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So my boy and I always always use lots of lube when he goes back there, and I'm always quite turned on and already opened up from foreplay before he goes there. But today for about the 4th time in our 10 months of anal play (I'll say maybe
So my boy and I always always use lots of lube when he goes back there, and I'm always quite turned on and already opened up from foreplay before he goes there. But today for about the 4th time in our 10 months of anal play (I'll say maybe about 10% of our anal sessions) I've had a bit of bleeding. Kind of like spotting when on my period. Not incredibly light, but enough to make you go...
Has this ever happened to you? Any ideas why exactly this would be happening? Any potential risks involved?
For the record, as I said, we DO use plenty of lube.
We ARE fluid bonded, and we don't use condoms.
We DO play rough back there sometimes. So I'm sure tearing can occur but... it's still a little unnerving.
The rectum is very soft tissue and can bleed if irritated. More external, it can be from the anal sphincter muscle "tearing" a bit. Problem is, that can lead to an anal fissure...which can really hurt.
When this "bleeding" occurs, have your lover (yes, I know it sounds clinical, not fun), actually LOOK, maybe even with a flashlight and finger (WELL LUBED) to SEE if he can find if the bleeding is "deep or superficial", which will give you some idea.
Ages ago, I discovered that even LOTS and LOTS of lube may NOT get it INSIDE enough, since the sphincter will "rub" it off a finger, or penis. We thus use LUBE SHOOTERS (syringe made to put lube INSIDE for sure, before going anal). Some anal lubes also have a NOZZLE injector. Try using that type system, to make sure you get well lubed INSIDE before penetration by "boy or toy" and you may find, like me, you are FAR more comfortable and bleeding issues stop.
Best of luck. Be safe and enjoy!!!