12/04/2010
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Start small, with small toys or a pinky finger. Use lots of lube!
Originally posted by
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My wife has a very hot looking ass which has always been a major turn on for me. I have been trying to get her interested in spanking each other.(She thinks I have a nice butt, too!) But, I think anal would be so hot to include in the bedroom..She
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My wife has a very hot looking ass which has always been a major turn on for me. I have been trying to get her interested in spanking each other.(She thinks I have a nice butt, too!) But, I think anal would be so hot to include in the bedroom..She says my cock is too big..(I don't have a monster cock, its about eight inches)She loves alot of tongue contact with her asshole during oral which I love doing to her but besides my tongue and a finger, she doesn't want anything else going up her butt..I am ok with that but I do fantasize about her wanting anal..
12/10/2010
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