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Every guy I've ever talked to about anal, who has tried it (giving), have loved it. And they always seem boost that once a girl tries it (receiving), she too will love it as well. Even when I tell him I'm not into that, every guy seems to
Every guy I've ever talked to about anal, who has tried it (giving), have loved it. And they always seem boost that once a girl tries it (receiving), she too will love it as well. Even when I tell him I'm not into that, every guy seems to respond the same way: "You will when I'm done"
How many guys on here think they can get any girl into anal after one go at it?
How many women here are offended by this?
I think it depends on how it is approached. My Man wanted to try it along time ago, (not counting the "OOOOOPS I missed." stuff.) At first I was like, "Um, I don't think so." Then he gradually introduced me to gentle anal stim, petting and eventually anal sex.
The first time, I didn't really dig it, but I think I wasn't ready. We did a few more days (or maybe it was weeks) of gentle petting, stimulation, him just using a finger, then two, really keeping me excited otherwise (using oral sex, during anal stim on the woman can do wonders for her perceptions and sexualization of anal play!) the entire time etc and eventually the next time, we used a lot of lube and it was GREAT!
That was quite a while ago, (OK, about 2 years, but we have been having sex together for more than 20 years, so it's still new to us) and we enjoy it quite a bit.
At first I asked him what he liked about it. He said it really feels totally different than PIV sex, and I KNOW when we watch porn, he stiffens up like crazy when there's an anal scene. I remember, while we were still working on it, realizing this and thinking, "Not only does he really like watching that, it's turning me on, too. We have to work on this and make it work for us." We did just that. I also found that if I have at least one orgasm or more before we start anal sex, it is a lot easier, as I am so relaxed and I will almost always have more while we are doing it.
People tend to think "the woman doesn't have any reason to get excited about anal sex." We don't have a prostate gland, but the anus is rich in nerve endings and the experience, especially, for me, if a dildo is used in the vagina, can be nearly overwhelmingly erotic! I think the "nastiness" factor plays into it, as well. I know that was one draw for me. "We aren't 'supposed' to be doing this. Let's DO IT!" I tend to like breaking rules and staid "moral ideals" and things like that. (And, if done properly, carefully and at first, gently, there is nothing really physically "wrong" with anal sex. A few people have had bad experiences, but often those may be from an overenthusiastic partner, not enough preparation, not enough lube, or really resenting doing it and clenching too much. Of course, anyone who has had serious injury to the anus, to the point of needing surgery, should probably be checked out to make sure it is safe for them.)
I get a really deep emotional and physical attachment to My Man when we have anal sex. It is different than oral sex, different than PIV sex, different than manual sex, it makes me feel like I'm in a altered state (especially if I have had at least one orgasm first, but even if I haven't, it is really an amazing feeling.) The first time we actually succeeded without any discomfort (the first time I wasn't ready, and it was uncomfortable, but not awful) he kept telling me how much he loved me and how fantastic it was, and was I enjoying it, and what I Good Girl I was, and those feelings of sexual love have just carried over to every time we engage in this type of sex, which for us is about every other time we have sexual contact or so.
Not to mention, for a lot of people, woman and men, it just feels GOOD!