Have you experienced an anal mishap?

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Have you experienced an anal mishap?

Yoda Yoda
I just stumbled upon the rectal prolapse post and it made an impression on me. I'm concerned. I wonder, how common is anal trauma and injury? By this I mean prolapse, bleeding, fissures, or other.

I'm not asking so that we can make light of the issue or frighten people. Nor do I intend to belittle what people have gone through. But I think there is a dark side to anal sex that some would rather ignore. I'd like to bring people's stories to light and hopefully gain some perspective from them.
12/22/2010
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Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My anal experience is rather limited - but I've found that with adequate warm up and lube that I can handle something up to 2" without damage. But I'm sure that it would be a disaster without the warm up & tons of lube. Luckily I've never been tempted to go too fast - and when doing it with my partner - she's very careful.
12/22/2010
LicentiouslyYours LicentiouslyYours
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
I just stumbled upon the rectal prolapse post and it made an impression on me. I'm concerned. I wonder, how common is anal trauma and injury? By this I mean prolapse, bleeding, fissures, or other.

I'm not asking so that we can make ...
I think if you take precautions, the risk of anal trauma and injury is minimal. And by precautions, I mean TONS OF LUBE.

Seriously tho, it's important to keep in mind that you can cause injury during anal sex and minimizing those risks means you should always use lube and anal sex should never be painful.

I've been having anal sex for 20 years and while I've had some light bleeding on rare occasion, I've suffered no serious injury or permanent ill effects.
12/22/2010
ScottA ScottA
Lots of lube and lots of slow, relaxing foreplay. I imagine most people have done some stupid things (I certainly have), and as a result have had some mild mishaps resulting in soreness or a bit of blood, but if you're careful there should be nothing serious.

My biggest problem has been not stopping to re-lube the toy sometimes. It's feeling so good and.. you get the picture. The toy dries out and there's a little damage to the mucosa (traces of blood for a little bit) and/or soreness. Make sure you take the time to stop and do what needs to be done - and don't skimp on the lube!
12/22/2010
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Early on I had a little blood one time but that was due to not the right kind of lube. When I got my Severin I tried A new lube, Probe Thick and Rich, and found out that it dries up faster than I expected. There was some pain when I went to remove it and a sore butt for a day or two. Like ScottA, I should have stopped and added more lube but I was having so much fun with the wife it slipped my mind. Lesson learned.

Lube, lube and more lube, THAT is the name of the game.
12/22/2010
seaofneptune seaofneptune
I always make sure to use plenty of lube so I haven't had a mishap yet, thankfully.
12/22/2010
Epicurean Epicurean
You want a story, you've got it!

I am trying to close the doors on what has been a 2-year saga involving an anal mishap. Prior to the incident, I really enjoyed anal sex. REALLY enjoyed it. Had it all the time. Never thought twice about potential injury or anything.

A couple of years ago, I was having vaginal intercourse with someone who had a very, very wide penis. Vaginal intercourse was painful, let me put it that way. It was huge. Anyway, we only had sex a few times, but one time he pulled out, missed, and accidentally drove that ginormous penis straight into my asshole. I cried from the pain and couldn't sit for three days.

I didn't know anything about fissures and whatnot though, and figured that when the acute pain stopped, it was basically healed. But from then on, any anal sex I tried was very painful, and I often saw blood during my bowel movements. Finally, during a regular gyno exam, I casually asked her to take a look at it. She said, "Oh my god! It's ulcerated!" and referred me to a specialist. He explained anal fissures to me and gave me a gel that was supposed to relax the sphincter and allow the cut to heal. The gel didn't work, so...earlier this year, I had to have surgery.

They put you under for the surgery, and I had a few weeks' recovery time, but overall it was a pretty quick procedure. I am physically healed, but psychologically somewhat traumatized by the whole experience. I couldn't believe that one mishap caused so many months of misery and expensive medical remedies. I've tried to have anal a few times since then, but freaked out at the slightest bit of pain. I'm hopefully going to try again in the very near future. I really want to put this whole thing behind me and get back to loving anal again!

I do believe that anal, with proper warmup, is very safe and that situations like mine are rare, but freak accidents do happen.
12/25/2010
UnknownGirl UnknownGirl
No, and I hope I never do!
12/25/2010
Yoda Yoda
Quote:
Originally posted by Epicurean
You want a story, you've got it!

I am trying to close the doors on what has been a 2-year saga involving an anal mishap. Prior to the incident, I really enjoyed anal sex. REALLY enjoyed it. Had it all the time. Never thought twice about ...
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I too have had to deal with a fissure on two occasions. Thankfully, they healed, but I continue to be wary about re-injuring myself.

So far, everyone in on this discussion has stressed the importance of adequate lubrication. I echo this advice, but also think that, at times, our eyes are bigger than our asses. People see crazy things in porn and read about them on this site and don't realize that there are grave risks to things like anal fisting and massive insertions. I can't stress enough that, in a addition to proper lubrication, don't be a hero! Exercise good judgment and be good to your bodies. You only have one.
12/27/2010
ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by Yoda
Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about this. I too have had to deal with a fissure on two occasions. Thankfully, they healed, but I continue to be wary about re-injuring myself.

So far, everyone in on this discussion has stressed the importance ...
Yep, plan on taking one or two months to get yourself up to accepting something "penis-sized" and don't rush it. Be especially careful if you've had problems! Make sure you're completely healed - go ahead and wait. Hopefully you can find a doctor who will give you a good time frame to fully heal before trying it again.
12/27/2010
Raizer911 Raizer911
I have never had an injury and hope I never do. Scary.
06/03/2012
abbylover abbylover
no injurys let
06/11/2012
mistressg mistressg
Quote:
Originally posted by Epicurean
You want a story, you've got it!

I am trying to close the doors on what has been a 2-year saga involving an anal mishap. Prior to the incident, I really enjoyed anal sex. REALLY enjoyed it. Had it all the time. Never thought twice about ...
Yikes!
06/11/2012
Falsepast Falsepast
To avoid prolapse I don't go anal everyday. It's like a special treat.
06/11/2012
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