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Hey, obviously there are people out there who enjoy anal play/anal sex. I am not one of those people. My husband, on the other hand, does. He wants to give anal and will actually have cravings for it. I'm wondering how I can keep him pleased
Hey, obviously there are people out there who enjoy anal play/anal sex. I am not one of those people. My husband, on the other hand, does. He wants to give anal and will actually have cravings for it. I'm wondering how I can keep him pleased without being completely uncomfortable myself. Anyone have some suggestions on what we can do?
Thanks for your thoughts!
Wow. This is tough. You are open enough to write this an obviously want to please him enough to write this too. As a lady who loves having anal sex with my husband, I can say that you probably need to figure out what about this you feel uncomfortable with? Your anal and vaginal openings are next door..millimeters apart. They share muscles and nerves (critical information, since anal sex, done right, feels amazing. NEVER should hurt...never, ever), and it is NOT "dirty or nasty" either. In over 35 years of doing this "act" I have never had any "clean" issues to deal with.
If you are open enough, first try giving HIM some anal attention with a WELL manicured and lubed finger. If you see HE likes it, then perhaps YOU will be open to trying some gentle, one finger, play? Also, let him play with you, fingers, penis, from the outside..making sure he understands "no penetration", until YOU build up trust and perhaps a desire to try it. He may be satisfied with "being in the area" enough to fantasize about it. Worth a try.
Overall, you must figure out why you are so uncomfortable with this man who loves you and wants to love every inch of you. That is how I look at it. Every bit of me is HIS and HE treasures every bit of me. Great way to keep us BOTH happy!!!!