I am female and my husband of course is male. He has done anal penetration on me, with his own private parts and a toy and fingers. Because he always got to do things like that to me, one day after much begging, he finally let me put a finger in him. He did not like it though, and has not been open to trying anything at all since then. I'm not sure if he thinks anal play is gay for men, or if he really just honestly didn't enjoy it. I would LOVE to be able to finger him or use toys on him or even a strap on, but I don't think it will ever happen. And yes I have talked to him about it. He knows how I feel and that I want to do things like that, but he just doesn't want me to.
So should I just keep it in my fantasys? Is there anyway to open him up more to anal play? Any suggestions at all?